The Anatomy of Narcissism

Anatomy of Narcissism

Narcissism, pathological self-absorption, first identified as a mental disorder by the British essayist and physician Havelock Ellis in 1898.

Narcissists do not value anything; do not confuse this with you not having value.

Narcissists do not love anyone, do not confuse this with you being unlovable.

Narcissists cannot appreciate the worthiness and beauty of life, do not confuse this with your being unworthy or not being beautiful.

It is normal human behavior to expect an emotional connection to be returned and it is normal to keep trying harder to have it returned, because it does not make sense that your input is not reciprocated, but you are dealing with a person whose internal workings you cannot begin to imagine.

Narcissists are disconnected from life; they have no knowledge, experience, or memory of love or caring.

They cannot appreciate beauty. They are not able to replenish themselves; they have no internal resources and are at the mercy of other people giving them what they need.

Narcissism means once they have used up one person they move to the next. When you have recovered some energy that is worth taking, they return.

Related: Signs You’re Arguing With A Psychopath

They know they will be ostracized from society if people know they have no ability to connect emotionally, so they develop in other areas to make themselves attractive – they develop in charm and charisma.

But it is important to understand there is no one inside and every breath you spend communicating with them is wasted; they don’t understand and they cannot understand normal emotions.  

They will copy emotional words because they have observed it is the best way to get what they want, but there is no substance to them; it is not their fault, but you must not have sympathy for them because they will use it.

Related: Identifying Emotional Abuse before it Happens.

They don’t know what loneliness and pain is; they only know that if they can make others feel it they can control them better.

It is a no-win situation and you must disconnect totally from these people. They suffer from a constant, torturous, empty boredom that cannot be healed.

They cannot be happy, they also cannot be sad. They are empty. They can only be temporarily filled up by adoration, but they are full of holes and it leaks out very quickly.

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Written by Ether Marin
This article was published in Let Me By Kim Saeed

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16 thoughts on “The Anatomy of Narcissism”

  1. The monster I got fooled by would say “It’s like there’s a black void inside me, like i’m empty” and I use to wonder what the heck he was going on about. Now I know it was where normal peoples souls reside, his was not there. shudder. If only there was a pre natal test for that, rid the world of them so the next generation doesn’t have to put up with their evilness.

  2. For what I just read, I was a victim of a narcissism, I was two years with someone like that, he had a rifle in my house, he tried to intimidated me, every time I was asking to put it away because I was nervous, he wold said, shot your mouth, I never let him controlled me he used to get really mad, sometimes he wold cry and made drama, to believe him that he loves me, I didn’t feel that from him, he was a hater ,putting me down for everything, calling the ugly names that came out of he’s mouth. When I was very honest with this person I would tell him everything no lies, and he didn’t believe me, so I was telling him, so I’m going to stared lien to you, I’m so happy he’s out of my life he cheated on me with a girl that I thought she was my friend, they broke my heart. Is a long story but the good thing is I’m free from that Scorpion narcissist,

  3. This piece is really closed minded. Narcissism is absolutely curable/treatable. If the person recognizes the issue and wants to change they can. This was clearly written from the perspective of a victim.

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