Most often we are unable to realize the influence our mind has on us. We hold on to certain limiting beliefs which do not serve us and hold us back in life from achieving our goals and dreams and appreciating ourselves just the way we are.
It’s time to stop holding yourself back.
If you struggle with understanding how to love yourself, you might accidentally be holding yourself back with negative thoughts and limiting beliefs.
Being able to practice self-love and raise your self-esteem isn’t just something you need to do to feel good about yourself — it’s a pivotal part of escaping the feeling of being “stuck” in your life.
Everyone gets stuck at one time or another thinking the worst, ruminating over inadequacies, or wishing for something to change. It makes us human. What you do when this happens is what makes the difference between breaking down or staying stuck.
Your thoughts become words. Words turn into actions. Your repeated actions become habits, and those habits can either raise or lower your self-esteem.
Good habits serve to move you forward and expose you to opportunities to feel good about yourself. Bad habits just make you feel bad and can keep you stuck in a rut.
If you’re mired in thoughts and patterns that make you feel bad or defeated, it’s tough to get motivated to do something about it.
Believe it or not, you can change your thoughts and create a new cycle that leads to words, actions, and habits that will motivate you to start living again.
It starts there because, like anything else, until you acknowledge that there is a problem, there’s no way to find a solution. Admitting that something has you treading water with no land in sight is the first step.
The second step is discovering the pattern of thoughts or behaviors that caused it. For most of us, it’s not just one demon — they come in teams!
Here are 11 limiting beliefs and thoughts you might have that are keeping you from embracing your true self:
1. “I can’t do anything right.”
This may be a pervasive feeling across all of the roles you play, or it may be restricted to one area while you’re just fine in another.
For instance, something may have happened years ago that made you feel not good enough. Over the years since, you’ve struggled to have meaningful and fulfilling relationships with life partners.
While this is an area of life where you feel inadequate, your professional life may be very successful and rewarding.
2. “I have to be perfect.”
Since perfection is in the eye of the beholder, this one sets an expectation that’s impossible to achieve. This need for everything around you to be perfect perpetuates the feeling of not being good enough.
When you strive for perfection in all you do, how you look, where you live and work, you’re asking yourself to be super-human. Now, that’s a deep ditch.
3. “I’ve got to do everything.”
You may have many roles to play: Wife, mother, daughter, aunt, employee, boss, friend, mentor, confidante, etc. Are there others for you?
Each role requires your energy, time, effort, and commitment. Some of these roles may be easier than others, while others feel hard and less manageable. With too many plates spinning at once, some may wobble until you spin it again, and some may fall.
This repeating pattern of juggling priorities may cause you to dig yourself deeper, rather than allow you to breathe and cut yourself a break.
4. “Am I being a people pleaser?”
When you put everyone else’s happiness, comfort, and desires ahead of your own, there’s never enough left for you. You get stuck thinking your partner, boss, children, friends, or family should come first.
That may be the way you were raised. It’s likely a long-standing belief ingrained in your habits. It may not be your fault, but you can change.