It’s a common misconception that loneliness hits only when you are old. But Maike Luhmann, a psychologist at the University of Cologne in Germany says that loneliness increases at the age of 30 and again at the age of 50 based on her study published in Developmental Psychology. This evidence suggests that loneliness rises and falls throughout our lifetimes.
Also, you may be at risk of long-term feelings of loneliness and isolation if you are dealing with following:
- Chronic disease
- Substance use
- Depression and bipolar disorder
- Dementia and Alzheimer’s
- Sexual orientation issues
- Some mild forms of autism, such as Asperger’s Syndrome
Loneliness can be contagious
According to a 10 year study, loneliness spreads in social networks. Researchers found that people close to someone having loneliness were 52% more likely to become lonely as well (Cacioppo, Fowler and Christakis 2009).
Is there any cure to loneliness?
From years of research and vast literature available on loneliness, psychologists conclude that the mental and physical health effects of loneliness will decline when feelings of loneliness go away. Evidence from longitudinal and small preliminary studies also give a hint that a decrease in loneliness decreases the cellular symptoms and impact of cellular changes.
Loneliness may not be diagnosable but you can seek professional help to deal with feelings of loneliness. To address the issue, it is necessary to understand the root cause of the problem. Loneliness may be due to trouble getting to know new people in your new college, or adjusting in a new city, break up with your lover, feelings of self-doubt, anxiety and low self-esteem, that prevents you from building meaningful relationships.
In all cases, you may talk to a therapist to examine various situations in your life and know how to resolve your social pain and deal with mental and physical health issues.
Cole says that the improvement in health due to loneliness interventions has been found to be modest. Because most treatment options are targeted to give people a sense of purpose in life rather than decreasing loneliness.
He says that the pain of loneliness is an indication that we need to be around people. Just like physical pain helps us stay away from physical dangers, social pain also known as loneliness has evolved to protect the individuals from dangers of remaining isolated and lonely.
Antidote to loneliness
Researchers says that the rise of the internet and social media, are partially responsible for increase cases of loneliness (Savci and Aysan 2016). So, quantity of social interactions cannot combat loneliness.
So, the antidote to loneliness is good quality relationships. People with strong social relationships are 50% more likely to live longer. But, quantity of friends or relationships doesn’t matter.
According to a Gallup Study – “Wellbeing: The Five Essential Elements” employees with even a single close friend at the workplace are seven times more likely to be engaged at their jobs than those who didn’t.
Hence, mental health professionals suggest people to strive hard to make quality or meaningful connections in personal and professional life. You can ward off loneliness by having just three or four close friends. That’s enough to reduce the negative health consequences associated with feeling lonely and isolated.
Tips to prevent and overcome loneliness
1. Recognize and understand loneliness
Loneliness is literally killing people across the globe. It is the sign that something needs to change. Recognize the signs and understand the terrible physical and mental health consequences of your loneliness.