Do you think most psychopaths are deranged murders? Do you believe all narcissists are womanizers who seduce young women to abuse them? Most sociopaths, psychopaths and narcissists are normal people, like us and they can belong to any gender. There are certain signs of a sociopath that can help you spot them.
Who are the sociopaths, psychopaths & narcissists in your life?
They can be your family member, your neighbour, your friend or even your coworker. They are toxic people who spread their negativity into others and enjoy watching you suffer. They can make you question your sanity and doubt yourself as they strategically eat away your self-esteem and self-confidence. They are sadistic people who lack empathy and compassion. But they are people who have severe insecurities about themselves and have a poor sense of self. They are weak individuals who prey on others to feel better instead of coping with their own shortcoming and inner demons.
Yes, they can be mass shooters, serial killers, and abusers. But most of the time, they are someone you know or work with. They are normal people with malicious intent and dangerous, yet hidden personalities. They are highly manipulative pathological liars who love to dominate and control your life. They can be your parents, your partner, your colleague, your boss, or even your child. They deliberately use and exploit people for their personal gains and pleasure. They are masters of charm and deception who can abuse you for years without hesitation and then pretend to be the victim themselves.
Usually, sociopaths, psychopaths & narcissists tend to have antisocial personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder which can often make them dangerous. “They slip under our radar because they put so much energy into deceiving us. But most people don’t know what to watch out for and are shocked at how they can be manipulated. Anyone can be a target,” writes lawyer and therapist Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD.
3 Signs of a sociopath
If you are having trouble identifying the charming, heartless and evil people in your life, then here are some warning signs of a sociopath, psychopath and narcissist that you must watch out for:
A. Dominance without hesitation
Toxic people do whatever they want without having any concern about the consequences of their actions or how their behavior may affect others. They do not care about or conform to social norms. They are free from feeling guilt, shame, anxiety or fear which most of us struggle with almost on a daily basis. They lack compassion and conscience which makes them fearless and allows them to be dominant. Although they may be exceptionally charismatic, convincing and outgoing, they thrive on dominance and power.
Even though they may intimidate and discourage you, you need to remember that these people are weak individuals who constantly seek external validation and assurance as they have poor self-identity. “They’re beneath you. These losers deserve to lose – they had it coming all along,” says Ellen Hendriksen, PhD, a clinical psychologist at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. They are master manipulators who are perfect for the role of a dictator, a cult leader or even a CEO.
B. Impulsive and self-centered
Another prominent sign of a sociopathic narcissist is that they are highly impulsive, irresponsible and completely focused on their own selves. They are prone to boredom which can make them both ruthless and reckless. Psychopaths need constant attention and stimulation. So they may criticize you for no reason, insult their coworkers, abuse their partners, get into fights or physically assault someone without provocation or even torture animals for their own sadistic pleasure. Studies reveal that psychopaths are even highly likely to commit sexual murderers. On 2003 study explains “Most of the psychopaths exhibited some degree of sadistic behavior in their homicides”
Ellen explains that if you have a sociopathic personality then you are probably “totally irresponsible. You don’t need to pay people back. You don’t go to work if you don’t feel like it… You’ll walk out of a job, break off relationships, drop out of school – which is for losers anyway – and have sex with many partners, even if you’re in a relationship.”