Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse model covers negative communication patterns in relationships, such as criticism & contempt, defensiveness & stonewalling.
A divorce is hard for everyone. Whatever the reason might have been, it is one of the most emotional and stressful experiences of life. Whether you agreed to it or not, the end of a relationship can completely turn your whole world upside down and make it difficult to find balance in your life. No one gets married expecting it to end someday. Still, over 20% of marriages end within the first 5 years while 48% of marriages fail within 20 years, as per the National Survey of Family Growth.
A divorce can be exceptionally painful, even when the marriage was not good, as it leads to the end of a partnership, promises, commitments dreams and hopes you shared. It can not only disrupt your daily life but can also affect your career, responsibilities and your relationships, with extended family and friends. It also drastically changes your identity and makes your future uncertain. These unsettling feelings and the stress of transition can certainly make you feel anxious and depressed. It can also affect your self confidence and self esteem leading to self-sabotage. You can also have trust issues making it difficult for you to invest in a new romantic relationship.
However, you need to remember that it is possible to cope with the mental and emotional effects of divorce and build a happy, healthy life. By loving yourself, focusing on your emotional needs and staying active and healthy, you can move forward. Identifying and dealing with your emotions is a crucial aspect to building a productive, happy life after divorce.
If you are going through a divorce, this page will help you discover valuable articles, stories, blogs and tips to identify your emotional needs, find strategic ways to meet them and recover from the unsettling pain to build a better, happier future for yourself.