5 Things A Narcissist Says To Make You Feel Crazy

Narcissist Says To Make You Feel Crazy

There are certain things which a Narcissist says to make you feel crazy.

Narcissists will implement every single measure to prove you crazy.

Narcissists are not special looking people. They are like every one of us and that makes it so difficult to initially spot a narcissist and run in the opposite direction, to save oneself. Because you don’t want to destroy yourself. Do you?

Absolutely NO.

Ironically, a narcissist is charming AF, in the beginning, of course!

Once you gradually start to get intimately involved with them, you will desperately find yourself searching for an exit, but unfortunately, there’s no exit to being in a relationship with a narcissist, except for one(will be discussed later in this article). These people are highly intelligent, optimistic, and lack conscience.

Related: The Toxic Attraction Between An Empath And A Narcissist

They’re able to use their charm and manipulative techniques to get what they want from others—whether it be families, friendships, relationships, cults, the workplace, or even politics. They have the capacity to mold themselves in the personalities they want to be, to acquire whatever they want from almost anyone they wish to. This is their unique power and they use it to their fullest advantage.

But that’s the thing about narcissists. They can try to fool you, with all their heart, but in the end, they’re just fooling themselves. ― Ellie Fox

Once they have acquired and used you, for everything they desire from you, you are ready to be taken to the dumping ground. But, wait. Before that, you need to patiently watch their drama and applaud for the efforts they have put to play with your emotions.

Here, are some of the common phrases that narcissists use, in their last try to completely  break you:

1. “Stop overthinking everything.”

Definitely there are people who really DO overthink situations, words, and actions of others. But when a narcissist says this to you, if you retrospect you will realize that you were actually not over-analyzing. Instead, you were factually correct.

They will intentionally engage in activities that piss you off, hurts you and then they will prove you that you are an on-edge paranoid, suspicious person. Take, for example, they will openly display their affection for their ex and when you complain, instead of feeling guilty for their behavior, they will make sure you feel guilty, apologizing on your knees, for your ‘cheap’ behavior of doubting their love for you.

Suprise Suprise! You will finally find them cheating on you with the same person you doubted on.

Related: Signs You’re Arguing With A Psychopath.

Narcissists are masters of manipulation. All of it is to merely protect their wounded ego. They will make you question your intuitive abilities just to prove you wrong. If you protest, they will make sure you feel guilty and lose your self-confidence.

2. “Give up on your melodrama.”

They don’t like drama, yet you find them the center of drama, everywhere they go.  Narcissists have a way of flourishing you with lots of affection, attention, care, and consideration in the courting phase. By doing so they are simply building a platform to get into your good-books.

Narcissists are never consistent with this idealization phase. They will soon begin to find faults in you, start criticizing and blaming you for everything you do. The care and attention you once bestowed upon them will gradually start to irritate them. Everything is fine until you start to mention your concerns regarding them.

Related: Why Narcissistic people love to ruin birthdays and holidays

If you do that, they will display their frustration, and let you know how much they detest drama. You will be blamed for becoming the drama-monger that you are definitely not. All they want then is mental peace.

131 thoughts on “5 Things A Narcissist Says To Make You Feel Crazy”

  1. Avatar of Yrrem

    I am experiencing this kind of problem with my boyfriend right now. It shows that he’s attitude are very similar to this type of narcisstic person. He avoid me to do many things, talking with friends and installing apps that he think I have someone to talk in there. But he does all this things, I committed my self to him but he is still refusing to believe me. What should I do?

  2. Avatar of monika

    Thank you, Jackson. Concise and covers it allpretty much all. That is personal topic to me, too. Took me 3 to 4 years to recover after such relationship. I would also add compulsive lying to the list and not knowing when to stop hurting, a great indicator. A healthy person has boundaries in terms of putting someone at risk, or their wellbeing and they would stop seeing it’s to much for someone. They don’t stop at all. Ruthlessness I would call it. In my case, my ex couldn’t also relate to animals in playful interaction much or have higher feelings about them. I read that as children it is common for them to torture animals. In an adult I also noticed that tho not torturing animals, he liked torturing mentally and pressing senstitive spots, it was bringing satisfaction to him, like probing a wound.
    For anyone needing to have an insight into such mind, I recommend reading a book ‘Confessions of a psychopath. A life spent hidden in plain sight”. It was written by M.E. Thomas, a successful psychopath academic lecturer from USA. She also has a blog to ‘help’ I suppose those who ponder over self-diagnosis and to maybe advise how to at least slightly see the human interaction with eyes of an empath, learn in by heart so to speak and interact with others by applying knowledge rather than feelings, because they are not capable of that. It also helps to understand it is a disease. A nasty one you want to stay away but still disease. Being a classic empath, I felt bad suspecting my ex of being a sociopath but reading the book only confirmed my suspicions that even his family was dismissive about. They chose to say ‘He is just not a good person’ rather than diagnose properly and help for less damage to be spread in people’s lives. He himself was saying numerous times to me that he used to be dangerous or that he wasn’t a good person and I never fully understood until afterwards.

  3. Avatar of Tim S

    i just wonder, how do you become such a person?
    people aren’t born a psychopath.
    why do they want people to feel there crazy?

    1. Avatar of monika

      Thank you, Jackson. Concise and covers it allpretty much all. That is personal topic to me, too. Took me 3 to 4 years to recover after such relationship. I would also add compulsive lying to the list and not knowing when to stop hurting, a great indicator. A healthy person has boundaries in terms of putting someone at risk, or their wellbeing and they would stop seeing it’s to much for someone. They don’t stop at all. Ruthlessness I would call it. In my case, my ex couldn’t also relate to animals in playful interaction much or have higher feelings about them. I read that as children it is common for them to torture animals. In an adult I also noticed that tho not torturing animals, he liked torturing mentally and pressing senstitive spots, it was bringing satisfaction to him, like probing a wound.
      For anyone needing to have an insight into such mind, I recommend reading a book ‘Confessions of a psychopath. A life spent hidden in plain sight”. It was written by M.E. Thomas, a successful psychopath academic lecturer from USA. She also has a blog to ‘help’ I suppose those who ponder over self-diagnosis and to maybe advise how to at least slightly see the human interaction with eyes of an empath, learn in by heart so to speak and interact with others by applying knowledge rather than feelings, because they are not capable of that. It also helps to understand it is a disease. A nasty one you want to stay away but still disease. Being a classic empath, I felt bad suspecting my ex of being a sociopath but reading the book only confirmed my suspicions that even his family was dismissive about. They chose to say ‘He is just not a good person’ rather than diagnose properly and help for less damage to be spread in people’s lives. He himself was saying numerous times to me that he used to be dangerous or that he wasn’t a good person and I never fully understood

  4. Avatar of chou

    Another thing they say is “I never did/said that.” Even if the evidence is right in front of them, they will never admit to it.

  5. Avatar of Scottiesgal

    My youngest son is a narcissist….I haven’t seen him in 4 years because he blames me for everything that has ever gone wrong in his life.
    Why me?
    Good question, and one I ask myself pretty much every day.
    His father also is, or was, a narcissist, but having recently spent time around him, I believe he has mellowed…..I don’t see the narcissistic personality in him anymore. (We divorced in 1994) That gives me hope!
    I desperately want my son back in my life and I also desperately need contact with others who have people like this that they love. I don’t know how to reach him. He rejects everything I do and my heart really won’t take much more of this alienation. I miss him terribly.
    I pray that someone here can give me some guidance and I hope that I can help support those of you who are dealing with similar situations within your family or with people you love.

  6. Avatar of Devin

    Got a chance to say goodbye to my Cluster-B. I’m never slumming again after brainy women, as they’ve invaded every sphere or modern womanhood. Must be at least a 7, and younger, before I try to learn about a person that would be a vampire of will and time again.

    But yeah, she must have been broken up about the way she done the situation, but she was completely dead. She stated with the usual “just wanted to be friends” crao she’s being said since the initial breakdown in our friendship. Since this time, I figured it was either over or we would really understand what happened and get into this, I didn’t hold back for fear of her going NC.

    Basically, she had shame and guilt about the situation, and triggered at the slightest hint of me caring to see her. It’s funny that she said that I reminded her of her sister, who she’d already claimed has done her life the mist damage, being a narcissist. I called her on it, and asked for proof, finding everything she said to the opposite, also saying I called her a bitch, which never happened, as it was her words. I simply said her actions were sociopathic a few days ago.

    It was unproductive to her, because there was really no reason for her to try to save anything. It was productive to me, because I got a chance to have her admit to self sabotage. Her claim is there was too much that had happened for us to even be friends (basically because I didn’t kiss her ass, and attacked any sly “assessments” of me), and this was just to let me beat up on her for being stupid. She needs to constantly play the victim.

    I didn’t just go cold on her, or throw other guys in the situation to complicate things when we were in the afterglow. She’d called them “two other horny” guys the day we were hot, but now they’re friends?

    Essentially, she just owned to destroying the friendship, but kept trying to say that my reactions to how she kept the insane coldness was scary. So it was https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kobayashi_Maru. The only way I would’ve won is to not give a shit about it all, and not care after I got the pics I wanted.

    To be honest, I really thought about doing that, but I could never treat a person that coldly. I was drawn into her triggering, and made the completely loser, for a chick I wouldn’t even look at 5 years ago. She was just in a shared group and seemed smart. She was just obsessed with the material as they’ve been Tweeting about it for a full year and little else. I met her on my first day on Twitter, and ruined my experience. She’s not even a high functioning Cluster-B.

    So yeah, since she had guilt, every part of it had to be bad, especially since confusion and bad came after. Her thing was trying to split the blame. She wanted to make my reactions to her sudden turn the reason for the turn, and I couldn’t let her do that, even to save the friendship. I’m kissing no more asses of Cluster-B’s, because they STAY miserable people after that. I told her she had to get past it, like a mature adult, and find the good in it still, or walk.

    When they self-sabotage, they do it to leverage something against your spirit. It’s best to challenge them to be adults or leave, even if they hate you. I was firm and assertive in my own feelings, and not trying to protect hers anymore, while still being respectful.

    She walked. I feel a lot better now. She’s misery to everything she touches, including her marriage.

    1. Avatar of Devin

      Still a soul sapping experience, for someone to idealize you so heavily in the first meet, say anything to get each other juiced up and horny, then cut anchor at any signs of follow through.

      All Cluster-B’s are like this, in the beginning. Then you get a 2nd honeymoon that is the real relationship. When they get intimate, why trigger and disappear or attack to disappear for space. She wasn’t attractive enough to be trying to do my head in like that, and even with experience, I didn’t really know she was a Cluster-B until that Monday.

      She started trying to actually attack ME, instead of my assertiveness at wanting to see her first of the guys. It’s wasn’t even an attack then, just an assessment about her home situation and she’s been asked before. I didn’t know she feigned offense at my sizing up the competition until 2 days later. There was still drastic change in tone. But yeah, she wanted to attack my ego, because I didn’t get how cold it was getting, and it went downhill.

      Something told me to ignore her so soon after. I was already tired. But yet, this last post was mainly me trying to figure out how to approach the many other Cluster-B’s I’m sure to meet before settling down.

      This whole respect thing I’m new fully questioning. If you know you have a fool that will put out, and then blow everything up from guilt, play the Black/White games and flake/go cold, why take the fallout?

      I used to have empathy, but I’m getting better and finding these tools quicker. Why not use them and be done with it, instead of pretending to care more than I’m increasingly not.

      I don’t want them to hurt, but they give 2 fucks about the opposite, and go out of their way to try to make you jealous. I really don’t have to stay for all of the inevitable, when I got what I wanted.

      Something for all you sufferers of Cluster-B’s to think about. Just because society and you own humanity tries to force you to care, what’s keeping you from playing in the landscape you’re given. Isn’t it better than finding yourself hurt later??

  7. Avatar of Devin

    MO’s of Cluster-B’s:

    1. Chase a higher level of intimacy behind another lovers back (monkey can’t grab new brand without having the other for fallback).

    2. Find that new high.

    3. Realize the new high is created by another person, and thus can be controlled by that person, if situation stays the same.

    4. Devalue the person and high suddenly. They will start indirectly attacking, then full on, if person doesn’t get it enough to respond.

    5. Use any counter attack to call it drama (if it is about the situation and change and not the person) and/or play the victim (if the person attacks back from being attack).

    6. Threatens to leave from the drama they have caused, because of their narcissistic lack of being about to protect the value of other people with empathy and shared sacrifice/care.

    7. If the person relents, cuckold them, so that they’d know how little is meant of them. If they leave, start smearing them immediately of being evil.

    8 Try to replicate with someone else, failing to see it was the person, and not them, that created that high in the first place.

    9. Fail. If the other person had walked away, they will try to reconnect with them (called hoovering). If they took the hurt and then orbited them instead, trying to find closure or a fix; they will feed from the narcissistic fuel and not acknowledge the person.

    I’ve seen it all and been on both sides with orbiting and walking. In all instances, it was a massive mindfuck and power play that hurt both of us in the end. Clusters just don’t have the strength to value people, because they usually can’t value themselves consistently. It’s why they always need causes. They either think too highly or lowly of everyone, including themselves. They don’t understand that people NEED a person to be consistent, because they can’t trust you to be, after treating so many people like disposables

  8. Avatar of Devin

    I know a woman that said all of these things, and just posted this crap about ME!! Lol. We met on Twitter, and was extremely intimate in DM’s. She has other “complications” I won’t get into here. But yeah, I’m a caring dude, and loved the company. I tried to give her space. About a day later, she starts suddenly attacking me because she had other guys the was intimate on Twitter with too, and thought I was trying to “push them out” being arrogant. I said it was a man’s nature to compete to be #1 if he cared about the person. I find this was just an excuse.

    The first night, she loved my competitive spirit, and she said I took her further, faster than any of the other guys. It pumped my head up, because I really valued this person’s brain (she’s NOT that attractive in comparison to many I’ve talked to, but seemingly very intelligent). I’d really overrated her brain, as she was a Narcissist. You strip for someone, when you have before, and then try to power broker and mindfuck the situation by gaslighting, yet you post this crap to your Twitter to gain victim sympathy??!!??

    But she’s constantly railing against religious people. I mean, on Twitter, she has a group that is OBSESSED with it. It should’ve been my 1st sign I was dealing with a cluster-B. I ignored it, because I loved talking to her. But it just got worst. Told her my dad had a stroke and I was going to see him. She didn’t care, just about OUR situation, that she wanted to end because it was too much drama, when I was confused with the push pull guilt behavior. I wasn’t called arrogant in the beginning, and she said my assertiveness was a huge turn on, that got her off faster. Seemed like she had a lot of shame and guilt from doing it so fast, and not actually doing it.

    But I was the scapegoat. She gaslighted and went cold like moving from Texas to Antarctica, after threatening to never want to talk to me again from the drama she caused. I’d just wanted to make plans to see her, one day, in person this year. Who the hell wouldn’t? She said other guys wanted that too, and I was “arrogant” to think I could come before them.

    Then she said that since our situation was so hot and fast, she would never set guys again or be flirty. Wouldn’t you know it, she never stopped. Just said anything to devalue me and make sure I felt like our situation was the outliers…the horrible. I’m here, trying to be understanding.

    Reminded me of a borderline I was engaged with, that did the same thing. She said she’d never online date again, after what happened with us. Made me feel something was wrong with the “system” when she’d used it most of her life. This was when the cunt was in her rebound relationship after cheating on our engagement. I told them the love was transference and shallow, and they will break up as soon as she couldn’t use my pain for the fuel anymore. She claimed to be in love. Shit didn’t last a year. Yeah, saw her on Badoo and OkC while I was trying to pick up the pieces of that 2 yr clusterfuck.

    They’re just locusts man. All the Cluster-B’s have a particular MO, of chasing sustained validation, getting overwhelmed, and dropping the people that care like a hot potato, after making them feel used. The only people for a Cluster-B are Narcissists, because they treat them like the shit they feel like inside. It’s horrible when you care, and they use that against you.

    1. Avatar of Devin

      She calls mutual sexting a “love bomb” to shame me on Twitter, and now my “caprious” behavior is a sign of Narcissism. She pretends she wasn’t the one that came on to me! The projection with these loons. She just got scared I actually had the funds to visit later this year, and started an insane gaslighting campaign (I was going to her country anyway, since it’s near Amsterdam). She got freaked out from THAT and then turned the intimate night into a massive regret clusterfuck. Who sees every part of a women and spends 3 hrs sexting and not want to see the person??

      But yeah, they fall head over heels, feel shame or anxiety as they won’t measure up (the BPD was always like this), and then invites the drama. This drama is meant to make the relationship unsalvageable as they attempt to emotionally exhort yoh into making all kinds of concessions to save the friendship/relationship. It’s also meant to devalue you.

      So you will be confused and slightly upset at their change of “tone”, after being hot and heavily into you. They use that to exhort you even further,until one of you abandons the situation. It would be different if this was a person’s first time with the situation that “triggers” them. No, Cluster-B’s promise to quit and are addicted to drama. They would go right back to what they promised not to do, to make you feel alienated, after they’ve triggered the break from it.

      They will also say that you’re controlling them. I’ve never told her to stop talking to the other guys. She offered, as a measure to say she would stop b/c our situation ended up hurting me. It wasn’t the situation, just how insane she got from guilt or whatever happened that I couldn’t enjoy learning about her from more than the sexting. I wasn’t even taking her time, and was going to take it slower, to keep us moving forward. I just wanted to keep the “meeting in orl” out there as someone to motivate me.

      So yeah, watching them do the smear campaign on you afterwards is the worst. Horrible seeing all the qualities they bragged about, being flipped to say you’re evil and manipulative, when it’s their actions that where.

      Who is extremely intimate with a person, and then says “I don’t trust you” not 2 days later. She says it’s because her sister did her head in, but she keeps blaming me somehow….

  9. Avatar of Nichole

    I am so grateful these articles popped up in my newsfeed.
    I could write a book of the past six months of my life dealing with someone that is EXACTLY the words of this article and others you have posted. Makes me feel SO much better that I am NOT crazy .. an EMPATH , yes..but Crazy NO.
    I knew he was “sick” to an extent but thought it was from Trauma in his life .. however, he was way worse then I could ever imagine. I simply did nothing but try to help and am suffering from the six months of hell dealing with this person in my home. Thank you for amazing articles that spit out EVERY word to a “T”.

  10. Avatar of ren

    But what I want to know is, does a relationship with someone like this ever work out well for anyone? How do u help to get the realistic world into play? We have a child and my goodness its been rough.

    1. Avatar of lozipop

      No. And thats how they trap you. You’re still in help mode. You cant help them. They csnt be helped. They dont even want to be. (No matter how much they might say they do.)

  11. Avatar of Shiba

    GREAT article. Thank you. My ex is exactly as pointed out,every single one. I don’t have to feel unconformable for labelling him as narcissist ,sociopath or psychopath because that’s what HE IS. I don’t have to have sympathy or understanding for what he is because he is causing harm to me. I will not cause any harm to him I just want to forget that he ever existed and forget that part of my life.

  12. Avatar of Scott

    My fianc’ee and i have both been in one of these relationships in the past. A bit like placing your head in the mouth of a crocodile. They never change, simply role play.

  13. Avatar of Amy M Madsen

    I had put up with this from my ex & still have to because we have kids together. It’s very stressful & energy draining to have to deal with it. I try to distance myself from him, but he uses our boys for attention & tries on & off to get back together with me. Anyone have advice for that?

    1. Avatar of Becky Bartholomay

      I hear ya! (Not the trying to get back together, but the rest). I attend Al-Anon weekly, and learn tons about myself that way as well as get support. My girlfriends and mom are rocks who let me talk and vent whenever I need it. Exercise helps immensely for positive attitude and feel-better endorphins. Above all, faith carries me, and possibly most important (at times), I have to extend myself some grace.

    2. Avatar of Becky Bartholomay

      One other thing: I try very hard to adhere to the “No contact” rule, which is hard with kids involved, but worth the effort. I answer only what needs to be answered, which often comes across as rude, but it protects me (and him, ultimately) from extra tension or argument. Got any good ideas for me to use, Amy? Sometimes my “Best work” still fails.

    3. Avatar of Amy M Madsen

      I don’t understand why he keeps trying. He will kiss my butt for 3 weeks, then it’s like his Mr. Hyde personality takes over & he’s mean. I have in no way led him to believe that I would get back together with him either (I have told him several times that I no longer love him). And if I’m not nice to him or at least civil, he takes it out on the boys by not being there for them. It’s really ridiculous. Ok done rant. Lol!

    4. Avatar of Becky Bartholomay

      YEP…sounds familiar. Control is ehat thry desire. Stay the course, give him no contact as often as possible, and know that you’re taking care of yourself and your boys. 🙂 I needed this chat today! Thanks!

    5. Avatar of Becky Bartholomay

      I try very hard to self educate and get better. I don’t want to repeat any of this ever again! Al-Anon, books on co-dependency, my bible, studying narcissism and addiction and depression and mental illness, and and and… 🙂 I always feel better knowing what I am up against and how I can stay away from it!

  14. Avatar of Vancien Laventure

    This was the epitome of my daily life for the past 4 years. Thank goodness it’s finally over. Check out “Psycopath Free” for lots more information. It’s a been a game changer for me!

  15. Avatar of Julie Ji

    I was so glad to see this post first thing this morning. I cannot begin to describe how much I enjoy your page. It is like a breath of fresh air for me. I am around someone who has all of these traits. I am not just attacking this person, but if the shoe fits 😉 I have even spoken to this person who behaves in this manner but to no avail, because you see, they don’t believe they have a problem. Because, in their mind, everyone else is put to blame. They will not take responsibility for their own actions. What keeps me going is my practice/beliefs, I know not to let the behavior of others, destroy my inner peace. I love that quote by the Dalai Lama, because it resonates deep within myself. I love your page! <3

  16. Avatar of Richard White

    this one bugs me, because people who have had bad past experiences can see these traits in someone totally benign if they look for them everywhere (it’s not cool)

  17. Avatar of Brian

    To recognize judgments price is an ultimate lesson in our human lifes.

    Find the one within, that is embraced with complete innocense, and tell me now what you see.

    Furthermore these experiences, calls not for punishment or judgement, but forgiveness to set these parts of the mind yet again free.

    Loving life – completely 🙂

  18. Avatar of Melissa Adams

    I’m confused as to why the title of this article mentions sociopaths and narcissists but the article itself only talks about psycopaths; different disorders. I don’t disagree that abusive relationships should be avoided but the information would seem more credible if you use your terminology correctly.

  19. Avatar of Broken

    ive never in my life been as broken as I am now over this type of person I had to break away from him he changed the person I was I believed his lies they all fell through ?

  20. Avatar of Russell

    I’ve said all of these things. I don’t like drama, sometimes people are too sensitive and I tell them or they over-analyze something and I tell them. I’m not trying to undermine their perceptions or anything. I have empathy and I care about others yet I still say these phrases when they are useful.

  21. Avatar of iLearnedSomethingToday
    iLearnedSomethingToday

    Oh! Every girl I have ever dated was a Psychopath. Suddenly those relationships make sense now. 5/5 perfect descriptions on the nose. It’s really creepy…

    The part that spoke the loudest was “denying it ever took place”. They’d act offended that I was believing “Video evidence” over them, and how it’s a sign that I don’t trust them if I don’t believe their excuse. They would pull out insane Days Of Our Lives excuses too… It was insanity. Cut them out of my life entirely, and blocked them everywhere. 1 year later they manage to reach me with an alternate email. Blocked that one too. So yeah… Number 5 is also very accurate. Don’t date Psychopaths. Don’t give anyone more chances than they deserve. If they cared about you they wouldn’t give you any reasons to doubt them in the first place.

  22. Avatar of Liam Mannion

    Good subject. Very unscientific article that basically includes everyne that doesn’t agree blindly with everything you think. Lack of empathy etc. defines a psychopath.

    1. Avatar of Shiba

      Remain confused,at the end what difference does it makes to you if he/she is socipath or psychopath? The only difference between two is that socipath has a little remorse and psychopath no remorse at all. How that make any difference to you? Both of them will cause harm to you, just socipath might say ooops

  23. Avatar of Erica Windram

    The title of the article uses the word sociopath and then the article uses the word psychopath. They are two different things. The words are not interchangeable. This article definitely describes a sociopath. At least fix your article if you want any credibility. You shouldn’t be writing articles about mental health unless you know what you are talking about.

  24. Avatar of Jenna Wherever

    These are indeed good red flags to watch out for, but be careful about indiscriminately using labels. The word psychopath has no clinical significance. It’s not in the DSM. A psychologist is not going to diagnose anyone as a psychopath (it would probably be narcissist, antisocial or borderline personality disorder). And the word “psychopath” is a loaded term that conjures up visions of serial killers. Avoiding abusive people is important, but it isn’t necessary to espouse bad science and incorrect terms to do so.

  25. Avatar of Rasputin Darmer

    this is a load of tripe. people with their own problems I doubt very much are out to make others think(or feel) they are crazy, that’s itself is crazy talk. likely, these people with any sort of mental problem are barely holding together their own shit, like they really have an agenda to control what others think/feel about themselves?

    That’s too rich for me.

    Also these labels and terms are divisive. if you think about another as such and such, will you ever see them as something other? such labels are very dangerous when one takes them on as absolute truth within their world view.

  26. Avatar of Frank

    Five things scientists say to to Jackson MacKenzie:
    1) do you have a Phd in sociology or psychology (there is no indication from any profile on you that you have any qualification whatsoever to give authoritative commentary on serious mental disorders)?
    2) were the conclusions you made gleaned from a credible study involving a large number of test subjects?
    3) do you think “personal experience” (the only apparent source of knowledge about this subject on your part, and whether those claims are truthful or not, I don’t know) in any way makes you a subject matter expert?
    4) do you realize that anecdotal personal experience is NOT science?
    5) okay, this is for people who read or listen to nonsense like this … find yourself a real (as in “qualified”) mental health practitioner, and stop wasting your money on pop psychology books and lectures and all the rest 🙂

    1. Avatar of Anthony

      i have been in this situation that lasted 7yrs.. when i read the comments my heart goes out to all.. after its over, these word become common..

  27. Avatar of Startellina

    Yes, these issues can be exposed to us through relations with a person who is bearing the label of psychopath, but the experience is blameless. The perspective of your article paints us as victims; and I am just not comfortable with that. “Psychopaths” are just very harsh mirrors. They cannot make us feel anything. They show us a projection of a wound that we line up with in our own vibration. Everything that is showing up in our existence is showing us what is inside of us. Life is a holographic representation of what we think, believe, and feel. If you believe this “psychopath” can make you feel crazy, then that is all it will ever be for you.
    You just made yourself a victim by settling on that view. If you take some more time to consider other points of view… you may find one that works for you, and feels more empowering. The “psychopath” will show you every place you are insecure. At the very least.. the experience makes us very well aware of what we do not want in our lives. Taking the next step includes facing ourselves to see where or why we are attracting experiences that we dont want. What belief might we have that makes us experience this? Its likely something picked up in early childhood. We can change any belief that we identify as ‘no longer serving us’. Given the way humans work, punishment and reward parenting, that was done for most of us reading this… is actually a formula for insecurity and poor coping mechanisms. This is just part of learning/Evolution. When we know better, we do better. We value all of the information we gathered while experiencing each perspective, but we always strive to find a perspective that looks and feels great! We are in control of our own destiny and the mirror of the “psychopath” (which, in my opinion is just a person who locked away their feelings, and has just as much ability to self heal/allow as the rest of us) is a valuable gift in the way of, it provides us a viewing of every single insecurity or limiting belief we adopted in life and is holding us back! Wow. If you can be brave and face it.. the rewards are huge. I believe we can learn to face it, and be free of the heaviness of victimhood. Experiment to Try: add Love instead of fear, anger, or suspicion to Every interaction! It takes a lot of practice but it feels a lot better than letting that same energy stagnate in the hopeless view! I love you all.

    1. Avatar of Windy

      I really appreciate your words! After finally stopping the madness I’m my life, the last thing I want to do is defend my position of NOT being a victim. You pretty much summarized what I’ve been feeling and thinking. Thank you!

  28. Avatar of Jan Williams

    Interesting how many articles on social media about Sociopaths and Narcissists lately. Wonder why? They have always been around, so why now all this talk about these disgusting people?

    1. Avatar of Aissatou Sunjata

      Maybe, a healthier perspective regarding this topic might be to think of it as the better assessment people, who need to know they are in the company of one or more of those who can be labeled one of these types, identify them, beware of them, and getting away from them can commence. I nearly never dissuade people from acquiring information. Suppose they are not able to go somewhere or consult someone with the information being provided? Learning about those who may be a danger in terms of mental health should be encouraged. Those who think sociopaths or psychopaths, or Narcissists think they are those who have a propensity to kill others, or animals. People who are probably in relationships, have parents, siblings, employers or friends and need to know how to spot someone who fits any of these characteristics. Once they know they are responsible then for what they do with the knowledge. Many of these articles, etc. are also guiding in telling someone how to deflect and also how to leave the relationship. Just like those who are living in abusive relationships, another point of view, another realm of objectivity might save someone's life, or confirm their suspicions. When someone's safety is in question, I never complain about the degree of information being provided. These people are not necessarily disgusting, they are people who have some either chemical or environmental reason for using what would be an asset if it were not being used negatively to mentally and more importantly emotionally to torture others.

    2. Avatar of Shiba

      Probably for the same reason why they started talking about paedophiles and priest’s molestations of young boys. It was one of the taboo’s. I’m glad that it is out now and duck is called duck (not a swan)

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