9 Reasons Why You Cry So Easily and At Times Even Without A Reason

9 Reasons Why You Cry So Easily and At Times Even Without A Reason

Do you always find yourself crying, whether you’re reading a book or watching a movie? Do your tears flow whenever your emotions start ringing? If you cry a little too much, then here are a few reasons why you cry all the time.

When your heart rains

It starts with a choking feeling. Your heart feels heavier as your lips begin to tremble. You can feel the wetness in your eyes so you start blinking faster trying to prevent it. As you feel the tears forming up in your eyes and desperately wanting to escape, you give in and let it all out. You let your emotions take over you and you end up crying uncontrollably once again. That’s why you cry. Tears catch you when you least expect it, at times and places you don’t want to let your emotions loose.

If you let your heart rule your mind, then you will probably find yourself weeping and shedding tears a lot more than others. But that’s okay. It’s normal for us to cry when we feel overwhelmed, upset or depressed. Crying uncontrollably is not a sign of emotional or psychological weakness. 

Crying is a natural response to different emotions from sadness to happiness. You may cry because you are upset about something. While someone else may cry due to loneliness. Another person may shed tears of joy. But there’s no doubt that crying can help you feel mentally and emotionally better as it releases the chemicals stored in the body due to depression, anxiety and stress. One study has found that crying helps to cope and recover emotionally, “specifically through physiological changes that occur during crying.” 

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9 Reasons Why You Cry So Easily and At Times Even Without A Reason

Tears speak a universal language

Crying is a means of communication that speaks about our innermost feelings and emotions. Whether you are just teary eyed or end up crying for hours, it can happen at any time and for any reason. And sometimes, we find ourselves weeping a lot more than we’d like to without any meaningful reason. At times, we may not know why we can’t stop crying uncontrollably. However, when you take a pause and become aware of your tears and how much you have cried recently, it may help you understand what you are actually feeling inside and how sad and upset you may be.

However, if you wonder why you cry even when we don’t want to, then there may be a number of reasons why you’re feeling this way.

9 Reasons why you cry so easily

Here are a few reasons why you cry frequently and much more easily than most other people.

1. It’s biology

Although crying is natural in all human beings, gender does play a part. If you are a woman, then you may find yourself crying more than the opposite gender. Why? Biologically, women are wired to cry a lot more than men. Women tend to have higher levels of the reproductive hormone prolactin which makes them shed tears frequently, while the hormone testosterone prevents men from crying. 

According to studies by William H. Frey, PhD in 1980s and Lauren Bylsma, PhD in 2011, women tend to cry about 5.3 times every month, whereas men cry around 1.3 times during the same period.

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2. Emotional stability

Your personality, traits and emotional sensitivity may also determine why you cry. If you tend to a sensitive person, then you may find yourself crying a lot more than others. If you are an empath or emotional or a highly sensitive person (HSP), then you are more likely to be emotionally sensitive. Moreover, HSPs are more aware and connected with their environment which makes them highly emotionally responsive. This may be another good reason why you may find yourself crying more than you want to.

However, a study published by the Department of Clinical Health Psychology at Tilburg University found that emotional stability was “negatively associated” with crying for women.  For men “only a significant negative relationship between emotional stability and crying for negative reasons emerged. No clear links were found between personality and mood changes after crying.”

9 Reasons Why You Cry So Easily and At Times Even Without A Reason

3. A culture of expression

A study covering 37 countries found that people from “more affluent, democratic, extraverted, and individualistic countries” usually cry a lot more. People from countries like the United States, Sweden and Chile with better social resources and higher levels of freedom of expression are more open to crying. The research also revealed that the gender gap in proneness to crying was larger in “wealthier, more democratic, and feminine countries.” 

So if you are wondering why you cry, lead researcher Dianne Van Hemert, PhD, might have the answer. She believes that individuals from more democratic and affluent nations cry more as their culture allows it. However, individuals from poorer nations might hold on to their tears as their culture doesn’t permit emotional expression, even though they might have more reasons to cry.

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4. Unhealthy attachment styles

Your tendency to cry more may also depend on your attachment style as well. According to a 2012 study, there is a connection between adult crying and attachment style. The study found that one group of people with preoccupied attachment style showed more emotional expression and cried intensely, while the group of subjects with dismissive attachment style were found to cry relatively less.

The study stated “The preoccupied and fearful attachment style groups reported the most negative emotions while crying, whereas the secure group reported more crying over positive emotions. These results show that attachment style is a determinant of adult crying behavior.”

Moreover, Judith Kay Nelson, PhD, author and psychotherapist, reveled in her book “Seeing Through Tears: Crying and Attachment” that people with insecure attachment style tend to cry badly and improperly, whereas people with secure attachment style express their emotions comfortably and cry in a relatively healthier manner.

5. An evolutionary strategy

Facilitating bonds and relationships by lowering defenses and aggression is another unique reason why you cry so intensely. A 2009 study by Dr. Oren Hasson, Department of Zoology at Tel Aviv University, indicates that emotional tears serve as a biological signal. His analysis found that crying can be an evolutionary tool to keep you safe and reduce animosity. The analysis reveals that tears blur vision and “handicap aggressive or defensive actions, and may function as reliable signals of appeasement, need or attachment.”

9 Reasons Why You Cry So Easily and At Times Even Without A Reason

Crying is a sign of vulnerability. This is a biological strategy to bring others emotionally closer to you. In an interview, Dr. Hasson said that with the help of tears “you can show that you are submissive to an attacker, and therefore potentially elicit mercy from an enemy, or you could attract sympathy from others, and perhaps gain their strategic assistance.

He added, “My analysis suggests that by blurring vision, tears lower defenses and reliably function as signals of submission, a cry for help, and even in a mutual display of attachment and as a group display of cohesion.

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6. The Pseudobulbar affect

If you tend to cry uncontrollably too frequently then it might be due to the condition known as pseudobulbar affect (PBA), which is caused by a brain injury or a neurological disorder. PBA primarily involves sudden episodes of inappropriate and uncontrollable crying or laughter. As this condition usually occurs due to brain injuries or specific neurological conditions, it impacts how our emotions are processed by the brain.

Although you will experience the range of human emotions normally most of the time, you will express your feelings inappropriately at times. However, your exaggerated emotional expressions might not best reflect exactly what you’re experiencing or feeling at the moment. Sudden bouts of excessive crying due to PBA, also known as emotional incontinence, can significantly affect your daily life in an adverse way.

7. Depression 

Depression might be another reason why you cry so much. Depression is a mood disorder that can have a serious effect on our psychological and emotional health. So if you find yourself sad and upset all the time and you keep crying constantly, then most likely you’re depressed. When you are depressed, you may cry over the smallest issues and have difficulty controlling your emotions. However, only mild depression can cause excessive crying as severe or clinical depression may lead to difficulty in expressing emotions.

9 Reasons Why You Cry So Easily and At Times Even Without A Reason

In fact, a 2002 study found that clinical depression can dysregulate the expression of emotions. According to the research, “the presence or absence of a tearful response to a sad film had relatively little impact on depressed participants’ report of sadness, displays of sadness, or their levels of sympathetic arousal.” Depression may actually dull the response of crying. The study concluded, “Those individuals who had been depressed the longest were the least likely to cry.

If you feel you have symptoms that may indicate depression, talk to your doctor immediately.

Feel depressed? Read Ways To Fight Depression: 4 Sure-Fire Things You Can Do Right Now

8. Chronic overwhelm

Stress can be another reason why you cry as it can take its toll on your emotions and wreak havoc. When you experience a lot of stress for a long period of time, it can cause significant damage to your psyche. Your tolerance level for dealing with additional stress reduces dramatically and you eventually break down. You will feel overwhelmed with life and overreact to even the smallest challenges. According to life coach Lisa Petsinis, you will start feeling angrier, more depressed and discouraged and will cry a lot more even at the drop of a hat. As your mind feels under constant attack, crying will seem like the only thing you can do to feel some relief.

Take a break from life. Go for a short vacation. Try not to take everything too seriously and slowly rebuild your resilience on day at a time. If needed, make sure you reach out and seek professional help.

9. Eye irritation

Although it might not be the same as crying, but if you are teary eyed most of the time then it can be a result of irritated eyes. When our tear ducts become irritated or blocked due to smoke, dust, steam or wind or even cutting onions, then our eyes might become teary more than usual. By staying moist and lubricated, your eyes are trying to protect itself and clear the debris. Visiting an ophthalmologist can be of great help to keep your eyes safe, protected and less watery.

Moreover, if you stay awake at night staring mindlessly at your smartphone or staying up late to finish your projects before the deadline to grab that promotion, then there’s no doubt it will have an effect on the health of your eyes.

Your tears make you who you are

Crying is not a sign of weakness. On the contrary, your tears are a sign of your emotional strength. It means you feel profoundly and you value your emotions and your feelings. You’re not a robot or a zombie who goes through life without feeling a single thing. Although it can be great to be stoic about certain things in life, feeling your emotions tells you that you’re alive, you live passionately and that you have a heart. And that’s the best thing any of us can hope for.

So go ahead and own your tears.

9 Reasons Why You Cry So Easily and At Times Even Without A Reason

However, if you are crying uncontrollably or intensely all the time, then you need to seek immediate medical help. Crying is normal, but so is having control on your emotions. Get help and advice from a medical professional immediately.

Want more? Read The Science of Crying: Why It Is Healthy & Necessary For Personal Growth

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9 Reasons Why You Cry So Easily and At Times Even Without A Reason

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