2. You are detached from others.
When you fail to build any meaningful relationships in life, romantic or otherwise, you start feeling distraught and lonely. It makes you feel isolated even if you are surrounded by others.
According to the 2003 study ‘Gratitude and Happiness: Development of a Measure of Gratitude, and Relationships with Subjective Well Being’ by Watkins, Woodward, Stone & Kolts, relationships are the most important factors for happiness. As the quality of your relationships matters more than the quantity, a lack of intimacy in relationships, rather than a lack of relationships, can make you feel lonely.
3. You’re unable to move on from your past.
When there are unanswered and unresolved issues from your past, certain uncomfortable feelings will linger for a long time. Your inability to make peace with your past will add to your feelings of emptiness and purposelessness.
When a relationship ends, like a loss or a divorce or a breakup, most of us are unable to get closure. Moreover, the failure of an important relationship can leave a huge void in our lives, especially when we believe the relationship was tied to our identity. Now when the relationship is over and the person is gone, we feel lost and don’t know who we are without it.
4. You don’t have any passions to pursue.
“Life is empty and meaningless because life is empty and meaningless.” – Werner Erhard
When you don’t have any dreams in life that you want to follow with determination and achieve, your life can lack meaning and purpose. Your goals, ambitions, and dreams define who you are. Your passion drives you forward in life and the sense of achievement makes you feel fulfilled. Even when you fail, you learn from the experience and try a different approach to move ahead.
But when you lack the dream, you don’t have any drive to move forward. You don’t have any purpose. You don’t have any reason to wake up in the morning and make a difference in your life.
How to fill your inner void
“Moments of suffering are meant to empty us so that we may have the potential to tap into our truest depths.” – Kamand Kojouri
Once you know what exactly is making you feel empty, you can understand how to fight and overcome it. Here are a few suggestions you can follow to get started and live your best life.
1. Practice self-love.
“Love yourself. It is important to stay positive because beauty comes from the inside out.” – Jenn Proske
Your feelings will tell you everything you need to know about how you treat yourself. The first step to getting rid of this emptiness inside starts with loving yourself. Be mindful and aware of your thoughts, emotions, and body. Instead of engaging in self-abandoning behavior, talk to yourself with compassion and kindness like you would with a friend.
Remember, you are your own best friend. So treat yourself accordingly. It means paying attention to what your thoughts and emotions are telling you and taking responsibility for doing what’s necessary.
2. Acknowledge your emotions.
Self-love also means opening up to uncomfortable feelings like loneliness, heartbreak, pain and allowing them to heal simply by letting them pass naturally, instead of holding on to them. Learn to embrace your emotions and yourself. Your feelings are a reflection of you at this moment. The more you pay attention to your feelings and emotions, whether positive or negative, the better you will be able to connect with your authentic self.
So allow yourself to grieve and mourn if you need to as it will help these difficult emotions to pass. Be compassionate with your feelings without judging them.