Staying calm in the midst of chaos is the most advantageous move you can make.
You may or may not know that I live in Palm Bay, Florida. It’s a coastal town that borders the Atlantic ocean. As a result, I have a bit of experience in preparing for life’s hurricanes (quite literally!).
And each time a hurricane rolls into town, I become even more aware of energy exchange and the importance of staying calm.
Ultimately, how we react to situations translates into our reality. Freaking out causes more accidents, stressors and problems. Staying calm allows us to prepare mindfully and deliberately without distraction.
As a Law of Attraction coach and someone who is pretty “mellow” most of the time, even I can get swept up in the chaos if I’m not focused on keeping myself balanced. The preparation for Hurricane Irma has been a reminder of this to me this week.
Driving around my town the past couple of days I’ve seen quite a few car accidents and people running into other problems and conflicts. My thoughts? Stress from the hurricane (which isn’t here yet) is leading some people to real-time problems and dangers in the present moment.
So today, I’d like to share some things I’ve come to learn about dealing with collective fear and panic. Should you ever find yourself in the path of potential danger, I hope these lessons I’ve learned will be helpful to you.
Lesson 1: Know the difference between YOUR fear and THEIR fear
Many of us are highly intuitive and empathic. This is a gift, as it helps us understand each other quite well!
However, in the face of a “threat,” you will often come to notice that your fear meter can get triggered to a higher-than-usual level, simply by being around groups of fearful people.
For example, in preparing for a hurricane you may find yourself at the grocery story picking up supplies like water and bread.
Circling the store you may notice that your heart-rate and excitement level start to elevate, as you pick up on the fear generated from the collective group around you.
Bearing witness to other people racing around, their concerned faces and fearful voice tones can alert your empathic senses to the anxiety pulsing through the collective.
If we aren’t mindful of this, we can easily take on other people’s fear as our own.
So in situations like these, I’ve found it’s quite helpful for me to stay grounded in public. Perhaps pop in some earbuds with some soothing music or do some slow deep breathing.
Walk slower, rather than faster. Set the pace for being calm rather than getting sucked into the tide of panic.
And if need be, take a break from the public. Sometimes it’s best to remember if the disaster is still off in the distance you have time to relax. Take a nap, meditate or do something fun for a little bit.
Lesson 2: Remember, you only create from the NOW
Here’s another thing that is always very helpful for me to remember: Reality is constructed now, and only now.
When we try to “figure things out” too much we play into our anxieties and worries. This causes our vibrational energy to dip and puts us at risk for more real-time problems like I mentioned above.
If a threat isn’t literally at your doorstep right this very minute, then it hasn’t yet been created to be at your doorstep. Anything can still happen, including a favorable outcome.
By obsessively planning and replanning and discussing your possible strategies at length, you start playing the “worry game.”
So, when a threat appears to be looming, here’s my rule of thumb:
Do what you know you need to do to feel safe in the NOW, and make your decisions based on real-time feedback.
In other words, if it feels like NOW is a good time to stock up and prepare, do it. If it feels like NOW is the time to prepare for an evacuation, do it.
However, if you aren’t sure yet whether or not it is the right time to evacuate, relax. It isn’t time to figure it out then. Give yourself permission to make the decision when it needs to be made.Speculating when you still feel quite uncertain on which route to take will only cause greater anxiety.
Additionally when the moment to decide is NOW, do your best to make your plans based on this important question: “which direction brings me more relief?”