20 Narcissistic Terms: A Glossary of Terms for Understanding Narcissism

20 Narcissistic Terms

When it comes to narcissists and narcissism, do you know all the narcissistic terms associated with it? It might help you understand this condition better.

Here Are All The 20 Narcissistic Terms You Should Know About

Narcissistic Terms Glossary Understanding Narcissism
20 Narcissistic Terms: A Glossary of Terms for Understanding Narcissism

1. Baiting

A narcissist loves to provoke a reaction from you, especially in public. They will provoke you into responding in an angry or emotional manner, (Your angry response is further evidence of your unbalanced state of mind).

2. Boundaries

Boundaries are a code of conduct or an unwritten set of rules which we consider to be reasonable behaviour from those around us and our response when someone steps over the line.

3. Co-dependent

The individual characteristics vary from person to person. Some of the more common characteristics would include trying to avoid making decisions preferring to rely on others. Co-dependents are often perfectionists who tend to put the needs of others above their own.

4. Cognitive Dissonance Common Terms Final

Cognitive dissonance occurs when one holds two or more contradictory beliefs or values at the same time. Sometimes people hold very strong beliefs and when they are presented with evidence which opposes those beliefs, they find it impossible to accept evidence to the contrary. Dissonance is often strong when we go against our own moral standards, for example, if someone believes that they are a good person and goes ahead and does something wrong or bad, the feelings of guilt and discomfort are known as cognitive dissonance.

5. Enabler

An enabler is someone who by their action or inaction, they encourage or enable a pattern of behaviour to continue or remove consequences of bad behaviour.

6. Flying Monkeys

Flying monkeys are people who have been convinced by the narcissist that he or she is the real victim. They inflict further harm on the real victim by submitting to the narcissist’s wishes and demands. They may threaten, torment, discredit or add fuel to a smear campaign by spreading lies and gossip.

Want to know more about narcissists and their flying monkeys? Read How Flying Monkeys Help a Narcissist and how you can save yourself

7. Gas-lighting

Gas-lighting is a manipulative tactic where a mentally healthy individual is subjected to conditioning behaviour so that they doubt their own sanity. The target starts to believe that their perception of reality is false. The narcissist may simply deny saying something didn’t happen when it did, tell you that you heard wrong or lie about an event or situation. Over time a victim starts to think they are confused and going crazy. They come to rely more and more on the narcissist to keep them right.

8. Grey Rock

Grey rock is a term used to describe your behaviour when trying to cut contact with a narcissist. The aim is to be utterly boring so that the narcissist no longer sees you as good supply and subsequently disappears.

9. Hoovering

The term, hoovering, is derived from the Hoover vacuum cleaner which describes how a narcissist attempts to suck their victims back into a relationship. They will use every trick in the book to get you back under their power and control. Hoovering often takes place after you have left them or after a period of silent treatment. They often promise to change their behaviour or say that they have already changed dramatically.

Have you ever fallen victim to the practice of hoovering? Read 8 Signs You Are The Victim Of An Abusive “Hoovering” Narcissist

10. Invalidation

Invalidation is a manipulative tactic used to get a target to believe that their thoughts, opinions and beliefs are wrong, unimportant or don’t matter.

11. Love Bombing

Love bombing is a term used to describe the typical initial stages of a relationship with a narcissistic personality where the narcissist goes all out to impress their target with flattery, holidays, promises of a future together having the target believe that they have met their perfect partner, their soulmate.

8 thoughts on “20 Narcissistic Terms: A Glossary of Terms for Understanding Narcissism”

  1. Avatar of Susana Ford

    Narcissist are not this way with all of their friends/partners but when they find the perfect victims they are just as you describe.

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