Realizing that you’ve been in that third person can be really enlightening.
Bringing a third person into the mix is a powerful way of abuse a romantic partner.
Triangulation is one tool in the emotional abuser’s toolkit. In the triangle, there’s you, the abuser, and at least one other person (or sometimes a pet).
What you need to know when a third person is added to your relationship.
This reliance on triangulation as part of our manipulations is because it is so effective at achieving many things for us. They are:
Triangulation is the way the narcissist maintains control and keeps you in check — you’re so busy competing for his or her attention that you’re less likely to be focusing on the red flags within the relationship or looking for ways to get out of the relationship.
― Shahida Arabi
When it comes to narcissists and narcissism, do you know all the narcissistic terms associated with it? It might help you understand this condition better.
“Until you realize how easy it is for your mind to be manipulated, you remain the puppet of someone else’s game.” ― Evita Ochel