21 Signs Your Partner Isn’t Interested In The Relationship


Signs Partner Isnt Interested In Relationship

Have you ever felt that your partner isn’t interested in the relationship anymore? A few signs can help you understand this for sure.

As we are all well aware, you can’t clap with one hand, a relationship needs mutual understanding and equal love and efforts from both individuals bonded together. Else “happily married” would appear an oxymoron to you.

“To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship.” – Domenico Cieri Estrada

There is no point in living in a relationship that makes you sad, depressed, and hopeless. The sooner you figure out that your partner isn’t interested in the relationship, the better you will be! Are you ready to know if your partner is serious about you and your relationship? Then,

Here Are 21 Signs Your Partner Isn’t Interested In The Relationship

1. They don’t give you time.

Does your partner react and pull away? Are they too late to respond to your texts and calls?  When they don’t want to spend time with you they maintain both physical and emotional distance. They ignore your attempts to go for a movie, holiday, shopping, etc. And you end up feeling lonely and confused unable to find any valid reason why they are “so busy”! 

2. They start behaving selfishly.

Does your partner respect your opinions? Take accountability for things? Try things to make you happy? If no then, it is a red flag that your partner is selfish. Lack of empathy, flexibility, and habit of giving back in relationships indicate that your mate is not interested in the relationship.

3. Lack of communication.

21 Signs Your Partner Isn't Interested In The Relationship

Does she tell you when she’ll be home? Is he expecting you to know everything that is in his mind?  You two may spend the entire day not talking to each other or just talk at irregular intervals and your spouse may probably think it’s normal. If your partner is disinterested in you, they turn to be non-communicative.

Related: 8 Behaviours and Thought Patterns That Reveal Unhealthy Communication In Marriage

4. You talk, but they never listen.

Does your partner change the topic to something else while you’re sharing something that is more sensitive or meaningful to you? Or ready with a speech even before you could finish ranting about your problems? Or just busy browsing on mobile when you are speaking? Then they are ready to louse up a relationship with you. 

5. Lack of interest.

The absence of enthusiasm to know about what’s happening in your personal or professional life is another warning sign. Lack of romantic inclination towards you or expressing the feeling of boredom is the sign your partner is no more interested in the relationship.  

Related: Conflict Doesn’t Ruin a Relationship, a Lack of Connection Does

6. Controlling nature of partner.

If he’s bored of you and at the same time loves to control you, then you must run away from this relationship and never look back. Using blame game, guilt tool, chronic criticism, drama, acting moody, keeping score are some of the signs your partner is controlling you. 

Related: Your Partner Can Control Your Brain, Science Explains

7. Playing the blame game.

This is due to low self-esteem, insecurities, and unhappiness in life. Being incessantly blameful is narcissistic or you may also say borderline abusive. This is quite common with partners who are emotionally immature and feel burdened with responsibility.  

Related: 12 Signs You Are Married To A Narcissist

8. Negative feelings due to friction.

A partner who is not interested in the relationship may harbor negative intentions and leave no scope to insult you and hurt you. You may end up feeling embarrassed and depressed. When they act filthy and nasty, you must understand that it’s about them not you! 

9. Not including you in their personal matters.

They no longer involve you in their bucket list wishes, career, and future plans. It’s an indication that they don’t envision the same kind of future as you do. If they can’t trust you or consider you reliable enough to share personal matters and secrets then you too shouldn’t trust them with your feelings. 

10. Lack of respect.

Respect is the prime factor! Whether you are in love with someone or not, you should at least have respect for the person. If your partner is lying, not listening or prioritizing you, or trying to be inconsiderate or purposely hurt your feelings, then it’s a sign that he is no more interested in the relationship. It’s time for the victim to confront and make a wise decision. 

11. They stop being considerate of you.

A partner who isn’t interested in the relationship will have sex when they want, find new reasons to nag about something or everything, argues for no reason, never show empathy and make sure their interest comes first. Cheating may or may not be the case here, but would you like to be in such a selfish marriage?    

12. Excuses galore.

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Actions speak louder than words! If your girlfriend or boyfriend makes excuses when it comes to dating or long term commitment or not meeting your expectations, then they aren’t interested in you anymore. True efforts stand out! If your partner professes love but never figures out a way to make things work with you then it’s time to reconsider your relationship.  

Related: 9 Excuses Men Give To Avoid Commitment

13. They stop caring about your well-being.

How was your day? How is your health? What about your new project or job? If your partner doesn’t bother to ask such basic questions or discuss how you feel, then you don’t deserve to be in this relationship. 

14. Ignore, disrespect, avoid.

They don’t sit with you to have open, honest discussions about your love life or marriage and related concerns. You will find a noticeable change in their personality and lifestyle habits that makes you feel disrespected, ignored, and avoided. 

15. They seem to change you

You may feel changed as a result of your partner’s lack of interest in the relationship. You smile less, reluctant to engage in your favorite hobbies, keep worrying about your love life, and so on. It’s quite common when you are suffering from unrequited love.

16. They avoid your friends and family

Your partner makes no efforts to get along with your besties or near and dear ones. Also, he or she may postpone the plans of introducing you to their family members. Please note that if any of your loved ones feel suspicious about your lover they might be observing red flags that your too smitten to see.

17. There is no intimacy in your sexual life.

Do you know the valid reason why your partner is never in mood or what is holding them from getting physically intimate with you? Is your partner willing to communicate about his desires, wants, and needs in the bedroom? At least is there any intimacy without intercourse like long and deep conversations or holding hands walking on a beach or long drive and so on? Then it’s another big red flag. 

Related: Conversations That Help Connect and Build More Intimacy In Your Relationship

18. They always avoid committing.

Does your partner follow up on promises? Or unwilling or dismissive of the feeling of togetherness? Or appears lethargic in maintaining relationships? When the person avoids anything related to commitment even though you have been dating for years, then it’s a clear sign that the person isn’t interested much.  

19. They might have fallen out of love.

Lack of affection, emotions, being more distant than usual and being happier without you are all signals that your partner has fallen out of love. Even if you confront them, they may just start an episode of empty apologies. It speaks volumes about their real intentions. 

20. They cheat on you.

Cheating is the sign of the complete disinterest of your partner in the relationship.  Secret phone calls, less emotionally connected sex, altered work schedule, unexplained expenses, unreachable over the phone are all signs that your husband or wife is cheating on you.

Related: 17 Heartbreaking Reasons Why People End Up In Emotional Affairs  

21. You are unhappy and depressed all the time.

You feel unfulfilled, unhappy, dissatisfied, confused, lonely, and depressed in the relationship. Nothing could be worse than loneliness being in a romantic relationship with someone.  You will always remain on the verge of tears or keep crying. You will realize that the connection you used to share with them is gone.

If any of the above-mentioned signs are coming up in the course of courtship, this is a clear indication of that particular person’s disinterest and weariness about continuing the relationship anymore.

It is fine to fix it or just try to mend it for some time but if nothing improves much even after trying hard, then it is always advisable to let the person go, move on and lead a much happier life.

If you want to know more about the signs that your partner isn’t interested in the relationship anymore, then check this video out below:

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  1. cynthia Avatar

    This is defintly talking about my Husband.. But of course he would denie that… An he would get really defended if i wanted to read this to him. My nerves an Heart can’t take much more, its like beating my head into a brick wall over an over again.. Its as if he provoks me..

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