How do you brave the waters of finding love again after an old relationship scarred you?
It’s crazy to think how many people encounter toxic relationships.
You have a vague awareness that you aren’t always content in the relationship. But you would never rationalize your bond to be toxic. To find new romantic interests after a toxic relationship is an entirely mind blogging experience.
That the person you so blindly trusted played with you in a way you previously thought was unimaginable. After you get out of that dark cave, you’re still sort of covering your eyes, because the new light’s just a bit too bright.
Here are a few things that happen to girls who meet good men after going through a bad relationship.
1. You already know what love is.
Despite the way things ended, you experienced a sense of intense, real love, which is so much more than what people have experienced.
So don’t get too hung up on things if you can’t find someone for a while afterwards. It’s a rear experience to meet someone who touches your soul after something so intense and destructive.
2. Now that you have the time, reflect.
When you’re in a relationship, you don’t get the me-time you need, to think about things for a while. Go out on your own at things.
Just go over it in your head. While your ex may have been the one who destroyed the relationship ultimately, you’re probably more than aware of your own mistakes.
This is the perfect opportunity to think, reflect on your own mistakes and faults that left loopholes in the relationship. This introspection will assist in understanding the snag on your part.
3. Embrace your newfound feelings.
Since your previous relationship almost destroyed you (emphasis on the almost), you might just want to do you for a while.
And once it does happen, just grab the bull by the horns. Hit on that sketchy bartender you’ll probably flake out on. Kiss that random guy who might be questionably younger than you.
For a while loss yourself in the lure of passion. You don’t owe them anything. Only yourself for all the fun you missed out on before.
And the best part? You don’t care about what others think of your escapades anymore. You came out through hell and want to rediscover yourself.
4. Take it easy for a while.
In a toxic relationship, especially controlling ones, you might have gotten used to your partner obsessing over you to the point of seeming insane.
Most normal people aren’t manipulative or obsessed about controlling you. So may be your new romantic interest is not similar to your ex partner who plagued your life. They take it easy – so don’t think your new potential romance isn’t interested!
Savor the freedom.
5. Never be afraid of what you deserve.
Embracing insults and getting ignored? Those days are over.
In fact, your sixth sense for the slightest sign of a toxic relationship should flare up if it ever happens again.
The best thing to do is to nip the bud earlier on in the game than later. That way you’ll avoid getting any more attached to fake people with malevolent intentions. Sure, initially it will hurt you a lot but what doesn’t time heal?
Phew, good riddance!
6. Build your relationship with yourself.
The foundations of all secondary relationships are based on the foundations of the bond you have with yourself. The stronger the bond with yourself, the more stable you are, the lesser self-sabotaging you become.
Your intuition is probably more honest than your best friend at the end of a night out drinking. And that’s pretty honest.
So listen to it if you want to avoid a long series of unhealthy relationships.
7. Let go of the past.
We all have a bad habit of anticipating a positive consequences for everything which makes it difficult to stop expecting. Accepting uncertainty and embracing circumstances as it unfolds will help letting go of the past.
To be truly happy in the future, you gotta brush that dirt off your shoulder. Yes, all of it.
But don’t get rid of it entirely. Put it in a safe box somewhere, and when life’s got you down, remember the shitstorm it threw you in before.