Why sociopaths lie about illness? Let’s uncover the twisted truth behind their ulterior moves to deceive, leaving victims in their wake.
Are you trapped in a relationship with a sociopath? It is often difficult to leave sociopaths as they falsely claim to be terminally ill to keep you trapped. Let us take a deeper look into the sociopath sickness saga.
Sociopaths Lie About Everything…
Sociopaths are skilled at weaving complex and elaborate lies, all in the pursuit of manipulating and exerting control over their targets. This includes deceiving others about serious illnesses, exploiting their compassion and concern for personal gain.
With a complete disregard for the emotional impact on their victims, sociopaths will stop at nothing to maintain their deceitful facade and assert their dominance.
Sociopaths are experts at concealing their true nature – their antisocial personality disorder. This makes them one of the most insidious and perilous personalities to encounter, as they expend copious amounts of energy to deceive those around them.
In fact, their deceptive ways can ensnare anyone, leaving us all vulnerable to their harmful tactics. So beware, for anyone can become a target in their crosshairs.
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Initially, the sociopath will work tirelessly to groom and prepare you. And when they realize they can easily control and manipulate you, when they have gained ownership over you, they will do anything to make sure to keep it that way.
They can use a number of strategies to manipulate you, like mirroring, love bombing, compulsive lying and even pretending to be the victim in the relationship.
But that’s not all. They can also use certain fear-based strategies to keep you on a short leash and control you. They can use intimidation, threats, lies, false accusations and isolation to break your self esteem and confidence and make you dependent on them.
Master of lies: Sociopaths and deception
Sociopaths are usually people with antisocial personality disorder. They are experts in creating elaborate lies that you will be compelled to believe. They will make you question your own reality and sanity by making you avoid the warning signs.
Beware the charm of a sociopath in a relationship. They may present themselves as the most loving, affectionate, and generous partner you’ve ever had.
With their expert manipulation skills, you’ll have no choice but to trust them completely and doubt your own instincts. But remember, if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. Don’t fall prey to the deception of a sociopath’s facade.
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Why Sociopaths Lie About Illness?
When you start noticing the red flags, when you find out about their lies and deceptions, when you are about to confront them, the sociopath will hit you with an intricately detailed and extremely believable tale of sickness to regain their control back on you.
As they always prey on empathetic and compassionate people, they will know about your kind and caring nature and will use it against you.
To them, you act as a source of supply. You feed their brittle ego and feeble self-esteem. So they have programmed and brainwashed you over days, weeks and months to gain control over you and dominate every aspect of your life.
When you find out about their reality and decide to leave them, the sociopath will feel threatened. This is when they deceive, manipulate and trick you with a false story of sickness.
As they will pretend to have some terminal illness, like cancer, you will be compelled to show them empathy and kindness. Even a heartless person will have a positive reaction to someone who is ill. As they are experts in observing and monitoring people, the sociopath knows how you will react.
Their false tale of sickness will force you to forgive them and stay with them longer than you want to. And that is all they need to spin their toxic magic around you, re-program you and dominate you all over again.
Sociopaths have no conscience
Sociopaths are individuals without conscience. They are pathological liars who can say and do anything to gain control over you and get what they want. Hence, making up diseases and faking illnesses is not a big deal for them.
They use it as a tool to create drama and trap you with it. As you become trapped in their lies, you will feel sorry for their terrible made up disease and will instinctively show a powerful, positive response.
Soon, you will start accepting their toxic behavior and make excuses for staying with them.
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The sociopath sickness saga helps them with:
- Diverting attention from the truth
- Gaining your compassion, kindness, care, and sympathy
- Getting a positive reaction and attention from you
- Preventing you from leaving
- Taking the role of the victim
- Making you responsible for their well being
What’s worse is that the sociopath will go to any length to protect their lie. Maintaining the lie and sustaining their control over you is more important for them than your emotions.
Protecting the false reality they have created is of utmost importance to them. So the lie keeps growing and encompasses every other aspect of the sociopath’s life until it completely consumes them. To them, their lie will become their truth. They will become their own fake sickness.
Their sickness saga will now become more detailed and elaborate. They will tell you about their appointments with doctors, hospital visits and treatment, but will never involve you in the process.
Some sociopaths are high-conflict people (HCPs) who are preoccupied with blaming a target for not accepting their dominance. So if, by any chance, you come to find out about the truth, they will make you look like the sociopath with any conscience.
They will use your own compassion and empathy against you to claim that you are heartless, thoughtless and selfish for blaming a sick person about lying. Their display of moral outrage will make you doubt yourself once again and reaffirm their position as the victim.
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Even though you may have evidence and you may protest against their deceiving moral outcry, it will only lead to more drama for the sociopath to feed on. Then they will use your own emotions to make you look like a toxic person who doesn’t care about someone suffering from a serious illness.
As you start questioning yourself and wonder if anyone can be so vile that they will lie about their own terminal illness, the sociopath will gain ownership and dominance over you once again. Controlling your emotions is the greatest form of ownership for them.
Eventually, you will give in to your emotions and the sociopath will get exactly what they want – care, kindness, attention, sympathy and praise by lying, deceiving and manipulating you.
As you start caring for them, they will manipulate you to become their caregiver for a false illness and, in turn, they will now own you.
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Coping with Sociopathic Lying About Illness
No matter how desperately the sociopath tries to protect their lies, the truth will eventually reveal itself. Your instincts will make you see the warning signs and a sense of betrayal will take over your thoughts and emotions.
As you will find the truth hard to believe, you will question them for their lies and yourself for being so naive. But the thing is sociopaths are without conscience. They can do anything they want and they don’t care about you. This is who they are.
If you have personally experienced the sickness saga of a sociopath, then the first thing you need to realize that it’s not your fault. It was them. You just chose to be your best self even though you knew they were not trustworthy.
You chose to show care and kindness to a person who claimed to be terminally ill. You’re not stupid. They are toxic. Yes, it will hurt. It will make you feel confused and make you question yourself. But it doesn’t define who you are.
It simply defines who they are. You were being mentally and emotionally manipulated. You were being controlled by a sick person and forced to play their sick game.
However, once you start accepting the truth and decide to stay true to yourself, to be as caring, compassionate and empathetic as you are, the confusion will go away. And you will find more clarity and strength.
This will help you build a reality where you can finally see the sociopath for who they are. This will enable you to identify sociopaths in future, and steer clear from them.
This will empower you to build meaningful relationships with caring and compassionate people who will have as much to offer to you, as you will have to offer to them.
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