“Just because you are a nice guy, doesn’t mean you are a good man.”
― Zyanya Torres.
Nice guy or a good man: which one of these are you?
Yes, you might start scratching your beard and wonder, what’s the point in this question and you if you are doing this right now, then this article is the one for you.
Strange as it might sound, there are differences between a nice guy and a good man.
A nice guy will do nice things and expect the same in return. He will be there to take his lady out on a lavish date and then he will expect her to do something for him.
For a good man, this goodness comes from within. He is good by nature. He doesn’t expect people to behave like him. If someone is good to him, that’ more than fine.
For a nice guy, public image is of extreme importance. Whatever he does, contributes to the enhancing of his image. He needs to be loved and admired by everyone.
But a good man is only conscious of his character. As long as people appreciate his character, he is at peace.
The boundary of a nice guy is fluid. He moulds it as per his needs.
The good man knows his boundary well. He knows where to keep his limits. This earns him the respect of everyone.
A nice guy will flatter his lady love and make her feel she is his world.
But a good man understands the value of true love and knows that being in a romantic relationship with someone doesn’t mean discarding other people and work. He will love her and give her the respect and attention she deserves.
Rejection freaks out a nice guy. He is always seeking validation from others.
The good man, on the other hand knows his worth. He sees acceptance and rejection in the same light.
A nice guy needs a shroud to hide his intentions.
The good man is transparent. His aims and motifs are clear to all and to him.
For a nice guy, there’s always a person or an incident to be blamed for all the negativities in his life.
A good man will never put the blame on others. He will not only take responsibility of his own actions but also be responsible for others.