13 Things to Remember When Life Gets Rough

Things Remember When Life Gets Rough

We’ve all gone through hard times. And we all get through them. However, some get through them better than others. So what is their secret? Most of it has to do with attitude. Here are few things to remember when life gets rough:

13 Things to Remember When Life Gets Rough
13 Things to Remember When Life Gets Rough

1. What is, is.

Buddha’s famous saying tells us: “It is your resistance to ‘what is’ that causes your suffering.” Think about that for a minute. It means that our suffering only occurs when we resist how things are.

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13 Things to Remember When Life Gets Rough

If you can change something, then take action! Change it! But if you can’t change it, then you have two choices: (1) either accept it and let go of the negativity, or (2) make yourself miserable by obsessing over it.

2. It’s only a problem if you think it’s a problem.

Many times, we are our own worst enemy. Happiness is really dependent on perspective. If you think something is a problem, then your thoughts and emotions will be negative.

But if you think it’s something you can learn from, then suddenly, it’s not a problem anymore.

3. If you want things to change, you need to start with changing yourself.

Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Don’t you know people whose lives are chaotic and stressful? And isn’t that largely because they feel chaotic inside?

Yes, it is. We like to think that changing our circumstances will change us. But we have it backwards—we need to change ourselves first before our circumstances will change.

Read 32 Thought Provoking Questions That are Reflections on the Self

4. There is no such thing as failure—only learning opportunities.

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13 Things to Remember When Life Gets Rough

You should just wipe the word “failure” right out of your vocabulary. All great people who have ever achieved anything have “failed” over and over.

In fact, I think it was Thomas Edison who said something like, “I did not fail at inventing the light bulb, I just first found 99 ways that it didn’t work.” Take your so-called “failures” and learn something from them. Learn how to do it better next time.

5. If you don’t get something you want, it just means something better is coming.

That’s hard to believe sometimes, I know. But it’s true. Usually, when you look back at your life, you will be able to see why it was actually a good thing that something didn’t work out.

Maybe the job you didn’t get would have made you spend more time away from your family, but the job you did get was more flexible. Just have faith that everything happens exactly the way it’s supposed to.

6. Appreciate the present moment.

When life gets rough, remember that this moment will never come again. And there is always something precious about every moment. So don’t let it pass you by! Soon it will just be a memory. Even moments that don’t seem happy can be looked upon as something that you might miss someday.

As the country song by Trace Adkins says, “You’re gonna miss this…you’re gonna want this back. You’re gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast….you may not know this now, but you’re gonna miss this…”

Read How To Find Happiness By Living In The Present Moment

7. Let go of desire.

Most people live with an “attached mind.” What this means is that they attach themselves to a desire, and when they don’t get it, their emotions plummet into negativity.

Instead, try to practice “detached mind.” That means that when you want something, you will still be happy whether you get it or not. Your emotions remain happy or neutral.

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Dr Carol Morgan

Dr. Carol Morgan is a professor, TV personality, speaker, author, coach, hypnotherapist, and the Editor of ABetterMeMagazine.com. Check out her video class that is based on her Lifehack article, "12 Toxic Thoughts You Need to Drop for a Better Life" that got shared 87,000 times (the class is on Udemy). You can find the link to the class on her website at www.drcarolmorgan.com.View Author posts