“When we are intimate with another human being, we become even more connected through energetic cords that are left on us and in us.”- Arielle Ford
More often than not, lovers made vows and they always want that these are eternal even they knew that they were being pulled by unexpected life’s changes in different ways, sweeping them away into new lives and changed worlds. I’ll always be here for you when you need me. Always count on me no matter what may happen. That even how many times you broke my heart, it will always be opened for you.
But you have to consider some important things. When the relationship ended, don’t be tempted to stay with an Ex even if you think there is still a little piece of love in your heart. In a relationship, there are two kinds of endings: the happy ending and the sad ending.
And if you’re the one being left and experiencing a very sad ending because (s)he ceased to get in touch with you, that perhaps (s)he has decided something else in life. It hurts to lose someone you have learned to love. But it hurts even more if you cling on to someone who perhaps has decided to find the way about life without you. Remember: No matter what, life must go on.
Here are the reasons why you should cut the cord with an Ex:
If your Ex hurt you once, it will be repeated over and over again:
This is quite so true. There is something so splendid, so abundant about life’s second chances that arrived each morning. Perhaps second chances (third, fourth and fifth) are the golden opportunities we thought too good to be true the first time around. But if an Ex really loves you then that Ex will never hurt you and will never leave you no matter what. Getting back together may seem so sweet or exciting but people are difficult to change. Don’t prolong any masquerade because it will depreciate you while your Ex gets away with murder.
1. To remove old and negative patterns:
Old and negative patterns if not being cut will let you stuck in a rut. It will never clear the baggage that may have accumulated all throughout the time you spent together. Don’t let this drain or suck away your ability to enjoy life. Focus on the positive aspects. Get rid of the echoes of the past.
2. Things will never be the same again:
Think that you and your Ex are back together again after a horrible break-up. Your heart will tell, ‘everything will be alright’ but in the end, bet my ass, the trust will never be the same again. Things that happened will always haunt you in each moment and the pain keeps coming back. Tell yourself you’re done with the pain of crying over someone who never appreciated your worth; of crying the tears of a lovelorn- the all-consuming spasmodic weeping that shattered your entire body. That you’re done being an option, being a second best and a doormat. That you’re done chasing pavements.
3. To be able to find the right person for you:
Keep looking around. You don’t have to wait for five years to realize you deserve better- someone who would cross heaven and earth to be there for you; someone who comes through a hurricane or a tornado because that person cares for you; someone who makes you feel loved, amazing and invincible; who loves you- not halfway, not maybe and not a second best to someone else.
4. You need to have new memories:
Fall in love with SOMEONE NEW– in a separate way, one that involves only both of you and uninfluenced by the past or fall in love with YOURSELF. Travel and find yourself footloose in Paris, take a walk near the artists’ district of Montmartre to No. 16 rue Chaptal. When walking the streets of Paris in a thin spring rain, breathing the fresh smell of the air and coffee, realize that you don’t need a perfect companion to have a romantic life. Because you see, there are people who have relationships but no romance at all. And there those whose lives are full of romance even when they are not paired up. Have a fairy tale romance with yourself. And that’s romantically fabulous!