Here’s how good conversations in relationships can help improve closeness and share growth with your partner.
“One good conversation can shift the direction of change forever.” – Linda Lambert
Do you want to create a more meaningful and intimate relationship with your partner? Well, it can be really easy when you know how to communicate effectively. Deep conversations can work wonders for your relationship but knowing how to have them can be a real challenge. When you take the opportunity to talk about deep topics you can build a stronger bond with the person you love.
As relationships are a crucial aspect of our lives, asking the right questions and talking about what truly matters will help you understand your partner better and evoke a deeper engagement.
Conversations can help you connect in a way that will not only improve the quality of your relationship, but it will also help you and your partner grow in the relationship.
Here’s how to improve closeness and share growth with your partner.
I wonder how much time you spend on your cell phone and social networking. In comparison, how much time do you devote to periodic, caring conversations with your partner?
My intuition is that the difference between the two is where opportunities for deepened intimacy and mutual growth lie ─ regardless of how busy each of you is.
This article will contribute to the quality of time you choose to invest in conversations that benefit and give pleasure to you both, as well as deepen your connection.
“Good conversation is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after.” – Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Use and adapt any suggestions below to build on strengths and sustain the value of what you give one another. They are also antidotes to feelings of loneliness and disconnection that occasionally emerge in close relationships. That may happen when time and energy are given over consistently to chores, work demands, and “administration” that comes with daily living.
Such routines contribute to a paradox of loneliness even in intimate connections because they sap potential depth and soulfulness.
Recognized as an epidemic by recent Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, patterns of loneliness and disconnection are also supported by a 2018 Cigna study. It found that one in four people rarely or never feel as though others really understand them.
43 percent sometimes or always feel that their relationships are not meaningful. Dr. Murthy recommends a treatment: Finding real, face-to-face connections with people you love.
Here are some ways to connect better through conversation:
“Nothing compares to a beautiful conversation with a beautiful mind.” – Anonymous
1. Conversations, especially heart-to-heart ones, are good ways to start and promote that process. One key to a great conversation is making it real or genuine, in contrast to what I call tip-toe chats. They are usually polite time eaters that just avoid or talk around issues and concerns, even opportunities, related to changes in lifestyle, activities, and choices.
2. Another key to great conversations is developing ways to collaborate on something of value to you both. In other words, avoid recurring habits and routines of communication such as “How was your day?” or “What happened about…?”
3. Rather, bring up specific matters of mutual interest or concerns that have meaning and relate to your relationship in positive, productive ways.
4. Yet going deeper might involve some risk, especially if communication varies from seemingly safe, predictable routes and habits. So, start with small steps by clarifying together how you’d like to move forward. Perhaps even agree first on different venues to take you away from distractions and repetitive associations.