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Silent Treatment in Relationships: How To Know When It Becomes Abusive

When it comes to romantic relationships, and marriage, silence or silent treatment has always had polarising opinions from people. Some say silence is sometimes a good thing, and some say that getting the silent treatment from their partners is one of the most stressful experiences ever. In order to truly understand whether it is right or wrong, it is important for you to understand whether both these terms mean the same thing or not.

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Fights, arguments, and disagreements are a part and parcel of every relationship. Sometimes, when a fight escalates too much or goes horribly south, sometimes the wise thing to do is take a timeout and go silent. Or when your partner is indulging in name-calling, you don’t have to engage with them. In this case, being silent doesn’t mean you are ignoring your partner, it simply means that both of you are trying to gather your thoughts, and attempting to understand the other person’s point of view.

On the other hand, if someone is serving a big cold plate of silent treatment to you, it is not always a good or healthy thing. If silent treatment is being used to mentally, and emotionally abuse, and torture a person, it is a strict no-no. Narcissists tend to employ this tactic in order to get their toxic demands fulfilled, and also use it as their narcissistic supply.

The only time silent treatment is probably acceptable, kind of, is when your partner hurts you too much about something, and you need some space and time away from them to forgive them and heal yourself. But, keep in mind that the silent treatment should not go on for days, or weeks, as this will only disintegrate your relationship further.

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The silent treatment can be a very annoying, and sometimes disturbing thing to deal with. If this is not addressed properly, or handled properly, it will end up doing more harm to your relationship than good. It is vital to dismantle this communication pattern and fall back on healthy communication.

What Are The Behaviors Of The Silent Treatment?

The silent treatment constitutes of the following behaviors:

  1. Lack of acknowledgment of what you have to say.
  2. Refusal to talk to their partner.
  3. Acting as if they don’t hear you.
  4. Screening your text messages, calls, and every other means of communication.
  5. Lack of acknowledgment of your opinions, and feelings.
  6. Completely avoiding you, even in social situations.
  7. Disregarding your efforts to communicate with them.
  8. Ceasing all communication with you for a long time, and then suddenly reappearing and acting as if nothing was ever wrong.
  9. Behave in ways that make you feel invisible, irrelevant, unnecessary, and a burden.

Related: The Silent Treatment Vs. No Contact: What’s The Difference?

Why Do People Turn Towards The Silent Treatment

There are several reasons as to why some people give the silent treatment to their partners, instead of just talking it out. Here are some of the reasons:

  1. To manipulate or control the person, and situation to turn it into their favor.
  2. Punish their partner.
  3. Wreak emotional pain and trauma.
  4. Feeling excessively overwhelmed, and not knowing how to handle the situation.
  5. Unsure about how their partner will react when they give their opinion.
  6. Scared and apprehensive of their partner’s temper.
  7. Expecting the problem to disappear simply by ignoring it.
  8. Attention seeking, as in, their partner is not giving them enough attention, and this is a twisted way of changing that.
  9. Thinking that their partner will not listen to them, so it’s useless talking about it.
  10. Tormenting their partner, by trying to make them go through the same hurt they are.

Here Are 5 Ways You Can Respond To The Silent Treatment

1. Give your partner some space.

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Personal space is very important for a successful relationship, more so when there is a lot of friction happening between you both. When you have a fight, and your partner clearly states that they need some space, avoid trying to understand what they are thinking, or for how long they are going to need space for.

Fights are never pleasant, and everyone has their own way of dealing with their feelings. So you might be the one to constantly talk about it with the hopes that it might smooth things out, but your partner may not be on the same page. Give them some space to cool down, and get back to you with a clear head, and calm demeanor.

Another thing you should always keep in mind is that never ever do their thinking for them, otherwise, they will never be able to express their opinions and feelings honestly to you.

Related: 6 Steps To Disarm The Silent Treatment Without Making it Worse

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Alexandra Hall
Hi there! I am someone who is trying to navigate through life, one day at a time. Writing is my passion and my job, and I am happiest when I am writing. I love reading comic books, watching drama movies, playing with my dogs and generally lazing around. An introvert by nature, you can find me in the farthest corner of the room in every party, playing with the dog and having my own party.
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