9 Toxic Personality Types And How To Deal With Them


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Toxic Personality Types How To Deal With Them

Dealing with a toxic personality can be very hard and annoying, even more so in their twisted mind games. However, there are different toxic personality types, and once you know you are dealing with which toxic personality, you will be able to handle them better.

We’ve all come across those people who have very toxic personality types. I often wonder – why people have to be so mean to one another? Why do some people choose to live a life of unkindness? We (unfortunately) often face these kinds of toxic personalities in our everyday lives – at work, at school, within our own families, among friends, at parties or bars, and around new people, we may meet.

Here Are 9 Toxic Personality Types And How to Deal With Them

1. The Manipulator

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This one is sneaky, and will always try to get his or her way no matter what. Be careful, the manipulation is usually very subtle, and sometimes, you won’t even know it’s coming.

These people have a need for control. If you must interact with them, just remember to stand your ground and don’t ever do something you don’t feel comfortable with. Choose your words wisely around them, and definitely don’t trust them. They’ll be quick to back-stab you if they get the chance. Do not let them control you or play mind-games with you.

Related: 9 Types of Toxic People That Will Rob You Of Your Happiness

2. The Power Tripper

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This one can sometimes go hand-in-hand with the manipulator. We’ve all had that boss or co-worker who is on a complete power trip, and using that power to intimidate others. The power tripper will speak to you as if you’re inferior, or beneath them.

They use their power to exert control, probably because they feel as if they have no control over their lives outside of the workplace. Or, these people simply might be so power-hungry, they belittle those in a lower position because they feel like they can do whatever the hell they want.

DON’T let them get to you. You have to just do your work and remind yourself: this person does not own you. Do your thing and know your worth. If they want to pretend to be all high and mighty, let them. Reality will hit them hard one day.

3. The Cliquey Bitch

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You know the type, she won’t welcome you or anyone into her group, or she’ll go out of her way to make you feel like you don’t belong. She’ll stare, judge, and give dirty looks.

Things I never understood about girls like this: 1. Who wouldn’t want more friends added to their social circle? 2. It takes way more effort to be catty and mean, so why do it?

My advice – ignore them, it’ll drive them crazy. OR, kill them with kindness. They seriously won’t know how to react since they waste all of their energy being mean. And when their little clique falls apart, maybe they’ll regret not welcoming anyone new into their lives. Being a bitch almost always ends in loneliness. Just remember that.

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Toxic personality

4. The Judgmental One

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This person will judge everyone and everything. People like this are just so damn miserable with their own lives, that they feel the need to point out the flaws in others to try and feel better. When in reality, these people should spend more time reflecting on themselves own self, rather than judging everyone around them.

Certainly don’t listen to what these people might say behind your back, they tend to gossip a lot. And when they’re not gossiping, they’re wasting time staring, judging, and not growing as a person. They can judge all they want…and while they’re doing that, you’ll be too busy focusing on building a successful, happy future to notice.

Related: 13 Ways Emotionally Intelligent People Handle Toxic People

5. The “I Think I’m Better Than Everyone” Snob

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Newsflash to all the snobs: No one person is better than everyone else! We are all humans. We are all filled with flaws, regardless of how perfect these people might think they are. Snobs walk around like they’re God’s gift to earth, and are in need of a huge reality check.

It’s difficult to try and reason with these people because they’ll always think they’re better than you. So, try killing these ones with kindness while ignoring the imaginary high horse they think they sit on. Maybe one day they’ll pull their head out of their ass.

6. The Ruthless Bully

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That one person who makes fun of everyone with no remorse. No empathy. Not caring that they may be genuinely hurting someone’s feelings. These people suck.

And if you ever see someone being bullied, say something. No one deserves that. And these people need to get a life and get a hobby. Maybe if their lives were better, they wouldn’t spend so much of it picking on others.

7. The Pompous Asshole/Douchebag

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That guy with the crude, insulting jokes… you know, the ones he makes about women making sandwiches or how many girls he slept with this weekend. This type of guy is usually not very bright. He’s extremely rude and offensive, giving no fucks about anyone else’s feelings except his own.

However, some of these guys are actually very sad humans deep down. They use their asshole-ness as a defense mechanism, a way to feel better about how empty their lives truly are. Try being kind to a guy like this, or get to know him before making a judgment call. But if he cracks one insensitive joke from the start, run.

Related: 7 Tips For Setting Boundaries With Toxic People

8. The Narcissist

Most Toxic Personality Type

Narcissists should come with a “how-to” guide because they’re are very difficult to handle. They glorify themselves and have a sense of entitlement as if the world should revolve around them. As a result, they’re not good listeners. They may be hearing what you’re saying, but they’re not actually listening. Instead, they’re just waiting until it’s their turn to speak, because to them, that’s all that matters.

Narcissists have very little respect for anyone else’s feelings, opinions, and boundaries. Appearance is everything to them, and they will go to great lengths to look good. Narcissists are extremely charming and likable at first, so be careful. They know how to make another person feel good, but it is very short-lived and usually for some type of personal gain. They make excuses, never take the blame, and are very quick to point fingers. The worst part is, they don’t typically realize they’re doing any of these things.

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Toxic personality

9. The Drama-Setter

Ah, the drama-setter. We certainly all know one. This person lives for shit-talking, stirring the pot, and letting the drama ensue. Unfortunately, like most of these personality types, this person has such a miserable and boring life that they need something to make them feel better.

They need a distraction, a sense of belonging, or some excitement in their lives, so they choose to start drama. They truly have nothing better to do, or they’ve been wrapped up in it for so long that they now thrive off of it, and don’t know how to stop.

Drama-setters focus on the lives of others rather than their own, so that way, they don’t have to self-reflect. If they did, they would have to realize how poorly they treat others, how much unnecessary anxiety they might cause, or how unfulfilling their life has become.

Moral of the story: We should all try harder to be nicer to one another. No judging, no hating, no discrimination. We should all strive for compassion, peace, and love.

Nikki is from Boston and has been writing since she was a young girl. She often uses her personal experiences as inspiration for her writing, in the hopes of helping others out there who may have been through similar struggles.

She and her husband run a small business called Moonlight & Mindfulness where they offer hand-poured crystal candles, homemade tea blends, and crystal items like jewelry and gift sets. Nikki is also a meditation practitioner and leads workshops on things like the moon phases and shadow work.

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Originally Appeared Nikki Zarrella
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    Thank you Nikki as you have validated what I have come to realize. I so appreciate you. Much love/

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