The Honest Truth Is I Am Done Trying To Fix You

You were broken, or maybe you think you were. I didn’t want to make it better for you, but for ourselves. But instead, I broke myself trying to mend your wounds. Is trying to fix you and the relationship the answer to this predicament? I am done trying to fix you!




I used to believe in second chances and the possibility to make people change to be the best version of themselves. I believed that everyone deserves to be better, to love themselves even more, and to be fixed. Maybe that’s why I’ve always been attracted to those who need to be fixed, including you.

It took me a while to accept the fact that choosing you to be loved wasn’t a mistake. Even until now, I’m still convincing myself that failing to fix you wasn’t my mistake at all and it wasn’t your mistake either.



 “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”

Now I know that most of the time, some people will stay the way they are and I shouldn’t have had the intention to fix you in the first place.

Why I am done trying to fix you?

I Am Done Trying To Fix You.

Instead of being heartbroken because of you, I’m more disappointed with myself. I’m mad at myself for failing to make you feel better about yourself. I’m mad because I couldn’t make you find a way as you’d still say that you’re lost.




I’m disappointed with the fact that the best effort that I gave towards you still makes no difference as you stay the way you are, full of wounds and lost.

I thought that our relationship was going to work as I believed that I could fix you and all of your wounds, but I was wrong. It was getting harder for me to accept who you really are and I gave up on you. Maybe after all this time, I wasn’t loving you at all; I just loved the idea of fixing you.

Now, I realize that when you truly love someone, you will never want to fix them. Because love is not about fixing someone, it’s fixing ourselves.

True love won’t make us want to change the other person, it will make us want to fix ourselves instead. Love should make us realize our own wounds as we will try to fix ourselves and be better day by day, simply because we want to make the other person happy.

Read: Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner’s Feelings

You and I didn’t love each other; I was just being obsessed with healing your wounds, while you were enjoying all of my attention without having the urge to change yourself at all.




The hardest thing is not about moving on from you, it is forgiving myself. I’m in the process to accept the fact that it wasn’t my fault that you felt lost and your happiness was not my responsibility at all.

“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.” – Steve Maraboli

This time, I’m the one who will leave you behind as I know that if I stay, I will always have an expectation towards you. I will always expect that you’ll change your mind and be the person whom I’ve always wanted you to be, and I know it is the wrong way to love a person.

You will always be my lesson learned about loving someone. You’ve made me realize that I should’ve read the signs earlier that you weren’t the one, but you will never be my regret either. You made me learn about how the right love should feel and I shouldn’t feel responsible for other people’s wounds.

You are a blessing in disguise because now I realize that an insecure person, who needs to be fixed, will never be able to give love to others as they haven’t even love themselves enough.

I hope you will find a way to fix yourself soon; this is me leaving you behind and giving up on fixing you. It is not possible to fix people in a relationship; they are not objects. And the most important to keep in mind is that people change when THEY want to change, not when you feel they should.

Transformation should come from within, not due to pressure. Having a genuine and loving relationship means both the partners are content and happy with each other. One trying to fix the other is never going to make it work.

Read: Why You Need To Stop Fixing Your Emotional Suffering





Written By: Rayi Noormega
Originally Appeared On: Thought Catalog
Follow more of her work at Rayinoormega.com 
or follow Rayi on Instagram
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You were broken, or maybe you think you were. I didn’t want to make it better for you, but for ourselves. But instead, I broke myself trying to mend your wounds. Is trying to fix you and the relationship the answer to this predicament? I am done trying to fix you!




I used to believe in second chances and the possibility to make people change to be the best version of themselves. I believed that everyone deserves to be better, to love themselves even more, and to be fixed. Maybe that’s why I’ve always been attracted to those who need to be fixed, including you.

It took me a while to accept the fact that choosing you to be loved wasn’t a mistake. Even until now, I’m still convincing myself that failing to fix you wasn’t my mistake at all and it wasn’t your mistake either.



 “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”

Now I know that most of the time, some people will stay the way they are and I shouldn’t have had the intention to fix you in the first place.

Why I am done trying to fix you?

I Am Done Trying To Fix You.

Instead of being heartbroken because of you, I’m more disappointed with myself. I’m mad at myself for failing to make you feel better about yourself. I’m mad because I couldn’t make you find a way as you’d still say that you’re lost.




I’m disappointed with the fact that the best effort that I gave towards you still makes no difference as you stay the way you are, full of wounds and lost.

I thought that our relationship was going to work as I believed that I could fix you and all of your wounds, but I was wrong. It was getting harder for me to accept who you really are and I gave up on you. Maybe after all this time, I wasn’t loving you at all; I just loved the idea of fixing you.

Now, I realize that when you truly love someone, you will never want to fix them. Because love is not about fixing someone, it’s fixing ourselves.

True love won’t make us want to change the other person, it will make us want to fix ourselves instead. Love should make us realize our own wounds as we will try to fix ourselves and be better day by day, simply because we want to make the other person happy.

Read: Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner’s Feelings

You and I didn’t love each other; I was just being obsessed with healing your wounds, while you were enjoying all of my attention without having the urge to change yourself at all.




The hardest thing is not about moving on from you, it is forgiving myself. I’m in the process to accept the fact that it wasn’t my fault that you felt lost and your happiness was not my responsibility at all.

“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.” – Steve Maraboli

This time, I’m the one who will leave you behind as I know that if I stay, I will always have an expectation towards you. I will always expect that you’ll change your mind and be the person whom I’ve always wanted you to be, and I know it is the wrong way to love a person.

You will always be my lesson learned about loving someone. You’ve made me realize that I should’ve read the signs earlier that you weren’t the one, but you will never be my regret either. You made me learn about how the right love should feel and I shouldn’t feel responsible for other people’s wounds.

You are a blessing in disguise because now I realize that an insecure person, who needs to be fixed, will never be able to give love to others as they haven’t even love themselves enough.

I hope you will find a way to fix yourself soon; this is me leaving you behind and giving up on fixing you. It is not possible to fix people in a relationship; they are not objects. And the most important to keep in mind is that people change when THEY want to change, not when you feel they should.

Transformation should come from within, not due to pressure. Having a genuine and loving relationship means both the partners are content and happy with each other. One trying to fix the other is never going to make it work.

Read: Why You Need To Stop Fixing Your Emotional Suffering





Written By: Rayi Noormega
Originally Appeared On: Thought Catalog
Follow more of her work at Rayinoormega.com 
or follow Rayi on Instagram
I Am Done Trying To Fix You
I Am Done Trying To Fix You pin


Published On:

Last updated on:

Rayi Noormega

Rayi Noormega is a 22 year-old girl from Indonesia who is currently studying Psychology and just found out that her true passion is actually writing. She’s in love with midnight flights, city lights, and those long road trips until the dawn with non-stop deep conversations.

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