No doubt, humanity has experienced a vicious cycle of victimhood throughout recorded history, and although many of us have been victims of abuse, crime, or disempowerment, the dynamics that perpetuate victimhood remain hidden.
Therefore, before we can end the cycle of abuse and heal emotional trauma for ourselves and others, we must dispel the false perceptions that perpetuate disempowerment.
In fact, the truth about victimhood cannot only heal you, it can set you free!
Victim Vs. Perpetrator
On the surface, all abusive relationships and disempowering dynamics consist of at least one victim and one perpetrator, and while the victim remains blameless, the dynamics of abuse and disempowerment are blamed entirely on the perpetrator. However, under the surface, this deceptive perspective actually perpetuates victimhood.
For the sole purpose of providing deeper insight, I’ve decided to share the details of my own journey from victimhood to victory. So, rather than just telling you what I discovered, I’m going to show you how I discovered it.
Be warned, if you’re not ready to release the idea of victimhood, the following perspective could invoke a strong emotional reaction.
My Story: From Victimhood To Victory!
Shortly after I ran away from a dysfunctional home at sixteen-years-old, I found myself in a horrifically abusive relationship. Through the hands of a violent boyfriend, I was suffocated, strangled, and nearly beat to death every day for several long months, and even thrown out of moving cars on more than one occasion.
After being terrorized into complacency, my “abuser” made it perfectly clear that if I ever left him, he would hunt me down and kill me like prey, and, if verbal threats weren’t convincing, each time I attempted to leave, his actions left no room for doubt. Seeing myself as a helpless victim of abuse and paralyzed by fear and worthlessness, my perpetrator had the power to choose my fate, and, as a result, I was prepared for the worst.
After nine long months of escalating abuse, death appeared to be the only plausible escape, and, yet, in my darkest hour, I experienced an unexpected glimpse of hope. Although I began to envision a future beyond victimhood, before I could save myself, I had to consciously choose life, and this meant that I had to overcome a deep sense of worthlessness.
No doubt, the battle ahead would not be easy, and because my abuser would rather kill me than let me go, I had to face the dire fact that in order to save my own life, I had to risk losing it. Even though this might make me sound like a strong and brave kid, I was barely hanging on, and with absolutely no support, I was fragile and terrified! Any resources I once possessed were long gone, and, yet, I could not save myself while believing I was powerless. In fact, if I had any chance of rising above victimhood, I had to stop playing the victim.
So, with no other choice, and with only will-power and courage as ammunition, I was determined to rescue myself. Somehow, I would have to fight and win a personal revolution!
Fortunately, I’m happy to say that, despite a brutal and almost deadly escape, I ultimately survived – no doubt, with the help of divine intervention!
Revolution To Revelation
Even after I was physically free from abuse, deep emotional scars and unhealed trauma held me captive for years, and, as a result, the healing process took time to complete. Nonetheless, I eventually graduated from victim to survivor!
However, at some point, I realized that in order to be a survivor and tell my riveting “survival story,” I had to keep identifying as a victim, and this meant that the “survivor mentality” kept me trapped in victimhood.
However, even after I stopped identifying as a survivor, I still continued to believe that my past “abuser” was guilty of wrong doing and I was the innocent victim, and because I was innocent and he was guilty, I believed that I was the better person. Consequently, when I was finally able to forgive him for his atrocious acts against me, the act of forgiveness boosted my ego; “Look at me; I’m so great because I forgave the bad person who hurt me!”
Nevertheless, I forged the path of forgiveness and I went on to live a wonderful life….
Many years passed, and even though I thought everything was done and healed, unanswered questions still haunted me; Why did I have to experience abuse and victimhood in the first place, and, furthermore, why does anyone have to endure such pain and torment?
When reputable books and experts in various fields failed to offer complete answers to these perplexing questions and many others, I looked within for answers, and, consequently, I asked my Higher Self to show me a higher truth about the abuse.
Filled with paradoxes left and right, the multidimensional truth was not only complex, it was incomprehensible at first. Before I could perceive a higher truth, I had to create the space to receive. So, as I disentangled from mental and emotional constraints and I cleared the distorted lens of human perception, I became more and more receptive to varying points of view, and as my consciousness expanded, my ability to perceive grew too. Finally, with no filters to cloud my vision, an omnipotent vantage point revealed the Highest Truth – and this truth set me free!
Now, from me to you, the condensed version goes like this….