6 Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome

6 Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome

Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome….

Like many people who’ve endured Narcissistic and emotional abuse, you probably didn’t realize what was happening to you –

until you reached a point of near insanity and began searching desperately for reasons why your fairytale romance took a grievous turn for the worse.

To know more about emotional abuse read How To Know if You are Being Abused

Further, the person you love has made you feel you can’t do anything right. The salvation of the relationship always lies on the distant horizon and is entirely dependent upon your changing something about yourself

– which is impossible to do (in spite of frantic efforts on your part) – because your self-absorbed mate constantly changes the goal posts.

These shady behaviors on your partner’s part are indicators of having a destructive personality disorder. But, there are other very strong signs that your partner may be a Narcissist, which have more to do with how their behavior affects you.

If the following signs describe your life, it’s likely that your partner is a Narcissist, which means your relationship problems are undeniably not your fault.

 6 Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome

1) You almost always feel alone.

Down to the core of your soul. While your partner may be living with you, eating meals at your table, and sleeping beside you in bed, you’ve never felt such stark loneliness. You often find yourself curled in the fetal position, envisioning someone coming to put their arms around you to help relieve your feelings of isolation.

The reason you feel this way is because you’re living with a mirage of the person you love. That person doesn’t exist and, meanwhile, you are being abandoned in every way possible. According to Susan Anderson, author of The Journey from Abandonment to Healing,

Abandonment has its own kind of grief – a powerful grief universal to human beings. The grief can be acute – as when we go through the ending of a relationship, or chronic – as when we feel the impact of earlier losses and disconnection. Abandonment’s wound lies deep and invisible. It tugs and pulls, making it hard to let go, always acting beneath the surface, spilling primal fear into moments of disconnection, disappointment, and loss, generating feelings of insecurity and self-doubt that persist into future relationships. Unresolved abandonment is a primary source of self-sabotage.

If you feel your partner simply “puts up” with you, only coming around to keep you strung along, it’s because you serve a purpose. If communicating with your partner leaves you feeling unheard, unstable, and frustrated, it’s because they don’t care about you, much less what you have to say. A person who loves you would want to spend time with you, know all about you, and ensure that you feel safe and cared for.

2) You don’t feel good enough.

Although you’ve proven successful in your career, have built a solid foundation for yourself, receive compliments regarding your accomplishments (and even your looks), you’ve begun to feel like an imposter. No matter the Kudos you receive from the outside world, your partner doesn’t seem to notice, and worse, mocks you for them.

Watch out for signs that you are dating a person with narcissistic abuse syndrome

Narcissists mock and ridicule for many reasons, including making themselves appear superior. But, the main reason they mock their victim’s triumphs is because they aspire to destroy their victim’s self-esteem. What better way to keep you under their rule than to make you believe that no matter what you accomplish, you’re “still a loser underneath it all”.

Sadly, this works quite effectively in many cases, resulting in victims of this type of abuse becoming so broken and dysfunctional that they lose everything – careers, children, homes, licenses (such as those required to perform as doctors, attorneys, and therapists), bank accounts, and worst of all, their sense of self.

If you’ve noticed yourself feeling overwhelmingly insignificant inside of your relationship and a failure at life in general – which coincides with the time spent with your partner – this is a sign of narcissistic abuse syndrome.

24 thoughts on “6 Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome”

  1. So everyone is just supposed to leave these people behind?? To the point they have no one?? How about an article about how to help them see what they are? Or how to get them help or help them yourself? Im madly in love with someone that i think fits this exactly!! Currently im the only person in his life besides his kids and family and even they keep a distance because i think they know there is something wrong with him. He will even say to me ” thanks for putting up with me” or ” you’re the only one that can put up /handle me” what do i do?? He has flat out asked me if i think he is crazy and i just say no because i think if i showed him something like this he would flip!! 🙁

  2. So everyone is just supposed to leave these people behind?? To the point they have no one?? How about an article about how to help them see what they are? Or how to get them help or help them yourself? Im madly in love with someone that i think fits this exactly!! Currently im the only person in his life besides his kids and family and even they keep a distance because i think they know there is something wrong with him. He will even say to me ” thanks for putting up with me” or ” you’re the only one that can put up /handle me” what do i do?? He has flat out asked me if i think he is crazy and i just say no because i think if i showed him something like this he would flip!! 🙁

  3. This is a very good article and well worth reading. Especially make note of the section regarding “Hurt and Rescue” involving how the narcissist manipulates their victim by using the Silent Treatment. Although this article is about couples, children with narcissistic parents have similar experiences of walking on eggshells and the threat of abandonment. Hope this information helps someone even if it is an unpleasant subject.

  4. This is a very good article and well worth reading. Especially make note of the section regarding “Hurt and Rescue” involving how the narcissist manipulates their victim by using the Silent Treatment. Although this article is about couples, children with narcissistic parents have similar experiences of walking on eggshells and the threat of abandonment. Hope this information helps someone even if it is an unpleasant subject.

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