Eight Mental Abuse Tactics to watch out for

Eight Mental Abuse Tactics to watch out for

Watch out for these 8 mental abuse tactics.

If you feel manipulated into doing or saying something, out of character, endure regular insults and rejection, and feel exploited by near and dear ones, you might be a victim of emotional abuse.

Abuse is not just physical. There are many other forms of abuse, such as sexual, financial, emotional, mental, and verbal. While some of the other forms of abuse are obvious, mental abuse can be difficult to spot.

It could start simply with a casual comment about anything: the design of furniture, opinion about a movie, or the car needing maintenance. The remark is taken out of context by the abuser to mean that they are disapproved by the victim in some way. The victim tries to explain that it wasn’t his/her intention, but they are off on a tirade, which ends in the victim feeling helpless as if he/she is losing his/her mind.

An abuse can come dressed in any way. Here are a few of the common abuse tactics, that are widely used. All you have to do is, Memorize these maneuvers, remain silent when they are being used, and end the conversation as soon as possible. This will keep you from being a victim of mental abuse.

Eight Mental Abuse Tactics to watch out for:

1. Rage –

This is an intense, furious anger that comes out of nowhere, usually over nothing. It startles and shocks the victim into compliance or silence.

2. Gaslighting –

Mental abusers lie about the past, making their victims doubt her memory, perception, and sanity. They claim and give evidence of her past wrong behavior further causing doubt. She might even begin to question what she said a minute ago.

3. The Stare 

This is an intense stare with no feeling behind it.  It is designed to scare a victim into submission and is frequently mixed with the silent treatment.

4. Silent Treatment – 

Some abusers punish by ignoring. Then they let their victim “off the hook” by demanding an apology even though he/she isn’t to blame. This is to modify his/her behavior. They also have a history of cutting others out of their life permanently over small things.

5. Projection –

They dump their issues onto their victim as if she were the one doing it. For instance, narcissistic mental abusers may accuse their spouse of lying when they have lied. Or they make her feel guilty when he is really guilty. This creates confusion.

6. Twisting –

When abusers are confronted, they will twist it around to blame their victims for their actions. They will not accept responsibility for their behavior and insist that their victim apologize to them.

7. Manipulation –

A favorite manipulation tactic is for the narcissist to make their victim fear the worst, such as abandonment, infidelity, or rejection. Then they refute it and ask her for something she normally would reply with “No.” This is a control tactic to get him/her to agree to do something he/she wouldn’t.

8. Victim Card –

When all else fails, the narcissist resorts to playing the victim card. This is designed to gain sympathy and further control behavior.

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17 thoughts on “Eight Mental Abuse Tactics to watch out for”

  1. HI Nora, enjoyed article in mental abuse. It appears that you are a young woman with the understanding of mental abuse. I am 71 years old. I will keep it short without a lot of detail. My childhood was very difficult and had no mentoring. I went into the adult world totally unprepared. I have been playing catch up my whole life. I have a wonderful wife that provided me with love, nurturing, compassion, patience and given me room to grow and find potential that I never knew I had. One the biggest things I have discovered was, I learned how to learn. It was like opening a treasure chest full of knowledge. I can not get enough. I am learning to play the guitar, learning to sing, learning watercolor painting, trying to learn to play the piano and learning to write. Also riding a rode bike thirty miles, three times a week. Oh, reading about self awareness. That is best therapy you could ever get. Life is finally great for me.

  2. This perfectly summarizes every single tactic I’ve spent 5 years living in hope will one day stop and finally be appreciated for all the pain those tactics have caused me. Unfortunately this will never occur. We also have a daughter that is the innocent victim in her choices.

  3. You are a full on Narcissist lol. Its been fun reading these…thanks for that. Anyone comment scrolling, theres good info here, its presented poorly. If you just take the lists without the commentary you’ll get more out of it. Author used every psychopathic and narcissistic trait in their opinions…classic

  4. This is scarily true. Have and am going through this. You do start to doubt yourself, yet it’s done so subtly that you and others often never see it clearly.

  5. Emotional abuse is often subtle at first and sneaks up on the victim. They dont even realise they are enduring such treatment until their self esteem hits rock bottom and they become incredibly depressed. Once the cues are pointed out their eyes are opened .

  6. Lost a long time friend from this today, and a man I love very much recently, because I will not tolerate this behavior. I don’t care what state of mind you are in -greiving (my former friend) or having a PTSD episode, hurting others in any form because you want them to hurt is wrong. Both of them could have screamed and yelled and broke things and I’d stand by their side. The second they turn on me, they are done. No fight. No yelling. Simply, ‘thats enough. this is not ok. I’m done here. Have a good life.’

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