If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, then you have probably questioned your sanity. Loving a narcissist can be a miserable experience which will gradually eat away your sense of self-worth. If you are trying hard to keep the relationship and blaming yourself for everything, then you are probably ignore the warning signs of being in love with a narcissist.
Narcissism relationships. Living with a narcissist. Loving a narcissist. Leaving a narcissist.
Overt, covert and malignant narcissists.
Wow! The word narcissist gets bandied about a lot these days!
When I was in an abusive relationship with my ex, I’d never even heard of the term.
It is something more recent and become a popular term. So, I thought it would be worth asking the question:
What is a narcissist?
Are you in a relationship with one?
It’s a broad term.
Some people have narcissistic tendencies or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Others are covertly narcissistic.
As for malignant narcissists, forget it. I’d steer well clear of them!
You’ll NEVER find happiness there!
Here’s a short summary of some signs you are living with or engaging with a narcissist:
1. What the narcissist needs are all that matters
A narcissist is attention-seeking.
Their opinions will always be right and everyone else is wrong.
They are intolerant of other people’s opinions or beliefs. Instead, they’ll minimize, ignore or disparage anyone else’s concerns or opinions. They’ll usually do so with a tone of contempt.
They look down on others because they are right and everybody else is wrong. It’s all about ME, ME, ME.
A narcissist thinks they know better and are superior. In conversation, it’s usually about them.
If you try and bring yourself up or turn the conversation around, they’ll quickly bring the subject back to them. It will be all about them again.
It’s me, me, me and when they want something they want it now. What they want they make sure they get.
They don’t give two hoots how you feel, because they see you as an extension of themselves.
They will walk over the top of you if they have to, to get what they want. They are the most important thing in the world.
2. Rules a narcissist sets for you, never apply to them
They can flirt with whatever girl or guy they want, but if you dare do so you’ve got another thing coming.
Narcissists set rules for you that don’t apply to them. There’s one rule for you, another for them.
Besides, they’ll ignore all rules that get in the way of them doing what they want, when they want.
But, if you dare break any of those rules they’ve set you, usually unwritten ones, they will punish you.
3. Narcissist’s violate boundaries
Narcissist’s don’t respect boundaries.
They test you early on to see what level of bad behavior they will accept. If you accept the blame for their actions, they know they’ve got away with it.
They’ll simply head straight towards the next boundary and try to crash it down.
Other signs of narcissism are:
4. A grandiose sense of self-importance
They exaggerate their talents and achievements.
They think they’re superior to everybody else. Even when their talents and achievements are far less than others.
They have fantasies of unlimited success, power, and brilliance. That love with them is perfect.
Narcissists are unwilling or incapable of seeing anybody else’s point of view. Or another’s opinions.
They can’t identify with the feelings of others and as a result, can be exploitative.
5. They have an inflated sense of ego and need to control others.
Narcissist feed of others. They exploit those they deem to be weaker. To make themselves feel stronger, superior and special.
Although they have a self-inflated sense of entitlement and ego, they can be charming and charismatic.
A narcissist can be persuasive and sweep you off your feet. When they’re interested in you they know how to make you feel special and wanted.
But it’s a lie. It’s not about you at all. It’s about how you make them feel.