What Women Want: Nice Guys or Bad Boys
When it comes to dating, most women prefer romantic, sensitive, well behaved nice guys. However, the same women often fall head over heels for the arrogant, brutish and rude bad boys. What’s going on? If women truly want nice guys, then why do they date “jerks”? Why do nice guys end up in the friend zone and “finish last”? Let’s take a look….
“Attraction is beyond our will or ideas sometimes.” – Juliette Binoche
A reader wonders why women say they want nice guys and instead fall head over heels for players.
Women say they want nice, genuine guys—not players, and care about personality more than looks. So why is it that when nice, genuine, funny guys show interest in them they never interested, but instead go for players with nice looks?”
Good question. Let’s talk about how women process attraction.
Wondering why it doesn’t seem like women know what they want from a relationship with a man?
This begins with understanding the one thing about women that most men have completely backwards: what women want in a man.
They tell you they want a nice man with good manners who knows how to treat a lady and who loves his mother. A man who’s sensitive and responsible and who opens the door for them, tells them how beautiful they are and is a great friend.
They fall madly in love with players who are unrefined, obnoxious, cocky, a bit childish and who you just look at and wonder:
“What the hell does that guy have going for him?”
Meanwhile, here you are, being the nice guy with good manners who knows how to treat a lady and who loves his mother. A man who’s sensitive and responsible and who opens the door for her, tells her how beautiful she is and is a great friend.
And where does that get you? A place in her life as either a “great friend,” or worse, she slowly writes you out of her life.
What in the world is that all about?
You did everything according to the book.
You were just the man that she said she wanted.