Being extremely manipulative and shrewd, narcissists know the exact things they need to do in order to force you to stay with them. They will keep you entangled in carefully crafted lies that will keep you trapped even if you are aware of their motives. There are certain commonly used phrases that most narcissists use to confuse their partners. Whenever you hear one of these lies, pack up and run away from them as soon as you can.
1. “I didn’t do that. You’re crazy”
Narcissists will never own up to their mistakes and will never acknowledge their flaws. They will quickly thrust the blame upon you to keep themselves clean. If they accept their faults it would prove your judgment right and make you leave. They use the method gaslighting to make you doubt yourself and drive yourself insane, therefore continuing to be with them.
2. “You’re just like all the other horrible people I’ve been with!”
Narcissists enjoy making you feel bad and guilty for even thinking about leaving them. They push you to feel you are making a wrong decision and then crib to you for being so horrible to them. They basically act this way so that you are compelled to prove them wrong by sticking with them or become an even lovelier partner than before.
3. “I can’t imagine my life without you.”
Now, this statement is very challenging to decode. It can be spoken by someone in a very genuine sense. So how to understand that it is coming from a narcissist? Well, narcissists are not mentally stable beings. They don’t feel any love towards you and are just using you for their benefit. They will leave you as soon as they are done with you and are keeping you around because it is easier than finding another victim.
4. “Everyone warned me about you, but I didn’t believe them.”
In order to completely capture your mind and soul, narcissists will portray themselves as the only person who genuinely cares about you, whom you can trust with all your heart, and make you skeptical about the people surrounding you. They will plant the seed of doubt and insecurity within you and make you feel vulnerable, seeking their comfort. This statement is the most effective in this case.
5. “I don’t get why you’re the only one who doesn’t understand me!”
Another tactic of gaslighting, narcissists uses this one to enforce control over your thoughts and actions so that you work according to their wishes. If you make a choice to speak for yourself and stand up against them, they will depict you like you are out of your mind.
6. “You’re so sensitive! Stop being so sensitive!”
They use this line to try and manipulate your reactions to their actions. This is just another form of gaslighting to modify your responses towards their incessant mood swings and manipulations. Since narcissists do not appreciate a negative response to their commands, even if they are getting on your nerves, they make you feel like you are overreacting even if it is a justified reaction. It will force you to stay as you begin doubting yourself.
7. *Unnecessary Lying*
Narcissists are pathological liars who will spew rampant lies without any reason. It has become second nature to them and thus they are unable to speak the truth. Once they wrap your entire life in lies, it’s very hard to get back to reality without it.
8. “I’m amazing!”
Narcissists will go out of their way to express to the world and ingrain into everyone that they are the best persons to ever walk on this planet. They always talk about themselves, showing off their connections, authority and power and fake humility to balance it out. They will portray themselves like the best possible partners, forcing you to doubt your own thoughts about leaving them.
9. “No, I’m better than them.”
A very effective way in which narcissists capture their victims is to make them believe that they will never find someone better than them. They will speak ill about everyone around you, forcing you to feel they are the best catch.
10. “No, honey, I promise, that’s the last time!”
At times when narcissists realize that they have screwed up really bad, they hand out fake promises to convince you to stay with them. They’ll promise to never do it again, only to break them eventually, many more times. Once you accept their apology they’ll feel you’ll forgive them every time.