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9 Things A Narcissist Will Never Do For You (Or Anyone)

Things Narcissist Will Never Do For You

If you have ever been with a narcissist, you will know that there are certain things a narcissist will never do, no matter what. No matter what the stakes are, and no matter what the situation might be.

“I don’t care what you think unless it is about me.” ― Kurt Cobain.

Narcissists are the most difficult people to live with and deal with. They are selfish, uncaring, and manipulative. What they want from everything and everyone is something that will benefit them. While narcissism is definitely a harmful personality trait, it also causes tremendous damage to the person living with the narcissist.

Do you have a narcissistic partner or a family member or a relative? Well, then life is definitely a rougher ride for you. You need to understand a few harsh truths; there are certain things a narcissist will never do for you because they can never change no matter how hard you try.

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9 Things A Narcissist Will Never Do For You (Or Anyone Else)

Things A Narcissist Will Never Do For You
Things narcissists never do

(1) They will not bother about your problems.

The problems you are having are yours. Why would then they bother about it? If you think you need them for support, then just forget it. Even if they are involved in the problem, they will avoid it or might even make it difficult for you and even accuse you that you are the one who is responsible.

Show them one problem and immediately they will relate it to something which is vaguely similar to theirs and back to square one: they will start talking about themselves.

(2) They will not care about how you feel.

Yes, it hurts but not to them. They lack every single bit of empathy. No matter how close you are to them, a narcissist would hardly care.

Have they abused you? Well, that’s fine for them. Have they ignored you? That’s because they wanted to. No matter how much you suffer, they wouldn’t simply bother.

(3) They are not sorry for their actions.

Apology? What’s that? It doesn’t exist in their dictionary. If they have done something wrong, then it’s their wish. It’s completely justifiable.

No matter how wrong their actions have been, they will have enough excuses to prove themselves right by manipulating things.

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(4) They will not appreciate what you are doing in your life.

You might have a fantastic career but they will never praise you. Rather, they will point out the flaws to make you feel bad, to demoralize you.

(5) They will not appreciate your peers.

A narcissist can’t tolerate the fact that you are praising others. They will never say anything good about your peers. If there’s only one good person in your circle, it has to be them.

(6) They will not make you feel good about yourself.

No matter how good you are as a human being, a narcissist will always try to bring you down. They will rather make you feel guilty for your actions and lower your self-esteem.

(7) They will not take responsibility for their own actions.

They have been immature. Who cares? They should not have behaved in a certain way, but who cares? Definitely, not them!

In no way, a narcissist will be accountable for their own actions. Rather, they will blame everything on others.

Things a narcissist will never do
Things a narcissist will never do

(8) They will not do anything for you.

A narcissist doesn’t understand the meaning of reciprocation. Everything has to be about them. They will not do anything which makes you feel good, which makes you happy. A narcissist will only do things that make them happy.

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(9) They will never love you.

A narcissist might claim to love you but that’s fake. A narcissist cannot love anyone but themselves.

If they express their love, that will be just to support their stance that they love you. They don’t feel for you. Had they really loved you, they would have done all the things discussed above.

Living with a narcissist will leave you emotionally and mentally drained. There will be times you will feel angry, frustrated, or depressed. It’s better to live without them than to live with them.

Want to know more about the things a narcissist will never do? Check this video out below!

Narcissistic traits & things narcissists don’t do

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

What should you never tell a narcissist?

If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, always remember to never use the words, “You make me feel.” What you’re doing is expressing yourself and your needs, which a narcissist will very easily take advantage of.

Is it true that narcissists never apologize?

Yes, it is true. Narcissists never apologize for their mistakes and actions, due to their arrogance, entitlement, and sense of false pride.

Do narcissists share secrets?

Not really. Narcissists are extremely secretive, however, they like to dig out other people’s secrets so that they can use them as weapons later on.

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5 thoughts on “9 Things A Narcissist Will Never Do For You (Or Anyone)”

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    As i’m reading your article,i burst into tears,the feeling of somebody out there understands me and what sort of relationship i’m into right now.Every word describing a narcissist partner you mentioned here are the perfect description of my current boyfriend.
    From being an active full of life,always look around me and into things positive;
    From being a confident and independent woman i believed i am;
    Used to live a decent,well desciplined and peaceful life,i became the opposite after getting deep with the man whom i thought to be my ‘mister right’.

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