Quite naturally, Loneliness has become a serious public health problem for the millennials. Here are some pertinent facts about loneliness that can help you to understand how It affects the mind and body.
Human beings are social beings and we are wired to share our stories and feelings in person.
What do we do when we interact with others in person?
We use our body to communicate our intentions, emotions and feelings. Our gestures, facial expressions, tone of voice, body language are all effective ways to communicate with one another.
We share mirror neurons that allow us to imitate each other’s feeling consciously or unconsciously.
For example when I see you smiling, mirror neurons for smiling fire up in my brain, initiating the activity of smiling. I experience immediately and effortlessly what you are feeling. And when you see me matching your emotional state, you feel understood and this becomes the basis of strong bonds that we form with each other.
Our brains and bodies are wired for heart based face to face interactions for our overall being and development but due to the advent of social media, digital interactions have take over the personal face to face connect.
And therefore, the paradox of the millennial generation is that with the substantial increase in online friends & followers, the percentage of people who feel lonely has also risen exponentially.
It is estimated that over 40 % of the population will feel the pangs of loneliness at some point or the other.
There has been a lot of research to study the causes and effects of loneliness in the millennial generation.
Here is a list of 10 pertinent facts about the loneliness that can help you to understand and combat the menace of loneliness:
1. It is not about the quantity but the subjective quality of your relationships
According to psychologists, there are two types of loneliness: Subjective and objective
Objective loneliness refers to being physically isolated while subjective loneliness refers to the feeling of being alone even when you’re physically or socially surrounded by lots of people.
Subjective Loneliness does not depend on the number of friends or followers you have on social media but the quality of your closest and intimate relationships.
It is about how connected and understood you feel in your relationships.
You could be having a large number of friends in your social circles but if you do not find anyone with whom who you can connect deeply mentally or emotionally; you are bound to feel lonely even in a crowd of superfluous social contacts.
2. Over 60% of lonely people are married
Did you know that more than 60% of people who feel lonely are actually married?
Research conducted by a lot of psychologists shows that when married couples start feeling that they cannot share their deepest thoughts and feelings with their significant other, they feel highly disconnected and alone despite of being in a congenial relationship.
Loneliness starts to creep in when one or more partner starts to feel that their spouse cannot offer the deep connection they desire.
One or more of the partner might start to feel unheard, unloved and devalued or simply monotonous with a lack of novelty in their daily interactions, gradually slipping into loneliness.
3. Loneliness affects our perception of reality
When you feel lonely, you can start to feel hopeless and dejected and start to view things from a pessimistic point of view.
Loneliness can distort your perception of reality to the point that you would not be able to see and appreciate all the good things happening in your life.
It can become like a dark cloud of negativity that can completely distort your perception of the reality.
You start seeing everything in negative light, focusing only on the drawbacks of everything. Your logical reasoning, power to see the pros and cons and taking good decision, all gets hampered by the feelings of loneliness.