This is one of the most common tactics of a psychopathic predator. “You’re the only one who understands me. I’ve never felt this way in my life.” Everyone else has failed them, but you… You are the one. The exception.
This is why I hate Fifty Shades of Grey. Not because of the sex or the kinkiness. But because it perpetuates this bold-faced lie that abusive people can be fixed by the right person. This idea that sociopathic relationships are sexy, when in reality, they will completely destroy every bit of your self-worth.
You cannot fix a sociopath. They do not have a conscience. They cannot grow a conscience. They’re not secretly insecure and tragic. They understand human nature and how to control it. They actively manipulate your own perception so that it becomes a point of pride/vanity to be “the one” who fixes them.
These things may feel good at first, even addictive. And that’s the point. Psychopaths know how to manufacture intense desperation and desire. Like Twilight, which teaches young people that love triangles are hot. But these toxic shortcuts to “love” are not actually love to the abuser. They are ways to ensure power over others.
So this Valentine’s Day, regardless of your sexual fantasies, I’d like to mention some qualities that can be found in any genuine, healthy sort of love:
Find someone who can feel the same things as you, not someone who uses those qualities to exploit you.
Or try stacking things on your cat! My record is six books and an orange.
This article was originally published in forum thread: 50 Shades of Sociopath: Spotting Manipulators, Liars, and Abusers started by Peace View original post in Psychopathfree
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