They would crush your soul through psychological manipulation.
“I’ve been doing this a long time- manipulating people to get my way. That’s why you think you love me. Because I’ve broken you down and built you backup to believe it. It wasn’t an accident. Once you leave this behind….. you’ll see that. – Caleb” ― C.J. Roberts, Seduced in the Dark.
Psychological manipulators don’t come in our lives as strangers. They roam around us in the garb of our family and friends.
Unlike the good people we meet, they use us to their own advantage and leave us damaged once the work is done.
They inflict harm on us in such a way that it becomes quite difficult for us to know their evil intentions in the beginning. If one notices carefully, there are 12 signs which actually reveal, one is being psychologically manipulated.
Here’s the list:
(1) They cash upon your insecurities:
The manipulator will never want you to feel empowered. So they will try their best to earn your confidence so that they can get to know your insecurities.
Once they have these secrets, they will use them against you, subtly attack you in form of sarcastic jokes or dark humor and might even attack you directly.
(2) They will put immense pressure on you:
Manipulators are always in a need of getting things done faster. If they want something from you, they will make it an emergency, pushing you towards an uncomfortable situation so that you can get it done for them.
(3) They will gaslight you:
Gaslighting is one of the techniques used by the manipulator.
Avoiding their own responsibilities, they will make you feel guilty of everything and once the victim succumbs to it, they will do their best to please the manipulator and come out of this feeling of being guilty.
(4) They will shower statistics on you to overwhelm you:
If they are giving too much of facts and showing too many data in an argument, it doesn’t mean they know a lot more than you.
It means they are using statistics just to make you feel they are far superior to you and that’s how they stop you from winning the argument. The end result is you accept they are the ones who are right.
(5) They use the form of passive-aggression:
Being silent and indifferent is one of their ways to make you do things for them. They will probably stop responding to your calls or texts, they will pretend they have forgotten to do certain things they were supposed to, they will act as if you don’t exist at all.
Eventually, you are the one who will try to get the communication back and give in to their wishes.
(6) They constantly judge you and criticize you:
We are all full of flaws but continuously judging someone and criticizing someone isn’t healthy either. By giving these negative criticisms about you, they point out your flaws, lowering your confidence-level and you soon start losing your self-worth.
This gives them an upper-hand over you and you tend to depend on them which they use to their advantage.
(7) They will always ask you to speak first:
No, speaking first isn’t a sign of respect. When your manipulator is letting you speak first, that means they are listening to whatever you need to say.
Once you are done, they have all the information with them and they can manipulate you accordingly.
(8) They will raise their voice and show negative emotions:
They become aggressive in terms of body and verbal language whenever you don’t accede to their wishes. They give negative vibes to get their things done.
By the use of body language as well as loud voice, they make you feel weak and plant the fear psychosis within you to make you do things for them.
(9) Displaying of negative gestures:
Often the manipulator shows negative gestures like not delivering things they were supposed to. By doing this, they seek for additional concessions and it’s their technique to keep you around.
(10) Giving you little or no time to take decisions:
While they think a lot before doing things, they would never let you take a decision slowly. This is because, if they do, it might happen that you could understand their intentions and back away.