It starts with a choking feeling. Your heart feels heavier as your lips begin to tremble. You can feel the wetness in your eyes so you start blinking faster trying to prevent it. As you feel the tears forming up in your eyes and desperately wanting to escape, you give in and let it all out. You let your emotions take over you and you end up crying uncontrollably once again.
If you’re overly emotional or highly sensitive, then you find yourself teary eyed more often than you might like to.
And it catches you when you least expect it, at times and places you don’t want to let your emotions loose. I have cried in public more than I would like to admit and I know how it feels when others watch you weep. It’s not that I am emotionally weak, but sometimes I just can’t help it. The rush of emotions become so overwhelming that letting it out is the only option I have left.
But why do we cry even when we don’t want to?
What is the reason behind our uncontrollable crying?
Why do some of us cry a lot more than others?
Tears speak a universal language
“Tears are the silent language of grief.” – Voltaire
Crying is a means of communication that speaks about our innermost feelings and emotions. Whether you are just teary eyed or end up crying for hours, it can happen at any time and for any reason. And sometimes, we find ourselves weeping a lot more than we’d like to without any meaningful reason. While at other times, we may not know why we can’t stop crying uncontrollably. However, when you take a pause and become aware of your tears and how much you have cried recently, it may help you understand what you are actually feeling inside and how sad and upset you may be.
Let your tears flow
If you have a more emotional personality, then you will probably find yourself weeping and shedding tears most of the time. But that’s okay. It’s normal for us to cry when we feel overwhelmed, upset or depressed. Crying uncontrollably is not related to your emotional intelligence neither has it anything to do with neglecting your emotional needs. All of us cry, mostly for different reasons. And if you are an HSP or a highly sensitive person, then crying can come more easily to you than others.
“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.” – Washington Irving
It is a natural response to different emotions from sadness to happiness. You may cry because you are upset about something. While someone else may cry due to loneliness. Another person may shed tears of joy. But there’s no doubt that crying can help you feel mentally and emotionally better as it releases the chemicals stored in the body due to depression, anxiety and stress.
Let it all out.
Feel better about yourself.
However, if you find yourself crying more than you would want to, then there may be a number of reasons why you’re feeling this way.
Why you cry so easily
Here are a few reasons why you may cry frequently and much more easily than most other people:
1. High sensitivity
If you are an HSP or highly sensitive person, then you will find yourself crying a lot more than the rest of the populace. Highly sensitive people have exceptionally attuned senses and are extremely affected by their environment. HSPs experience the world very differently and feel emotions more deeply than others, which makes them overly emotional and teary.
The brains of highly sensitive people are wired differently and they experience emotions vividly. Moreover, as they are naturally empathetic, they can quickly absorb and understand emotions of others and share their feelings. With around 20 percent of the population being highly sensitive, if you find yourself crying a lot more than others because you’re an HSP, then consider this a special gift that only a few can enjoy.
“Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.” – Jose N. Harris
First of all, if you have the slightest doubt that you may be depressed, then I will suggest that you talk to someone you trust and get professional help immediately.