15 Things Narcissists Don’t Do

Things Narcissists Dont Do

Most of the time, it is easy to discern who is a narcissist and who isn’t. Whenever you come across someone who is unhealthily obsessed about themselves and thinks that the whole world revolves around them, it’s the most prominent sign that you have met a narcissist. But sometimes, you can also recognize narcissists by certain things they don’t do.

The paradox of identifying a narcissist is they will always catch your attention, and somehow on some level, you will definitely sense if a person is one.

Narcissists are known to be very egoistic, suffer from extreme self-importance, fantasize about unlimited power, money, and success, look for special treatment 24×7, have no empathy, are jealous of almost everyone they meet, take advantage of others to fulfill their twisted goals, and are exceptionally conceited.

Now, these qualities might be simpler to notice in a person, but always keep in mind that narcissists are smarter and way eviler than what they show on the surface. They are so devious that they will lure you into their trap with their magnetic charm and smooth-talking, and before you know it, you are trapped with no way out.

So, it’s better to know everything there is to know about a narcissist, and what they do and especially what they don’t do, to keep yourself safe from their machinations.

15 Things Narcissists Don’t Do

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15 Things Narcissists Don’t Do

1. They never show who they really are.

Narcissists are extremely devious and manipulative people, that’s why they will never show their true selves when you initially meet them. They will put their game face on and slowly trick you into thinking that they are the best people you will ever come across.

They will manipulate you into thinking that they are good, pure-hearted, kind, and sweet people who have your best interests at heart. Sadly, you won’t be able to see the real them until it’s too late and you are completely seduced by their lies and charm.

Related: 6 Lies Narcissistic Parents Make Their Children Believe

2. They never make their partners feel secure.

A narcissist will always keep you hanging, and will never let you live in peace. You will always be wondering what they are up to and what their real intentions are. Narcissists will always make you feel insecure, and if you call them out on it, they will gaslight you and make you feel crazy.

They will never work towards making you feel secure, because if you feel secure, then they won’t. For them, one of the best ways to feel good about themselves is by making you feel on the edge and anxious.

3. They never want you to think of them as the ‘bad guys’.

Narcissists never think of themselves as the bad guys, and they will go to any lengths to make you think so too. When the time comes, they will do anything and everything to make themselves look like the best people out there. Impeccable manners, well-dressed and groomed, and the right things to say – all this will ‘cement’ the fact that they are good people.

No matter what you do or what you say, you will always be the culprit and them, the victim. They will make you feel broken and miserable, but they don’t really care. As long as you are unhappy, they are happy.

4. They don’t like not being in control.

Narcissists are control freaks, and one thing they absolutely hate is losing control. The moment they are not in control of anything or anyone, it drives them crazy. They want everything to happen according to their whims and fancies, and in case it doesn’t, all hell breaks loose. A sense of control makes them feel secure, dominant, and superior.

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20 thoughts on “15 Things Narcissists Don’t Do”

  1. Avatar of kimberly hunter

    My oldest daughter is like this. Her father was the same way. i’ve been divorced from him for 30 yrs and it was a nightmare. now my daughter is living with me and it is a nightmare. everything mentioned in this article is her. i will never win even in my own home. i walk on eggshells, afraid that anything i say that she doesn’t like will always lead her to screaming at me and ridiculing. Hoping she will move out real soon.

  2. Avatar of Andy Devey

    Cut your losses and RrrrUuuuuuNnnnnn!!!*@#!!!???!!!
    You’ll be ALL the better person for it!
    Then, & only then, can you start to heal!!!
    P.S. @Alexandra Hall: Great, informative article/ advice… how toxic/ negative/ twisted F*#kers they are!!!!!
    May I join you in the corner & cuddle your dog, too???!!
    Much appreciation & Thank you!

  3. Avatar of Kai

    But how can we write these people of without also being a bit narcissistic by believing our mentality is above theirs?? I believe one of my best friends may have npd. Well… former best friend? We were friends for 12yrs with a 4yr gap due to home being an absolute bastard sadly we are back at that point but I do feel that I should be able to have a friendship with someone who does not feel empathy so long as I could make him see value in maintaining a set of rules? If I could show him that I was valuable? Which I can’t and is the reason the friendship fell apart lmao… it’s so sad.

    1. Avatar of Swsw Andriane
      Swsw Andriane

      Thank you so much for seeing it this way, I’m a diagnosed narc and I see so much hate towards narcissism as a disorder, do not forget no narcissist chose to be one. There are many, but NOT most, that truly want to develop their true personality and grow up from their childish narcissistic self

    2. Avatar of Conner Wood

      You aren’t dehumanizing them to feed your ego. You are protecting yourself from a literal monster that lacks qualities that make us human such as: empathy, integrity, morals, respect for others, love, personal accountability and personal responsibility.

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