There comes a time in life when you wonder when to walk away from a man. Here are 9 things a man says that should warn you not to walk, but to RUN!
People often come up with lame excuses when they fear commitment in relationships. If your man says these phrases, then you should leave. When a man says any of these phrases, if not all, then know that there is no way he is ever going to fall for you or get committed to you. It is what it is.
Lame, lame, lame.
Heās not committing to you. He has a billion reasons of why he supposedly just doesnāt want to commit.
Some of these reasons may be valid, but either way, does he really care about you? You canāt tell. You sometimes think yes and sometimes think no. But he wonāt commit andĀ heāsĀ not pushing the relationship further either.
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Itās like youāre in a holding pattern: the train never moves forward. With all of his hesitancy, you wonder how to know if heās ready to commit and where you stand with him.
One thing that must be true: he doesnāt love you. If he did love you, heādĀ figure out his issues or concerns and commit to you.
So, whatās the best way to tell that heās serious about you? If he doesnāt ever utter these 9 phrases. And if he does, youāre better off ending things.
Walk Away From A Man, If Your Man Says These Thingsā¦
1. āIām not ready.ā
This is an oldie but goodie⦠not.Ā Heāll say heās not ready and, by chance, he may not be. He mayĀ really be traumatized from a breakup or divorce and not be able to give himself away, but this isnāt the case each time.
2. āI want to play the field still. Date around.ā
Okay, keep those options open.Ā Heāll tell you he wants to date around, but it also means that you arenāt the one for himā¦Ā at least not right now.Ā Maybe heāll realize how special you are, or maybe not.
How do you deal?Ā You go out there and date others and if seeing him is too hard, you release him to the world and see if he comes back. In the meantime, you keep hunting for someone who wants you as much as you want him.
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3. āI canāt make any promises.ā
Sure, he likes you so he doesnāt want you to go anywhere, but he doesnāt love you enough to commit and settle down. So, heāll see you and spend time with you but he wonāt commit because he doesnāt want to make a promise that he canāt keep. You deserve better.
4. āI still want to see what is out there. Check out my options. Iām sorry.ā
If he prattles on about how heās not ready to settle down because heāll lose options and heās not ready to do that, itās crappy, but heās honest.Ā
So, in a way, heās doing the right thing by not promising you something he wonāt stick to.Ā On the other hand, heās playing you. Drop him and see if he rolls on back.
5. āI donāt see a future with you.ā
So,Ā heās a nice guy and is good to you, but heās not signing himself up to be with you.Ā Why? He doesnāt see a future with you.Ā If he doesnāt see a future with you, he doesnāt love you and heās not worth another breath or second of your time.
6. āItās me.ā
It may very well be āhim.āĀ His past relationship issues. His Addiction. His fear of hurt. His life,Ā college or job or family commitments.Ā
Sure, there may be reasons that he canāt commit.Ā But when he says āitās me,ā heās also saying,Ā āItās not youā¦Ā the one I love.ā
Let him take his excuses and go. If he figures out his issues and decides that youāre a āmeā heād like to be with, great! But otherwise, keep on walking.
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7. āI just need space.ā
Alright, letās assess.Ā Some space may be what he needs in order to think about what he wants and itās not always a cop-out.Ā
Donāt write him off yet, but if heās constantly asking for space itās because he doesnāt want to commit to you and doesnāt love you.
Or, heās got major issues.Ā If he has issues, let him work on those.Ā You canāt fix him.
8. āIām not over my ex.ā
Eye roll.Ā This is a major excuse that you arenāt the one. And really, if heās sitting there crying over his ex,Ā nobodyĀ will be the one.
Heās too busy soaking in his own misery to enjoy his life. SayĀ bye to this tearful Tom!
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9. āI just need time.ā
If he just met you recently and is slow to start up, thatās okay. Heās worth being patient for.Ā However, if itās been years and he still has this little excuse, cut it off.
Donāt be one of those people whoĀ dates someone for ten years waiting for engagement, never to be asked. He doesnāt love you or heās a chronic bachelor.
Trust your instincts and prioritize your well-being. If some things a man says consistently raises red flags, it might be run and head in a direction that leads to your own happiness.
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Written ByĀ Alex Alexander
Originally Appeared On YourTango
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