Watch out for these 3 sneaky techniques narcissists use to gain attention.
The narcissist needs all eyes on them – because they are the only supreme deity they acknowledge
Narcissists are always trying their best to gain attention because without attention they cannot survive.
For any narcissist, attention is a staple food. If you cannot provide a narcissist with the appreciation, compliments, and praise that they believe they deserve, you will be cast out of their life. For all narcissists, you are a mere supply of their needs, which include all the positive requirements for a fulfilling life.
Most of the sustained intimate relationships are based on the mutual expression of feelings but a relationship with a narcissist will always be one-sided. It’s all about give-give-give it all, and never ask for anything in return. The moment you do so, you will be tricked, manipulated and controlled into doing things for them.
A narcissist, without a second thought, is a self-obsessed person.
They are of the belief that the world revolves around them. Most of their time and energy is spent on making themselves look and feel good and they constantly seek self-affirmation (Twenge & Campbell, 2009).
A crucial component of narcissism is the need to be the center of attention because doing so fulfills narcissists’ goal of being agentic. According to Buss & Chiodo(1991), when attention to the self is not forthcoming, narcissists may engage in compensatory actions to direct attention toward the self.
You can easily become a victim of these complementary actions, especially if you have been devoid of attention for a long time. You will never come to realize when the narcissist has exploited your deepest needs to fulfill theirs. It is always a good option to know how a narcissist works to turn the wheel of attention towards themselves so that you do not remain in the dark.
The following are 3 few ways in which a narcissist tries to refocus other people’s attention to themselves:
3 Sneaky Techniques Narcissists Use to Gain Attention
1. Playing the blame game
One of the dirtiest games a narcissist plays is the blame game. It is a psychologically manipulative technique that the narcissist applies to project their own faults and mistakes on to the other person, getting rid of its responsibility all along the way.
Here I will illustrate how they play a blame game:
Suppose your partner is recently acting emotionally indifferent towards you. He/she has been displaying signs of infidelity like lying, hiding information and you are suspicious that he/she might be cheating on you. So one fine day you finally approach him/her armed with every single proof you have.
You: “Recently I have been noticing some changes in you. Is everything all right? Is there something you want to tell me?”
Your partner: “No. Why? What is wrong?”
You: “I believe you are hiding something from me. Is that true?”
Your partner: “What do you mean I am hiding something? Are you even distantly suggesting infidelity?”
You: “I was just wondering…” (cut short)
Your partner: “How could you? Do you think I am so cheap? You have always been suspicious of my intent. You never trusted me even when I did my best to keep you happy. I should have never been with a controlling person like you.”
