The 5 Stages of True Love Scam and How To Recover From It

The 5 Stages of True Love Scam & How To Recover From It

True love scam follows a set five stages. The pathological predator’s cycle of survival. So-called love with a sociopath is a world of hell. It’s predictable and inevitable.

True love scam is a nightmare of epic proportions that happens when we’re entangled by a person of “antisocial personality disorder”. In a word, when we’re ensnared by a sociopath or psychopath. True love scam follows a specific pattern whether the narcissistic hijacking goes on three days or 30 years; and is always devastating, and is always horrific to extract ourselves from. Narcissists, narcs or narcopaths, whatever we call them, hunt prey all day every day, pretend to be what they aren’t, and lie.

You’re not broken. Someone who didn’t love you convinced you that you are.

What is True Love Scam?

“Half of the people lie with their lips; the other half with their tears” – Nassim Nicholas Taleb

The phenomenon of true love scam is coming into focus like never before, It’s been here since the beginning of time, but only in the last five or six years has much of anything about it been found through a Google search. Like me, you whipped out your laptop or smartphone when that guy you’re dating wasn’t around, or when that woman you’ve been seeing finally left. When I searched in 2013, I found pretty much nothing, so I started writing…

If you found this article you’ve probably experienced a true love scam. And you’re here because you know normal doesn’t cause confusion or pain. The fact that we’re feeling bad, means we do know what normal is, even if we may not have lived it much.

By now a lot of us have heard the words, narcissistic personality disorder, sexual predator, sociopath or psychopath. At this point they’re even in the news; episodic series on HBO and every other network, and movies are packed with stories about it. And unfortunately, there’s much misinformation floating around that isn’t directly shining the light we need to see the truth and resolve loss, be safe, heal and become user proof forever.

When they sense and see us seeing through them; when we’re questioning too much, they do their best to bind us more deeply.

The thing is, there’s a big difference between normal and sociopathy. From our experiential point of view is the place to look. A diagnosis of them isn’t needed. Our experience reveals what we’re facing.

If you experienced the five stages of true love scam, consider yourself as targeted and ensnared by a pathological user, a predator, a sociopath. That’s the beginning of finding answers.

Normal vs. Pathological User

“The toxic behaviors were there before you decided to enter into relationships with them. The signs were there. You may have chosen to look the other way, but the signs were there.—Psychotherapist from Type 1 Sociopath” – P.A. Speers

As normal people, when we meet a new person we want to be pleasant and leave it at that. Friendship with normal people goes at an easy pace and blossoms naturally with mutual interest and effort on both sides.

They can sense and know when we know something is wrong. They’re working quickly behind the scenes to get as much as they can before they exit; we need to stop the loss in just the same way: behind their back.

True Love Scam is the Survival Lifestyle of the Narcissistic Sociopath

Let’s take a look at the phases of true love scam. I call true love scam a “hijacking”, a deliberate invasion by a parasite. Every parasite needs a host who knows nothing of their presence in order to survive.

5 Stages of True Love Scam: The Cycle of Taking and Use: What the Predator Does to Survive

  1. Assess
  2. Win Trust and Empathy
  3. Take and Use
  4. Take and Use More
  5. Smear: This is their offensive play at self-defense and has been going on since we met

1. True Love Scam by a Parasitic Con Man Requires a Strong “Host”

Each person an antisocial psychopath meets seen as an object. Their favorite is people who are strong, resilient, resourceful, independent, open, loyal, and in general, really incredible people who are trustworthy themselves. Sociopaths assess everyone for what that person can be used for.

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