Loneliness In Children: This Is What You Can Do As A Parent

Loneliness In Children: This Is What You Can Do As A Parent

As a parent, seeing the dark cloud of loneliness in your children can break your heart. But, the good news is you can help them fight this.

Kids who feel like they have no friends or who have been bullied can feel very lonely. School can be a place where feelings of loneliness intensify – especially when returning to school after the summer break.

Sadly, with today’s kids and teens, this is a more common issue than many people realize. Cigna’s 2018 U.S. Loneliness Index found that students have higher scores of loneliness than retirees. Studies also show that this may not just be “an age thing”, but be generational, which means that kids and teens may be more likely to feel lonely today than when their parents were their age.

 

Spotting loneliness in a child or teen

Depending on the age of your child, loneliness from bullying or lack of friends can be difficult to spot. One sign could be if your child was once socially active, but now stays home and no longer talks about her friends. Other signs include:

  • a strong dislike for school
  • isolating in a room and talking less
  • A change in eating and/or sleeping

Kids who have always been introverted or have never done much with peers outside of school are the ones that may have loneliness that gets overlooked.

It’s important for parents to regularly check-in with their kids and teens. Ask how your child is doing and be more specific with your questions if you feel that something has changed or may not be right.

Kids who feel more connected with their parents are more likely to open up and share when they feel outcasted or lonely.

Is your child an introvert? Read 11 Superpowers of an Introverted Child

 

Starting a new school year with no friends

Whether a child feels lonely or not, starting a new school year can cause feelings of anxiousness. When a child returns to school after being bullied or with the feeling of having no friends, these feelings can be coupled with other negative feelings. Seeing their peers who may appear happy and with friends can make kids who are in this situation feel even more alone. They may think, why do others have friends and I don’t? Or, why am I the only one who gets bullied?

It’s important for kids to know that they’re not alone.

A framework that I recommend to all parents is The Three E’s (Empathy, Empowerment, and Engagement), which can help kids feel less lonely and isolated. The Three E’s can also help your child or teen come up with a game plan for changing the situation. During this process, roleplaying on starting conversations with new people, as well as encouraging participation in activities where new people can be met, can also help. Learn more about The Three E’s here.

Loneliness In Chidren

When video games, social media, and other digital technology contribute to loneliness  

Lack of face-to-face interaction with peers outside of school can contribute to loneliness. Over usage of social media, video games and other digital technology can make kids feel disconnected. Perhaps this is why studies show that the issue of loneliness with today’s teens is greater than with prior generations.

Kids and teens should be given opportunities for in-person interaction with friends and peers outside of school. This can help kids grow their social skills, gain confidence and develop stronger and longer-lasting friendships.

 

Final thoughts

People often say that “it takes a village to raise a child.” There’s a lot of truth in this statement. The reality is that kids need to hear from their parents, but they sometimes need to hear from other trusted adults too. Learn more here.

If your child is feeling lonely at school due to lack of friendships or bullying, it may be good to encourage him to speak to a teacher or school counselor. Some teachers may be willing to open his or her classroom at lunch or after school to start a club or another activity to help kids form new friendships.

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