You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events. – Joel Osteen
Life is full of challenges, obstacles and struggles. But it is also filled with endless opportunities that can make you believe in miracles. There are the days when we experience unbelievable highs, while the very next day we may experience heartbreaking lows. This is the nature of life. Most of the times it is important for us to go through the pain and suffering so that we can become a stronger version of ourselves. Hence, it is important to have the mindset that will get you through this low phase and help you reclaim your life.
But how can you do that? First of all, stop calling yourself ‘broken’. I know how it feels. Trust me, I’ve been there. And no, I am not underestimating your situation or your struggle. I am simply asking you to stop identifying yourself as a victim. You will experience challenges, heartbreak and life-changing circumstances throughout your life. Some of these will be so intense that you will start questioning yourself and your abilities, it will test your willpower and may even ‘break’ you physically, mentally and emotionally. This is exactly when you need to decide whether you wish to become a helpless victim or if you want to fight through the obstacles and take charge of your life to change your future.
Repeat after me…You are NOT broken
Stop trying to ‘fix’ yourself; you’re NOT broken! You are perfectly imperfect and powerful beyond measure. – Steve Maraboli
There are numerous things that can bring our lives to a complete stop like severe illness, losing our jobs, a breakup or divorce, loss of a loved one etc. Experiences like these can adversely affect our psychology and even break our spirit. We can end up feeling isolated, demotivated and lost as our life gyrates downwards. But life is a series of ups and downs. Nothing ever remains the same. Life changes constantly with time. But that doesn’t mean time will heal all your wounds. No, it just won’t. The only thing that will make your life better is your actions. The only thing that will matter is what you decide to do next with your life.
Time doesn’t change us. It’s what we do with that time that changes us. – Dr. Phil
Start by shifting your focus from the negative to the positive. Instead of describing yourself with self-defeating words like broken, realize the fact that you have already faced or facing your biggest challenge and have survived. Granted, you are barely managing yourself, but you are fighting it right now. Understand that you are strong enough and you can get out of this place to reclaim your life.
Restart. Reclaim. Rebuild
Breathe. Tell yourself you got this. And get started. Here are 15 great ways that will help you start rebuilding your life and get things back in order.
15 Ways to Rebuild Your Life, When You Feel Broken Inside
1. Be your true self
No one knows your truth but you. If you’re secure in yourself, no one and no(thing) can touch you. – Brittany Burgunder
Are you true to yourself? Do you actually do what you want to? Think about when you were a kid. Were you afraid of following your heart, exploring new things, learning new lessons? Were you afraid of failing in life? No, you weren’t. In fact, you found your genuine self and spoke your mind unapologetically. But then what happened suddenly that you changed so much? We grew up and we started giving more importance to what others think about us. How we are perceived by our social circles took precedence over being our genuine self. Status happened. Responsibilities happened.
We don’t think about our dreams anymore because we don’t want to let anyone down. We want to live our lives based on their standards of us. This is where you need to take notice and start your transformation. Stop giving a shit. Have you ever noticed that most people get irritated by passionate individuals who are driven by their goals? They are true to who they are and have accepted themselves as they are. This is the very first step to reclaim your life. Don’t be afraid. Understand that you are enough and pursue what actually matters to you.
2. Focus on who you spend your time with
Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them. – W. Clement Stone
Have you ever paid attention to the kind of people you allow in your life? Take a good look at who you are surrounded with. Who you spend most of your time with. Friends, family and even coworkers can have a significant impact on our life and our thoughts and actions. When you are surrounded by the wrong type of crowd, your mentality will get corrupted by their negativity. They will unashamedly minimize your achievement, distract you from your goals and make you doubt yourself by tearing you down. This is why it is important to have friends who are passionate, driven, motivated with whatever they feel is important. You will feed off their positivity and confidence.