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The chaos surrounding the Johnny Depp vs Amber Heard trial is heartbreaking and alarming. Can you imagine the effects of someone’s personal life turning into a global media circus? However, the silver lining is that it brings the focus back on the often-ignored question – are men abused by women?

Can Men Be Victims Of Domestic Abuse?
Can Men Be Victims Of Domestic Abuse?

The Depp vs Heard trial

The ongoing $100 million defamation trial between actor Johnny Depp and his ex-wife Amber Heard is getting ugly as new details are popping up every day. Depp decided to sue Heard after she published an op-ed in The Washington Post in 2018 claiming to be a “public figure representing domestic abuse.

Being widely covered in traditional and social media, the defamation case has brought back focus on the harsh reality of domestic violence, along with intimate partner abuse, mutual abuse, and reactive abuse. Both actors have claimed that the other was physically abusive with the other in the relationship. While the trial is yet to reach its conclusion, an audio clip presented in the court allegedly reveals that Depp was the victim of abuse and violence in the relationship.

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Are men abused by women?
Can Men Be Victims Of Domestic Abuse?

From love to abuse 

Depp and Heard have been dating since 2012 and were married in 2015 in a private ceremony. However, Heard filed for divorce in 2016 accusing Depp of physical violence under the influence of substances. They got divorced in 2017 and Heard wrote The Washington Post op-ed in 2018, which brings us to the current Depp vs Heard trial.

Although Johnny Depp has been referred to as an abusive “monster” by Amber Heard’s lawyers, phone recordings released in 2020 reveal Heard claiming to have hit Depp. In the audio clip, Heard has allegedly said “I’m sorry that I didn’t hit you across the face in a proper slap, but I was hitting you, it was not punching you… I did not punch you, I was hitting you.” She continued, “I can’t promise you I won’t get physical again. God, I f***ing sometimes get so mad I lose it.

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Are men abused by women?

Depp recently said Heard was the actual abuser in the relationship and he was the victim as she has once used a vodka bottle to cut off his finger during an argument. However, the most alarming part of the audio clip is when Amber Heard allegedly said “Tell the world, Johnny, tell them  – I, Johnny Depp, a man, I’m a victim, too, of domestic violence, and it’s a fair fight. –  And see how many people believe or side with you.

And this is what I have a problem with – no one believes that men can be abused by women. Whether Depp abused Heard or Heard abused Depp or both abused each other, that is for the court to decide. But the fact remains men can be victims too. It is time we ask ourselves as a society – are men abused by women too? And the answer is a resounding ‘YES’!

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The reality of male domestic violence

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), 30% of women worldwide experience intimate partner violence in their lifetime. But what is the percentage of men abused by women? 

According to The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey 2010, 1 in 4 men are victims of some type of physical violence or abuse by an intimate partner. Here, violence refers to aggressive behaviors like pushing, shoving, slapping, hitting. The survey also observed that 1 in 7 men have experienced “severe physical violence” during their lifetime by an intimate partner. This involves strangling, burning, beating, etc.

Can Men Be Victims Of Domestic Abuse?
Can Men Be Victims Of Domestic Abuse?

One 2014 report from the U.S. Department of Justice reveals that although 76% of domestic violence victims are women, 24% of victims are men abused by women. In fact, 1 in 9 men are victims of serious intimate partner sexual abuse, physical abuse, and stalking. And this can lead to physical injury, mental illness like post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) & anxiety, and the development of sexually transmitted diseases in men.

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Theo Harrison

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