Whenever you feel like you are stuck in a rut, instead of beating yourself up and thinking that there’s no way you will be able to come out of it, try to be optimistic, take control of your life, and get back on track.
Life can be complicated. A few months ago, you felt like you were being extremely productive. You would visit the gym regularly, stick to your healthy eating habits, make achievements at your workplace, and were even getting quality sleep each night. You felt motivated enough to take on any task that came your way and even executed it to perfection.
But all of a sudden, everything is dull and bleak. You got too tired of the hectic schedule and you slipped, making you go down a rabbit hole of demotivation and procrastination. Maybe you suffered from the loss of a relationship, an illness, an injury, or a significant setback. Now, you only find yourself thinking negatively because you feel as though all the progress you had made is now ruined.
However, when things don’t work out, there are things you could do to get your life back on track. Many religions and traditions state that in the end, you will be happy. If you aren’t happy, then it is not the end.
But how does one find the motivation to start all over again when things don’t work out? Simple: you go back to the basics.
What Is Control?
When things don’t work out, the first thought that comes to mind is how to begin from scratch. But before you start figuring that out, it is important to know what control is.
Does control mean having a good work-life balance? Or does control refer to being a quick decision-maker?
The thing is that control can be subjective. Having ‘control’ over your life is important, but it may not always mean the same thing for two different people.
Taking control of your life means that you are self-aware and confident enough to embark on new journeys. This control allows you to feel motivated enough to believe that if you invest your hard work into something, you will reap great results.
While it is impossible to control all the external factors around you, it is possible to control how you feel about them. Taking control of your life begins with your thoughts and emotions—internal factors—which later translate into controlling your surroundings or external factors as well.
When things don’t work out according to plan, we feel as if everything is out of control. To avoid this, we must remember that taking control is a choice that we make for ourselves and that we can exercise that control over our lives whenever and however we wish.
12 Ways Of Gaining Control When Things Don’t Work Out
So, what do you do when things don’t work out and you feel as though you have lost control? You gain it back.
Here are 12 simple ways you can get your life back on track.
1. Reflect upon yourself.
A thorough life audit can clear your perspective. Since it enables you to focus on each area of your life separately, it gives you a better picture of where you stand at the moment. While you reflect upon your life, remember to include aspects such as your career, relationships, family, psychological and physical health, fitness, and overall motivation.
This gives you more clarity regarding where you are and where you want to be in the future.
While you could carry out this reflection yourself, there are also many tools available to aid you in this life audit process. The Wheel of Life focuses on a diagram method to evaluate your life, but there are also multiple different lists of questions available to assess your situation.