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If you are wondering who a narcissist is then you are at the right place. Determining whether or not a person is narcissistic beyond the healthy realm is easier than one assumes it to be. You can never miss them blabbering unnecessarily about themselves. Their grandiosity will never go unseen. The paradox of identifying a narcissist is they will always catch your attention, and you will definitely know if a person is one. From a psychological perspective, there are several characteristics that define a narcissistic person. They are extremely egotistic, with an exaggerated sense of self-importance, have fantasies of unlimited success and brilliance, expect special treatment, like to exploit others, lack empathy, are filled with envy, expect people to envy them and are extremely arrogant. While these traits should be easy to spot in a person, you need to remember that narcissists are tricky people. They are manipulative and are easily able to con you into thinking they are different. You might easily get lured by their charisma and their smooth talks will melt you. No one wants to fall for the manipulation of a narcissist. It would be helpful to know who to stay away from, so to help you identify them here are the 15 things that a narcissist doesn’t do: 1. They don’t reveal their true selves Narcissists are manipulative, so of course they won’t show you who they really are when you first meet them. They lure you into believing that they are someone completely different, maybe someone sweet and kind, extremely concerned about you. You won’t find out their true personality until it’s too late and you are already trapped in their charm. 2. They don’t incorporate security into relationships Narcissists tend to keep you on your toes. They will forever keep you guessing till the end of time. The last thing they want is for you to feel safe and secure in the relationship. It gives them pleasure to be above you in every way, and when you feel insecure it makes them secure in turn. 3. They never allow you to see them as the bad guy In a narcissist’s mind they can never be the bad guy and they make sure you know it too. They will pretentiously display those aspects of their characteristics which are socially accepted and appreciated. No matter what the situation is, the blame will ultimately fall on you and this will make you feel like a terrible person, however they don’t care. It is a technique they apply to make you feel miserable. 4. They don’t like losing control Narcissists are control-freaks and losing control makes them extremely upset or angry. They need to have control of people and their surroundings. It gives them a sense of security in knowing that they can control your thoughts, emotions and even at places, your actions. 5. They won’t let people prove them wrong A narcissist will argue that black is white until even you begin to believe it. This is one of the biggest traps to fall in when being around a narcissist. Arguing with them is a waste of time and effort; their manipulative nature will cause you to start doubting your own cognitive abilities and soon you’ll start believing their lies. 6. They don’t see others as their equals Narcissists believe they are on top of the world – they don’t believe anyone is on the same level as them. They have a horizontal view of other people as compared to themselves. Others are always below them. If you try and associate yourself with them as an equal, then they will do anything in their power to bring you down so they are on top once again. 7. They never have sympathy These are the kinds of people who laugh while everyone cries during a sad movie. They don’t really care that your mother just went through a divorce or your parent just died. They don’t care about your feelings and they’re tired of hearing about your recent breakup or job loss. Don't get it wrong ; a narcissist WILL cry, will show that they are broken but everything is a decorative farce to manipulate you. Their tears are crocodile tears. Even if they care, you will be able to feel that it’s entirely insincere and superfluous. Even if they display their emotions, it doesn’t run deep. 8. They don’t do anything that doesn’t benefit them They didn’t buy you dinner out of the kindness of their heart. They are probably going to ask you for a world of favors afterwards. Narcissists don’t do anything without a purpose to benefit them. Not giving a narcissist what they want is the last thing you want to do. 9. They don’t take orders from others Don’t try to order a narcissist around. They are egotistical people, and trying to take control is a big hit to their self-esteem. It wouldn’t be surprising to later find yourself in a plot for vengeance later on, just for trying to take control of a narcissist. 10. They don’t like to admit they have feelings Narcissist if not, everyone has feelings. They undoubtedly feel emotions differently to other people but a narcissist will often say: “I don’t have feelings.” This is of course an excuse for all the horrible things they can sometimes do. They use the pretence of not knowing how emotions work to get away with anything without people thinking badly of them. If they say they don’t feel emotions they get the license to hurt you. 11. They don’t listen They don’t listen; they just wait for you to shut up so they can say what’s on their mind. They really don’t care about what you have to say, all they’re concerned about is your willingness to listen to them rant on and on, sans any guilt of course. 12. They don’t stick around If you’re starting to bore them in any friendship or relationship, expect a narcissist to pack up and leave. They are least bothered about the effect they will have on you, after they leave. They want attention, and if you aren’t giving them what they want then don’t expect them to stick around. 13. They don’t pick unattractive friends As mentioned, narcissists don’t do anything that doesn’t benefit them. Picking friends is one of those examples. They surround themselves with attractive and upper-class people making them feel more superior and invincible. This also serves them to take undue advantage out of these people. It will be rare to find a narcissist surrounded with an unattractive, undesirable crowd. 14. They don’t give compliments Narcissists want to be complimented. Complimenting you means holding you above them, which is an impossible task for them. They don’t have to make people feel good about themselves because it’s not their job to do so. You’d be lucky to get a compliment from a narcissist, and even if you do you have reason to be suspicious. 15. They don’t like to be polite They feel they are not obliged to be polite or sweet to you. They will blurt out whatever they want, without measuring its effects on the other person. At the best of times a narcissistic sense of superiority allows them to feel exempt from the rules of society – common courtesy being one of these exemptions. No matter how tempting it is, don’t disrespect a narcissist, because they are definitely not going to turn the other cheek. Related Video : Things Narcissists Do https://youtu.be/D1kzEauXOOs You may also like: 6 Lies Narcissistic Parents Make Their Children Believe When A Narcissist Tells You You’re Hard To Love 4 Ways You Can Unintentionally Fall In Love With A Narcissist How to Leave A Narcissist or Abuser Hoovering: Ways A Narcissist Reels You Back In

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