Nice Guys Finish Last because they are Manipulative Liars

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Nice Guys Finish Last because they are Manipulative Liars



Most so-called ‘nice guys’ are manipulative douchebags that act nice to get what they want. They are smart manipulative people who never reveal their true intentions. 

Let’s end this whole “nice guys” myth once and for all…

The term “nice guy” has been thrown around in popular culture a lot lately. A quote-unquote “nice guy” is actually a first-class manipulator.

(I was going to link to an Urban Dictionary definition of a nice guy here, but I found out that they have over TEN pages of definitions submitted by active/recovering nice guys and it was all a bit too depressing.)

Women don’t have an aversion to truly nice guys… they have an aversion to passive, manipulative liars (just like – surprise, surprise – all humans do!).

People respond positively to others that have a strong sense of identity, solid morals, and strong personal boundaries (all things in which “nice guys” are lacking).

The fact that terms like “nice guy” and “friend zone” are still being thrown around at all these days speaks to an underlying culture of female-biased sexism, but that’s a topic for another article.




 

Nice Guys, Jerks, And Strong-Minded Men

One of the nice guys’ favorite fall back arguments is that “Women say that they want a nice guy, but what they actually want is a jerk.”

Oh, my friend, if only it were that simple. Kidding! It’s even simpler than that.

Women don’t like being lied to. They’re also generally a lot more socially intelligent than men. Even if you think you’re being extra sneaky, your intentions have been noted by females before you’ve even fully formed your first thought.

  1. Nice guys = passive, manipulative liars who attempt to trade niceness for intimate relationships/sex. Most men are hopelessly transparent with their intentions with women, but nice guys really take it to the next level.
  2. Jerks = assertive/aggressive suitors that share more character traits with a strong-minded option than nice guys.
  3. Strong-Minded Man = an assertive, strong-willed person who is unapologetically forthcoming with his desire. He is ready and willing to take no for an answer without resorting to manipulation or douche-baggery.

So reading through the three descriptions, doesn’t it become clear that the nice guy option is a dead last?

If you are a man reading this article, imagine all of those descriptions again but instead describing women.

  1. a girl that you are not attracted to in the slightest who keeps trying to convince you to like her by being extra-super-duper nice.
  2. a girl that isn’t necessarily your ideal woman, and is a little rough around the edges, but you feel magnetically sexually attracted to her for some reason (though you probably wouldn’t bring her home to meet your parents).
  3. a woman with clear morals and boundaries, a voracious sexual appetite and has no problem initiating sex with you but will turn it down when she isn’t feeling it, and doesn’t push you to do things that you’re not comfortable with.

Unless you’ve got some intimacy issues, narcissism, or low self-esteem a-brewin’ within the chaos of your mind, you would most likely be attracted to #3, followed by #2, and then by #1 in a distant last place. And guess what? That’s what women respond to too. Hooray, we’re all humans and there are no distinguishable differences in our attraction process when it comes to not enjoying being lied to!