How would you know that the person you are having dinner with, in a nice restaurant, is a good or bad person? Or how would you know for sure that the colleague who gets along with everyone at work is actually not a nice person at all? For the most part, it’s easy to tell a good person from a dangerous one, but in certain cases, identifying a dangerous person is not really that simple.
Not every dangerous person shows their evil side openly, and those are the kind of people who end up hurting others the most. They portray themselves as straight arrows who only want what’s best for you, but behind that facade, is a lot of negativity and poison. So, how would you really know that you’re dealing with a dangerous person? The answer is simple: you need to look out for a few signs that will give away their true colors, and help you understand who you are really dealing with.
Look out for these subtle signs, so you can protect yourself from their poisonous machinations and toxic games.
7 Subtle Signs You Are Talking To A Dangerous Person
1. Drama Follows Them Wherever They Go.
It’s like drama was made for them. No matter where they are, what they do, or who they meet, in someway or the other, drama seeps in. Either they start drama, instigate drama, or find themselves in the middle of the drama, but no matter what the situation is, they are somehow involved in it. They are experts at stirring the pot, be it causing problems in your social circle, or the fact that their close ones have alienated them – they are always up to something dubious.
Peace is never an option for them, and the moment they will see everything is in a good place, they will itch to disrupt it all. Creating problems between people is their favorite pastime, and thriving in drama is what they do best.
2. Deception Is Their Favorite Game.
Dangerous people are experts at deceiving others, and they know exactly how to conduct themselves in front of others, so as to not give away their real self. They will trick you and deceive you to get their own needs met, and if you call them out on this, they will come up with a million justifications.
Did they meet with their ex and didn’t tell you about it? Well, they didn’t want to upset you. Did they gossip about you behind your back? Well, they were just being honest and they did not have any bad intentions.
They will have a repertoire of excuses and justifications for their deceptive actions, and will never admit their faults, and they will be so good at it, that you won’t realize the truth until it’s too late. And if they do admit to their games, they will show no remorse about it; they will be cold, defensive, unyielding, and will behave as if they did nothing wrong.
3. They Have Quite A Few Unresolved Issues.
When you have unresolved issues festering inside you, you wouldn’t want to experience it alone; you would lash out at people, just so you can feel better for a few minutes. When there’s a lot of pain within you, you feel angry at the whole world, and this is exactly how a dangerous person feels. They have so much pain, anger, and bitterness inside, that they cannot bear to see anybody else happy; if they are suffering, so should everybody else around them.
Instead of dealing with their feelings or trying to heal them, they choose to focus on hurting people. Everything will seem okay until you do or say something that hits a nerve AKA, their unresolved issue. When this happens, you will find out just how negative, resentful and insensitive they really are. Their unhealed wounds keep on tormenting them on the inside, and this leads to them tormenting others on the outside.