Narcs Have 2 Camps:
The Ones that don’t know them (those that love them) and those that KNOW THEM (and can’t stand them).
Talking to another victim of the narcissist that abused me last evening made me realize a few things about narcissists and their 2 very opposing camps of people in their lives.
The narcissist guards these camps like a prison guard. Making sure that the two camps have NO INTERACTION. They’ll build a wall so high that the dupe won’t see past it: the other camp is described by the narcissist as “crazy, bitter, revengeful, jealous, harmed the narcissist and still wants to harm them.” The tales they’ll spin to build that wall, is unbeknownst to the new target, a PRISON that will soon cause them to feel trapped and lifeless.
The narcissist knows with dire fear, that their gig is up if the duped person begins to believe what those in the other camp have to say and recognize it with clarity as truth.
Those Who Don’t Know Them (Like Them)
One camp is the duped and deluded. They’re infatuated, obsessed even boot licking sycophants who can see NO WRONG the narcissist does.
They make excuses for the narcissists bad behavior, to the point of acting as accomplice to toy with the emotions of a previous victim, They refuse to listen to anyone from the other camp whose tried to warn them that there is DANGER ahead.
They’re fueled by flattery, falsehoods, manipulation of their own mirrored emotions and dreams and becoming as obsessed with the narcissist as much as the narcissist is themselves. They want to scream from the rooftops how they’ve found the love of their life, their long lost best friend, or the most loving partner ever. They sing the narcs praises and fuel the common addiction and budding codependency.
They don’t use judgments about character to step back and look at the narcissists actions and don’t ask themselves the important questions:
How can this man claim to be a loving person, yet cheat repeatedly on his wife? The “love of your life” is NEVER married to someone else. Narcissist’s are.
How can this person feign sensitivity, yet every time you bring up emotions, they cannot be sensitive at all?
How can this person give the appearance that they’re a devoted father when the narcissist has a difficult time deciding whether to go to their child’s school events vs an appearance that will bolster the narc’s image?
Why are they beginning to act obsessed, question themselves and their values in this person’s presence, yet feel like this could be your soul mate?
How can a person you respect have a trail of victims, romantic, business associates, and “friends” who can tell you a whole other side to your “soulmate” if only you’d listen.
Those Who Know Them (And Can’t Stand Them)
These are the people who will give you a more HONEST account of who the narcissist is, and it is based on FACT after having dealt with them.
Things went horrible with us and the narcissist, and that is NOT because of some manufactured weakness or ‘issue’ they claim WE POSSESS. It’s the traits that they possess, the ones we’re trying to warn you about: their NARCISSISM.