Why Are Narcissists So Dangerous For Us?

Why Narcissists So Dangerous For Us

Often people claim narcissists are dangerous especially those who have been personally victimized. In this 21st century, hard statistics and science are pointing out that we are living in an increasingly narcissistic world.

People who have been personally victimized by a narcissist will warn us that narcissists are dangerous by a cautionary tale that –

When you dance with the devil (narcissists), the devil doesn’t change. The devil changes us.

It means narcissists are more likely to engage in manipulative or game playing behaviors and they will use , abuse and destroy us, which implies how dangerous narcissists are for us.

Narcissists are known to be excellent actors. Narcissists are dangerous as by their world class performance they make us mesmerized and leave us feeling deflated, bewildered and confused. They always like to paint a picture of themselves as victims in all aspects.

According to American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), Narcissistic Personality Disorder is defined as comprising a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), a continuing need for admiration, and a scarcity of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present during a sort of contexts.

Read more about The Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Many onlookers have a hard time believing that people we describe as narcissists are dangerous that it is the hardest thing to get the truth out of them as the closest we can ever come is a story that either makes them the hero or the victim but never the villain like – the narcissist will cut you off because you handed him / her the scissors. That’s how narcissists are dangerous for us.

As a mental health writer, I’m interested in exploring narcissism in the latter sense — as a pathology rather than as a lax term for a self-absorbed person. To gain more knowledge about narcissists are dangerous, I turned to a number of experts like –

According to David M. Reiss, M.D.“The term itself comes from the story of Narcissus in Greek mythology, dating back to a minimum of 8 A.D. As to the formal diagnosis, that arises from psychoanalytic thinking, starting with Freud but with different schools of psychology accepting slightly different understandings of the pathology/personality disorder over ensuing years.”

According to Dr. Keith Humphreys, a psychiatrist and professor of psychiatry at Stanford Health Care. “As we grow up, we learn that other people need things, too. Now, we may have moments where we’re very selfish, but it’s on a continuum; not for narcissists though. Narcissists are just stuck there during this bottomless, constant need.”

According to the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry (Vol. 67, No. 7) more than adult people young people are much likely to get affected by narcissistic personality disorder.

According to Review of General Psychology, (Vol. 14, No. 3) there is a rise in the self esteem of 80% middle school students in 2006 than in 1988.



If any of us have ever dealt with a narcissist one may have experienced that the sharp shock when we noticed the world wasn’t exactly the way the narcissist wanted us to see, and thus we understood that narcissists are dangerous. Delusions are basically false beliefs, fixed that cannot be corrected by logic and are not consistent with the culture and education of the victim.

Few of the delusions that are always present in a narcissist’s psyche:

1) Delusions of grandeur –

It’s basically a false or unusual belief about one’s greatness. Often this type of delusion is related to mental or physical health conditions, including schizophrenia,and some types of dementia. People experiencing this type of delusion  see themselves as great and important.

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Kylie Clark

A kind psychologist with knowledge about therapeutic interventions (REBT & CBT). Experienced in taking one - one counselling sessions.View Author posts