5. Discover How You’re Part Of Something Bigger Than Yourself, Perhaps Feeling More Spiritual From Enduring Trauma.
Bullying, acne, stuttering, and learning disabilities are among the many issues fueling trauma in others’ lives and because I suffered from them so acutely, I feel universally connected to others’ pain, even for those of you in other countries, I will never meet. It has helped me build close relationships with my loved ones, students, clients, and colleagues and feel compassion for strangers I bump into in public.
6. Realize How Your Relationships Become More Important And Increasingly Connect To What Really Matters After Suffering Trauma.
As I mentioned in #5 above, I’ve noticed my trauma has given me tools of compassion, empathy, and care that have proven to be extremely useful in my personal and professional pursuits.
Related: What To Do About Your Trauma
7. Flex Your Creativity Muscle.
Artists, musicians, and writers report their creative drive to decrease when their lives are generally calm, easy, and un-chaotic, and that stressful events, like a divorce or a pandemic, can replenish their creative juices. I’m sure you can think of many examples of this, public and private. Thank you, hardships, for giving me so much material to write about (especially this post).
Yes, trauma is worse than hard, and parts of this post may not apply to you like if you suffered complex trauma and/or trauma is actively still happening in your life. Also, I’m not asserting that hardship is good, but it can definitely have unintended positive consequences and a “silver lining.” My own experiences, those of others, and the research (key sources among many cited below) suggest PTG is more commonplace and accessible than you may imagine.
How has your pain, trauma, or hardship strengthened you?
This post is not meant to substitute for treatment with a qualified professional. If you’re looking for an EMDR therapist, I recommend checking the EMDR International Association (EMDRIA) website to ensure the therapist is certified (ideally), or minimally, was trained by an approved EMDR training provider. Copyright Dr. Jason Linder.
References Calhoun, L. G., Cann, A., & Tedeschi, R. G. (2010). The posttraumatic growth model: Sociocultural considerations. Faller, G. R. (2016). Sacred Stress: A Radically Different Approach to Using Life's Challenges for Positive Change. SkyLight Paths Publishing. Linley, P. A., & Joseph, S. (2004). Positive change following trauma and adversity: A review. Journal of traumatic stress: official publication of the international society for traumatic stress studies, 17(1), 11-21.
Written By Jason N. Linder Originally Appeared On PsychologyToday