Men Can Be Abused Too

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Men can be abused too: Imagine that your partner has beenย hitting you.ย Yelling at you. Youโ€™ve been married for a few years, youโ€™re both in your 30s, you have a little daughter, andย everything you do seems to be wrong. Youโ€™ve beenย made fun of, mocked, andย belittled by your partner.

But you refuse to give up on themย because you canโ€™t take another failed relationship. You canโ€™t be alone again, and theyโ€™ve got you convinced that all the beatings and scratches and scrapes are your fault. You are the one who angered them and you are the reason why they hit you, over and over again.

You tell your friends and they laugh. No matter how manyย bruises or cutsย you show them, itโ€™s still your fault, so you hide them. You feel trapped, but you donโ€™t feel like you canย escape. Youโ€™re convinced that youโ€™re just locking yourself in.

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Men Can Be Abused Too, And They Need Help Too

But one day, you come across an article online that changes how you think and see the world. Someone else went through what you have. They got the cuts, the bruises, the scratches. You see that there is hope and freedom from these beatings. Theย physical andย emotional painย can go away, there is someone there to help!

So you write down a list of 10 abuse victim hotlines, for people being abused. And you call them one by one.

If you were a man:

6 of those hotlines would refuse to help because of your gender.

3 of those hotlines would refer you to or give you a number to a hotline dealing withย people who abuse and are looking to stop.

1 of those hotlines would help.

Out of those 10, 2ย of those would alsoย laugh at you or say you deserved it.

If you were a woman:

10 of those hotlines would help.

Abuse is very scary, but what seems scarier to you; being abused, reaching out andย getting the help you need, or being abused, reaching out and getting laughed at and turned away over 60% of the time because of who you are?

Only 8% of men who call abuse hotlines find themย โ€˜very helpfulโ€™ and get the assistance they need.

Related: Misandry: How We Rarely Think About This Invisible Hatred of Men

Women can abuse. Men can be abused. Men need equality and help too. Abuse against men is a reality, and it needs to be acknowledged and spoken about. Itโ€™s high time we stop shoving this under the carpet. We need to talk about violence against men and take the right steps to make sure that it doesnโ€™t keep on happening.


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