To The Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go

To The Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go

Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go….

The open letter below was written by a woman who was tired of seeing the “nice guys” get away from the very girls that need them the most. Her reasoning is one we all need to pay attention to, nice guys, flighty girls, and all of us in between.

Dear Girl Who Walked Away,

It’s not like you weren’t aware of what you were getting yourself into. He told you he was nice. He trusted easily and gave you all he could when he could.

The nice guy believes in doing things right. He was there when you needed him to be, and he went out of his way to make sure you knew just how much you could mean to someone.

We live in a generation where we all have to wear masks and play parts to make it through the battlefield of dating in the 21st century. There is no such thing as giving it your all.

We like quotes on Facebook and post things on Instagram stating we want the masochist one day and the romantic the next. You play these games where being available can only happen sometimes, and playing hard-to-get must be your number one priority. Why?

To The Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go

I thought the ultimate goal was to eventually settle down. I mean, what is the point of dating if you have no desire for it to go anywhere? If a one-night stand is what you’re looking for, leave the good guys alone and toy within the levels you lay down.

Save yourself time and energy because the good guy isn’t going to make it easy to just walk away. The good guy cares, so he’ll get his explanation from you even though he knows it’ll be a load of bull.

Every girl says she likes the jerk because he’s the challenge — the one she must break, train and force to be more than just his nature. Have you ever thought, however, maybe you were the girl in need of learning what it means to actually feel again?

You went through something as we all do, and because of it, you changed. It’s normal and heartbreak happens, but the next jerk didn’t fix what the first one did; he kept it the same or made it worse. His priority was not you and couldn’t be you. So now you’re bitter and closed off from anything remotely more satisfying than a one-night stand.

I won’t deny that the jerk is fun or that a good time isn’t promised with him, but when it’s all said and done, is it ever more than just a good time? Probably not.

In fact, the jerk has a charm about him; it’s the charm you justify your pursuit with. You say, “There’s just something about him.” However, it’s probably the same quality that ended up hurting you in the past.

So you tried to push the nice guy away. When he wouldn’t go away, you pushed harder. Still, he didn’t give up and every time you pushed harder, he pulled you in even more.

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He ignored your fears and forced you to grow; he fought for your passions when you were too busy writing them off. He forgot your wants and focused on everything you needed. Then you walked away because he was too nice.

He gave you too much of everything you wanted, and life got too easy. You wanted conflict and hardship as if everything else in life did not promise you an endless journey of just that. This is where you failed.

The nice guy has been hurt, too, he just chose to stay nice. He learned that different people were going to provide him different things in life. The nice guy also chose not to let any of it change who he was.

36 thoughts on “To The Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go”

  1. This bothers me because there are good men out there. Even if you break up with them. Also, I was in an 8 yr relationship (married 6) to the kindest man. However we are NOT compatible. So yes while he is an extremely good, reliable, kind man, if I am not happy then I’m not happy. If it isn’t there anymore then it isn’t there. And just because they are good doesn’t mean they are right for you. Sex had to be there, passion for life, doing things with one another etc.

  2. Well I used to be a nice guy and my first love betrayed me..Slept with someone else. I did everything thing…Took me a year to get out of depression. I am not mad at her cause she taught me a lot of valuable lessons in life …
    Lessons that would have taken me a lifetime to learn cause I was so narrow minded….Betrayal was the best thing that ever happened to me..

  3. I dated a nice guy…he let me go …he married her..divorced her..called me..we are friends..he hurt me and I want no one..he tought me a big lesson..I am the only one I can count on.

  4. I’m weary of women who date jerks and not nice guys. I feel that many women who date jerks wish to somehow, by whatever means, want to control them. Even if it means it will be “a challenge” as so many of them have stated just in order to mold them into a man who fits all their desirable wants and needs without much consideration, if any, for his own. Many of these women do not truly care for such men and only wish to take advantage of them for whatever profit may be gained from doing such acts and later perhaps be rid of them. Namely if any negative extremities outweighs any profit.

    A jerk who assumes he has control in the relationship through his own behavior is easier to manipulate when the woman, in fact, has the control and leaves him, through whatever means, oblivious to it. Simply meaning the manipulation has already taken place and requires little to no effort to keep alive on her behalf.

    Remain a nice guy and date nice girls. What woman in her right mind would date a man who mistreats her. And since most women do not have mental issues and aren’t crazy like stereotypes would like you to believe, I’m going with the more logical, sensible approach when it comes to understanding why they would do so.

  5. I was a Nice Guy , but they were not and changed me completely , I left them all. Now ? I Ignore them , do my job , Not being bad but stop showing Goodness , Only true to those , whom I feel they are genuine person.

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