Narcissists live in their own emotional world — if they cannot be your hero, they may claim to be your victim.
Stop your pity party and start taking ownership of everything in your life.
The self-victimizer will accept insufferable abusive treatment from their partners and will continue their toxic relationship.
In terms of gaslighting, I define it as, “to implant false and/or distorted narratives that are specially designed or formulated to manipulate a person into a destructive web of deception, loss of control, and the surrender of personal freedom and beliefs of self-worth, self-value, self-esteem, and productivity.”
– Ross Rosenberg
People who struggle with the victim mentality are convinced that life is not only beyond their control, but is out to deliberately hurt them.
“It was tough love advice that someone gave me: They said, no breakup is about about the other person, it’s all about you. You made the decision to stay with a not-so-great person, you chose not to see the writing on the wall. The minute you own that, it empowers you to no longer play the victim.”
— Janet Bertolus
Signs of introverted narcissism, variously identified as a covert narcissist.