Why Are Narcissists So Dangerous For Us?

Why Narcissists So Dangerous For Us

Often people claim narcissists are dangerous especially those who have been personally victimized. In this 21st century, hard statistics and science are pointing out that we are living in an increasingly narcissistic world.

People who have been personally victimized by a narcissist will warn us that narcissists are dangerous by a cautionary tale that –

When you dance with the devil (narcissists), the devil doesn’t change. The devil changes us.

It means narcissists are more likely to engage in manipulative or game playing behaviors and they will use , abuse and destroy us, which implies how dangerous narcissists are for us.

Narcissists are known to be excellent actors. Narcissists are dangerous as by their world class performance they make us mesmerized and leave us feeling deflated, bewildered and confused. They always like to paint a picture of themselves as victims in all aspects.

According to American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), Narcissistic Personality Disorder is defined as comprising a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), a continuing need for admiration, and a scarcity of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present during a sort of contexts.

Read more about The Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Many onlookers have a hard time believing that people we describe as narcissists are dangerous that it is the hardest thing to get the truth out of them as the closest we can ever come is a story that either makes them the hero or the victim but never the villain like – the narcissist will cut you off because you handed him / her the scissors. That’s how narcissists are dangerous for us.

As a mental health writer, I’m interested in exploring narcissism in the latter sense — as a pathology rather than as a lax term for a self-absorbed person. To gain more knowledge about narcissists are dangerous, I turned to a number of experts like –

According to David M. Reiss, M.D.“The term itself comes from the story of Narcissus in Greek mythology, dating back to a minimum of 8 A.D. As to the formal diagnosis, that arises from psychoanalytic thinking, starting with Freud but with different schools of psychology accepting slightly different understandings of the pathology/personality disorder over ensuing years.”

According to Dr. Keith Humphreys, a psychiatrist and professor of psychiatry at Stanford Health Care. “As we grow up, we learn that other people need things, too. Now, we may have moments where we’re very selfish, but it’s on a continuum; not for narcissists though. Narcissists are just stuck there during this bottomless, constant need.”

According to the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry (Vol. 67, No. 7) more than adult people young people are much likely to get affected by narcissistic personality disorder.

According to Review of General Psychology, (Vol. 14, No. 3) there is a rise in the self esteem of 80% middle school students in 2006 than in 1988.



If any of us have ever dealt with a narcissist one may have experienced that the sharp shock when we noticed the world wasn’t exactly the way the narcissist wanted us to see, and thus we understood that narcissists are dangerous. Delusions are basically false beliefs, fixed that cannot be corrected by logic and are not consistent with the culture and education of the victim.

Few of the delusions that are always present in a narcissist’s psyche:

1) Delusions of grandeur –

It’s basically a false or unusual belief about one’s greatness. Often this type of delusion is related to mental or physical health conditions, including schizophrenia,and some types of dementia. People experiencing this type of delusion  see themselves as great and important.

13 thoughts on “Why Are Narcissists So Dangerous For Us?”

  1. No one is off limits. Not even family. They will do anything to get what they want, even if it involves taking someone’s life. Ive seen the eyes go completely black in a rage. Pure evil. Dangerous. Be Severly Cautious. These People Are Sick and should be locked up.

  2. Old stepfather is a narcissist. I just realized this and im sad at the damage he has done. They destroy your values and positive view of the world. They come off as the most angelic friendliest people. They have a very outlandish side that makes you think theyre really cool. They take time to get to know your weaknesses and then use as a means of control. Until one day they discard you when you need them the most and your soul is torn out. And you are left with many questions. Never was physically abusive. It is very hard to know. So trust this article. I still doubt myself. One last thing……i hear him clearing his throat in my head since last summer and it still haunts me.

    Also…..i think he was a psycopath. I ended up hating my family labeling each of then narcissists for years. My mom still somewhat talks to him and that scares me but i choose to never c him again. My poor family and the way i treated them due to thinking they were narcissists when really it was him. I see everything so differently. And vain is an understatement. I used to never notice looks or anything. I used to be a free spirit always joking around. I became isolated and dull. Afraid to speak and insecure. It is not worth it despite how exciting they seem. Believe me that their excitement is them slowly sucking away your soul. They have tactics to get into your unconscious mind.

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