Here’re things that narcissists do that will leave you drained, and, if you think you are dealing with one, it is better to take a 360-degree turn and never look back.
You must have experienced narcissistic behavior from people who were once your friend, lover, or colleague at your workplace.
Narcissist: a more polite term for a self-serving, manipulative, evil jerk with no soul and no compassion – Unknown
Narcissists can leave you frustrated and unhappy. So, here are seven things that narcissists do, that will help you realize if you are dealing with a narcissistic person at present. So, without much ado let’s get started.
1. They refuse responsibility
No matter what, it’s not their fault. It never is and will never be!
It’s not their fault that they hurt your feelings. Rather, it’s your fault for being so hurtable and or for having feelings. To a narcissist, it’s you who is “choosing” to be hurt for all the wrong things they have done to you.
They never fall short of excuses or justifications even when caught doing something rude, selfish, or uncouth. You may be told that they “had to” do it because of some emergency or blame it on someone. If you try to hold them responsible, and if, they fail to give further excuses, will admit that they simply don’t care.
Narcissists rewrite history to escape accountability. You are not crazy – Unknown
According to them, it is unnecessary or wrong for you to care. Even if you think or choose differently from a narcissist, you’re “wrong”, and they’re “right”. They would ask you to be righteous like them and most importantly – Uncaring.
2. They are bonafide liars
Narcissists lie out of habit or to gain influence or to manipulate. They also lie to get rid of that emotional responsibility and sometimes to create a good image of themselves.
The favorite game of narcissists is LIFE. And, their objective is to win this game at any cost, while TRUTH is one causality in their game plan. They aren’t afraid to speak the truth, only when it can save them or doesn’t cost them anything.
So, they consider truth is frequently “flexible” and optional. To a narcissist, being honest is not at all important. Moreover, they perceive honesty is something that can ruin their powerful persona or block their self-gratification.
3. They imply others are inferior
Narcissists are masters at the comparison and hiding their disdain. They will leave no stone unturned to prove that they are better and bigger than others. For instance, they can easily look down on people with lower salaries than them.
If narcissists are rich they can belittle servants or people in the working class. But, if poor, they can look down on upper-class people. Even if they find you more knowledgable or educated, they will not respect you and dismiss your opinion or say you know nothing. Irrespective of your lifestyle, choices, appearance, religion, culture, background, values, a narcissist devalues you unless s/he possesses the same.
Their love for power and popularity will provoke them to be –
4. They’re two-faced.
Narcissists have a real face and a stage face and both are never alike. If you have met a narcissist for the first time, you may find them smart, appealing, intelligent, and probably view them as the best person in the world.
Whereas, those who have known narcissists for years (parents, spouse, children, childhood friends, etc), can identify their real face and their frustrating, toxic nature. Those attracted to their staged face, wish to spend more time with them, but those who have seen the real face feel uneasy, angry, and unhappy. Over time, more people tend to realize their true colors.
5. They’re unforgiving
The #1 way to become an enemy of a narcissist is to question their loyalty or set healthy boundaries. For your “Mr. or Ms. Wonderful”, it’s a “punishable crime”. They will not tolerate people who unveil their mask and will use myriad ways to make you “pay”.