When you get out of a relationship with a narcissist or a sociopath, everything seems overwhelming, and chaotic, along with you feeling lost and drained. Well, those are just a few feelings that sociopaths and narcissists leave behind.
You will be left with an unending void that nothing will be able to fill. These people totally leave your spirit broken. But when everything starts to make sense again, chances are you will be left with many mental, emotional, and psychological issues, that will take a lot of time to heal.
A lot of these things feel really uncomfortable and trick you into focusing on what you feel externally, all the while ignoring the real pain inside. Mental health issues take a longer time to heal but once you go through the recovery process, you will be able to get back to a normal lifestyle.
Sometimes, simply removing such toxic, and malevolent people from your people is the first step towards having sound mental health.
Here Are 6 Feelings That Sociopaths and Narcissists Leave Behind
After being compared, triangulated, and replaced with other people, it’s completely normal to feel jealous. By default your external focus is to criticize the people you were compared with because this criticism makes you feel better. You will only focus on these people’s negative qualities and circumstances where they were left defeated.
But this, you must remember is a temporary solution to your burn inside. This constant comparison to make yourself feel greater than the other person doesn’t resolve the inner problem, which is a deep sense of rejection and inadequacy.
When you allow yourself to break and soften, you can nurture the parts of yourself that actually need help and healing.
This is one of the most deep-seated and painful feelings that sociopaths and narcissists leave behind. It is well-known among psychologists and psychiatrists how resentment is harmful to you, and how it ends up eating you from the inside. Sociopaths and narcissists are notorious for being manipulative and infuriating; it’s no surprise that their victims end up with a lot of resentment in themselves.
But the biggest pitfall of resentment is that it blocks you from the beauty of attachment and love. It blocks you from seeing positivity in anything; it doesn’t allow you to be optimistic. Resentment actually shields you from your inner hurt by covering it with false energy.
If you are tired of feeling resentful and bitter, then mindfulness and spirituality are effective ways to approach resentment.
Approach your resentment with unconditional love, and work towards soothing yourself with a non-judgmental and kind voice that speaks to you: “This is okay. This is allowed”. Learn to accept the fact that it is alright to have resentful feelings, and loathing someone, when they have broken your trust.
Allow the negative energy that is harboring in you, flow outward. If needed, you can journal it out or just vent it out in front of your close ones. The more you do this, the easier it will become to release your resentment to that loving voice.
A lot of survivors publicly implode during and after their relationships. They rant and rave about their toxic ex-partners, stalk them on social media, try to get even with them, and even become delusional at times, just to remove their toxic partner’s facade. But after a point of time, when you will start feeling a bit better, you will probably chide yourself for reacting immaturely like this.
Self-forgiveness is so important for letting go of the past and allowing you to move forward. These kinds of behaviors are textbook examples of how you behave when you are mentally and emotionally damaged.
When you start to understand this, you can put down the battle axe and turn your attention inward, where it is required.
Psychopaths and narcissists use techniques like gaslighting to make you doubt your version of reality and your own cognitive abilities. Many of them will have you essentially blaming yourself for their cheating and abuse. Long after they have left, their accusations of “you’re crazy” will eat you up from within.